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Old 06-02-13, 04:18 PM
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My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

So, my girlfriend has a dog, which I can't stand. I can not concentrate on anything at all with the dog running around. We broke up three weeks ago because of this.

Some days ago we had a talk and I told her more specifically why I can't stand her dog. She wanted me to see someone to talk about it and hopefully resolve the problem, so that I can be in the same room as the dog without my brain entering berserker mode, stressing itself out and eventually just break down.

I agreed on that, and on this condition we are together again, and also, I don't have to see the dog until I feel I can handle it, she leaves it at her parents.

The thing is, I feel I'm only fooling her... I really don't see how talking to someone will change anything. I don't know what to do, I've told her that there's no guarantees it will work, but I feel I should tell her that it probably wont work, but I love her so much I really don't want to see her go. Any ideas?
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Old 06-02-13, 04:28 PM
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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

When you need to focus on something important, can't you just keep the dog out of the room you're in?
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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

Why can't the dog be kept away from you? Are you afraid of the dog because it shows aggression? If it doesn't show aggression can't it be kept in parts of the house you only go in if you have to?
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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

Is the dog badly behaved and in need of training?
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Is the dog badly behaved and in need of training?
Or perhaps some Ritalin.
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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

Exactly what is the reason you have a problem with this dog? Does he scare you or distract you? What does he do?
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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

Yes I'd like to know what the dog is doing wrong too, are you frightened of it or are you one of these people who hates dogs??

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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

Ive avoided dating people because they had a dog before. Ive always been afraid of them because I was bitten between the eyes when I was 5.

Somehow my b/f now has a dog. I got to know him a little before I found out about the dog. Didn't know how to handle it but I met her and she is wonderful. Mind you Ive only seen her for a total of 5 minutes ever. We are never at my boyfriends house.

So Im not exactly sure how this is supposed to work either. Im told the dog sleeps in the bed :/ I have cats and they sleep in the bed...

Let me know how the counseling works.... I may have to join you on that

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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

Your girlfriend thinks this is your problem not the dog's problem.

Is this a normal OK kind of dog and you simply are bothered by dogs in general? If that's the case, you may need to meet someone who doesn't have a dog.
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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

I agree with dvdnvwls on this one!! If the issue lies with you then maybe you need to reassess your relationship....Someone people actually value their companion animal friends more than they value their human friends so be careful where you tread with your complaint...Just sayin'

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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

Maybe its the other way around.lol
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Maybe its the other way around.lol
Which other way around? You may be right, but I want to know what it is you're right about!
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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

Kiddingly the dog thinks the same as the add guy he cant handle the adhd .hope im on same page here dv.
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Re: My girlfriends dog is to much to handle

I will choose my dog over a significant other every single time. If you honestly know that you just cannot handle your girlfriend's dog and you don't want it around, then you need to reevaluate the relationship in general. It's not fair for you to try and make her get rid of her beloved pet just because you don't like it. You haven't explained what the exact issue is with the dog - are you afraid of them? is the dog poorly trained? is it distracting? do you just not like dogs?

Whatever this is, it's a problem you're going to have to deal with because this is her dog, her little furry baby, and if she feels the way about her dog that I do about mine, if you make her choose between the two of you, she's going to choose the dog without hesitation. It sounds like she already has before, and will have no problem doing so again.
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..the lesson to be learned is that .....it is not bright to come between a fur baby and it's momma or daddy .....Keliza is not the only one who would choose her fur child over any one ....I suspect that most pet "owners " ...( but it is really the other way around) .....would bail on humans before giving the critter up ....
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