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Old 01-25-05, 03:54 AM
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Do you feel different from the non-ADD?

Do you feel differnet from non-ADDers? Do you feel like you just think differently and aren't of the same kind? I feel completely outcasted by my friends just because I think that am processing everything differently. But then at other times I feel like theres no way I am ADD, that I am the same as them. Is this a normal feeling..and normal confusion? Do you all think that you are just not the same as your non-ADD friends??
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i feel different everyday man. sometimes I feel like the life of my group of friends, other times i just suck at conversing and feel like the outcast. so, to answer ur question, YES!
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Old 01-25-05, 08:43 AM
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for me in a way that's a hard question to answer......

Yeah I feel different but I think that's how I've always felt and in many ways looked at by family and friends over the years as different, for the good and the bad.......

What I'm trying to say is I know no other way, so is it just me, my family and friends or am I different?......
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I have always felt different from non ADDers, I think it's because I have severe ADD and I just can't think very well through the thick fog.
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I was watching old clips of the tonight show with Johnny Carson, and he had George Gobel(I think thats his name) as a guest. Not specificaly speaking of ADD, he said, do you ever get the feeling the world is a black tuxedo and you are a pair of brown shoes ??? It nearly made me fall off my chair laughing.
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Yes, I feel different. All the time.

How can others manage to keep so organized?
Why is some of that stuff so important? I don't get it.
And...
How do I get to where I want to be, and how do THEY know how to do that?
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We all process information differently. There are no two people who learn exactly alike. So, yes I feel different but it's not a bad feeling. Most days I see ADHD as an advantage and wish the rest of the world would just get with the program, I get so frustrated with people who cannot do more then one thing at a time. It doesn't make them bad people so why should my limits make me a bad person or leave me with feelings of insecurity.
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Do you feel differnet from non-ADDers? Do you feel like you just think differently and aren't of the same kind? I feel completely outcasted by my friends just because I think that am processing everything differently. But then at other times I feel like theres no way I am ADD, that I am the same as them. Is this a normal feeling..and normal confusion? Do you all think that you are just not the same as your non-ADD friends??
Yes it's a normal feeling that you have , as i think everyone does to some point. Even so called ''normal people'' feel outcast sometimes.

My advice , same as Nucking_Futs, i think it's an advantage also to be as i am..And God knows i would never never would want to be ''normal'' YUCK how boring lol.

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I don't know if I feel different cause I dont know what at "normal" person feels like! I have been add all my life, i was not diagnosed till I was 13 or so, but I have had the disorder forever. I dont know how else to feel or think!
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I always feel i am on the outside looking in; that everyone belongs to an exclusive club to which i cannot be admitted; that i was plucked from an alien planet and dropped on earth; that everyone is in on a big joke or secret that i am not privy to.
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Everyone does...

This is in no way meant to trivialize your struggles, because I know exactly how you feel. But I think that everyone to a certain extent, ADD or not, has these feelings.

And it makes sense. We're taught our whole lives that we are unique... no two people are the same... we all have different strengths and weaknesses. We feel different because we are different.

The more I read up on all of this stuff the more I feel alot of it is a matter of perspective. You watch Smallville or a Superman movie and you see Clark Kent lamenting over being different, not being able to totally relate with others. But yet how many of us would not give everything to be superman... to have those super powers... to be *different*.

I think that's why The Matrix was as popular as it was? I think it was because everyone relates with that idea of being different.

So what if we learned to look at our differences as superpowers instead of weaknesses? I'd gladly take the kryptonite condition if it meant I could fly.

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yeah, well, i'd love to be able to twitch my nose and make things appear, dissapear, or clean themselves....that kind of different would be fun. This kind of different is out of the "average" or "norm" - on the fringes of the bell curve.
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The fringes can be fun too...

Yeah, obviously we're never going to have supernatural powers... but perhaps some of the ADD benefits can be as above normal as one can get. For instance the abillity to work exceedingly well under high pressure situations in which most people typically shut down.

I know this girl that's a climbing phenom. She set all these records for rock climbing when she was really young, beating people ten years older than her. At one point she got the opportunity to go to the Nike testing facility where they found that her tendons had a rediculously high level of instant contact strength. As it turned out she was genetically predisposed to be really really good at climbing...

Now, here powers weren't super natural... but they gave her a natural, almost unfair, edge over the competition.

Surely our unique chemistry gives us similar advantages in different areas. We just gotta keep trying enough things till we figure out what it is. (And given our ADD trying enough things shouldn't be that difficult)

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yeah, well, i'd love to be able to twitch my nose and make things appear, dissapear, or clean themselves....that kind of different would be fun. This kind of different is out of the "average" or "norm" - on the fringes of the bell curve.
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In my life, I'm on a stage where a play is being performed. All the other members of the cast seem to know their lines perfectly, and the carry them off smoothly and effortlessly. I've been watching them out of the corner of my eye, trying to figure out just what my lines are, hoping I'll get it before someone figures out that I'm absolutely clueless about the whole thing.
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I like that way of seeing it Swamp Donkey. Thats exaclty how it feels...
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