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Playful Mindset?

This thread is meant with the idea of creating a discussion about the possible pros and cons of approaching treatment with a "playful mindset".

-What is a playful mindset?

Recently, I have been consciously approaching discussing treatment of my own and other peoples emotional health issues with a "playful mindset".

Although a good laugh is never prohibited, I do not necessarily mean a discussion about approaching treatment with a jokey comical mindset, but more about feeling our own "playful mindset", and how being able to imagine and consider our own "playful mindset", can help.












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Re: Playful Mindset?

I am always playful. My husband is always telling me that I think everything is a game.
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Re: Playful Mindset?

I try not to take myself too seriously, if I can. I like to laugh, it feels good, and I do a lot of ridiculous things that are laughable. But yeah, there can be times when it's avoidance of feeling what I really feel, not dealing with the situation, i need work in this area. Sometimes I wish i could laugh more at myself, and not be so fearful.
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Re: Playful Mindset?

Do you remember the playful feeling?








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Re: Playful Mindset?

I've definitely noticed that catastrophizing, as well as trying too hard, definitely are counterproductive. The whole point is to be happier, and part of being happy is relaxing and just being. I think the playful approach is definitely valuable at times, too. Have fun with things and not be grimly serious about it, although there is a time to do that too.
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Re: Playful Mindset?

Recently, I have been feeling progress when I think about the feeling of being in the playful mindset, when confronted with problem.

Seems to help counteract counterproductive distresses, created on my part?

During the past week alone, I have avoided several unpleasant discussions (based on many past experiences), that usually ended in counterproductive distresses.







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Re: Playful Mindset?

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approaching treatment with a "playful mindset".
Mental health issues, and the treatments for them, can be a drag. Years of therapy, medications, lifestyle changes (or attempts at lifestyle changes)...not always so much fun.

I have found that a playful mindset can help make it easier to try new things and to stick with some changes in the short term. (Whether it helps sustain those changes in the long term, I'm not convinced yet. But I keep trying.)

For example, sometimes I'm skeptical that something my psychologist suggests will really be helpful. Looking at it as a game, or trying to see it as an interesting experiment, sometimes helps. (The intervention, likewise, sometimes helps and sometimes doesn't.)

There was also a period where I was struggling with clutter. (Or, more honestly, I'm always struggling with clutter -- but this was a period where I was more actively/successfully doing something about it...) It was also around the time of the Summer Olympics. I was watching beach volleyball, and whenever a player scored, the announcer was fond of saying, "...And she puts it awaaaay!" I adopted this as my congratulations to myself for tackling some bit of clutter. "And she puts it awaaaaay!" Although my difficulties in keeping anything organized are very frustrating, livening up my efforts in this way helped keep up my spirits and made me feel slightly heroic.

In an effort to deal with the problem of being slow to wake up and be functional in the morning (before or without meds), I started leaving myself post-it notes with very simple to-dos on the inside of the toilet lid (where I'd see them when I went to pee first thing in the morning). I nicknamed these "Dear John" letters... Playfully involving the toilet in my efforts helped me stumble upon a useful strategy.

Not sure if those examples are what you're thinking of as "playful mindset" or more "jokey/comical" -- for me, they're part and parcel of the same thing.

Long-term, I think accepting my difficulties as part of me has been helped by not taking myself too seriously nor demanding that I maintain a high standard of achievement consistently. Though I am always trying to improve, and often frustrated by the things I still find difficult or impossible, being able to laugh at myself and to experiment and to try unconventional / "silly" approaches makes it easier to stay engaged and not to lose all hope.
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Re: Playful Mindset?

I wonder if we as a society always need to be having fun, to promote the benefits of play?

Example

Building playgrounds sounds like work to me, not play.

The playgrounds play critical roles in human development, etc.






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Re: Playful Mindset?

Institutionalized playful mindsets' (not always fun).








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