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Old 04-15-18, 05:32 PM
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I want to get tested for ADHD but I'm scared to ask

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14 y/o male, parents got divorced when I was 4 (didn't affect me at all), dad has ADHD

I'm just gonna start off by telling everyone my story:

Ever since I was little I've always had trouble concentrating, remembering things, sitting still, and keeping my mouth shut, it's really annoying (at the moment I'm supposed to be doing chemistry homework but I once again got distracted and decided to make this post). At one point it got so bad that my mom had to attach a paper to my backpack that said not to forget my homework or any materials in class. When I was maybe around 10 or 11 I started to think about ADHD and that I might have it. I started to do some online research, (e.g. symptoms, online tests, checklists, etc.) And now I'm 14 and I'm almost positive I have it. Some evidence is that: my dad was diagnosed with it as a kid and ADHD can be passed down, I've taken many online tests and all of them have told me that I probably have it, and multiple friends have told me that I probably have it or asked me if I have it (including some of my friends who have been diagnosed with ADHD). Here's where the story gets juicy: earlier this year, I had finally mustered up enough courage to ask my mom if she could get me tested, I started talking to her about it, and she just instantly got mad, started yelling at me, and just overall made me feel really bad about the situation and I just went into my bed and started crying, I felt really bad. My mom never told my dad (who has ADHD) that I asked her about it. I really want to ask my dad because I feel like he will be much more understanding and will actually listen to what I have to say because he has ADHD and he's just overall nicer than my mom. I currently am super scared to ask him because I feel like it'll just end in the same outcome as with my mom and then stuff will just get really awkward between us which I don't want to happen. Someone please help me I don't know what to do.

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Smile Re: I want to get tested for ADHD but I'm scared to ask

Just talk with your dad, if everyone says you have ADHD, the tests say you have ADHD and these are the problems, then yeh it's pretty safe to assume you have ADHD.

Having a person to talk to can be such a great help, he can help you understand and guide you. Doing this early can result in a very succesfull carreer and happy life later. As long as you understand that ADHD is simply that you are absolutely great (if not the best around) in areas that you interest in, but can be absolutely bad in way easier menial things. Focus on the interest and figure out how to make a good living off it.

Every adult with a late ADHD diagnosis wish they would've found out sooner, while still in school and able to guide their hyperfocus. You have that luxury now. Go for a ride with him and talk to him about how to live with it, ask not to tell your mom yet if that helps.
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