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Old 05-22-18, 02:24 AM
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What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

I've changed on these forums. A lot.

I use to be a lot sillier. Now I just seem hyper and annoying. I'm too much too often.

I use to be genuinely funny. Again, now I'm just hyper and annoying most the time.

I was a lot more selfless and loving. Now I've become increasingly self centered.

I use to be cheerful and full of joy and hope...I'm becoming more and more gloom as time goes on.

I use to have more respect. Now certain members straight up ignore me...and I'm halfway convinced I chase some people away from the forums.

What happened to me guys? I miss the old me that use to be here .

Any of you relate to these kinds of feelings?
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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

Has anyone said that you are annoying or disrespectful? I haven't noticed. Yes, there are more sad posts but you've just experienced a huge loss and I'm glad you feel able to share that with us.

You've still got your funny and goofy moments. Maybe you are less loving biut if you are it doesn't show. I still see a lot of affection and support from you.

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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

From what I see you're not annoying or disrespectful but you do apologise too much for things that aren't your fault (like how you feel).

You thank all the posts even the ones that insult you so I don't know if you really like what I've said or just being polite.

From a former people pleaser to another - that pretty much sucks the joy out of everything.

If someone is insulting you, you don't have to engage. People come and people go in this place.

Start here. If you find this post offensive don't hit the thanks button and you'll see everything will still.be okay and I'll still talk to ya
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Nope. I've just been a pain in the *** from the very start.
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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

psycho, you're lovely, you're just going through a bad time is all
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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

You are in a new stage of psychological development and growth.

This too shall pass, but neither resist nor try to hold onto any stage...for they are integral to your well-being, now, and in the future.


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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

You're still silly often to me. Tbh, you do seem to get upset more by other people's posts, many of which I can see why you would get upset but your reaction seems to be greater than before.

It's understandable given everything you've been through. It's good you notice it though. Instead of getting really upset at yourself for feeling this way, just realize it's ok to feel this way though maybe write your heart out but if you see that your heart is angry and heavy, reread what you wrote once calm and edit it if your response seems too harsh. You should still express why the posts upset you I think as all your posts that sounded angry seemed to have reason to me. But maybe write it in a less accusatory way?

That's just my opinion which could be wrong. I agree with aeon also.
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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

i think it's not unusual that people develop and change in ways over the course of several years. i hear you on missing the old you, though. i miss the old me. not just on this forum necessarily...though, yes, that, too.

i used to be a lot more fun. then he died. and nothing was fun for a very long time. and i've been so unwell off and on and hospitalised more times than i care to count... been psychotic even more than hospitalised...and it's changed me, i think. it's made me more susceptible to being unwell all of the time. things used to follow a pattern and now it's just hell. even the hell used to be in a certain order, though. it's just not anymore.

i'm alive because of my small girl. most days, that seems reasonable, but some days it doesn't seem like i'll be able to hold it together until she hits eighteen.

i may never be "my best" again...but hopefully i'll be "good enough" and can accept that. you're going to be different now that she's gone, but different doesn't have to mean worse.

with your posts, i don't find you annoying. for the record. x
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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

What I find annoying is people who worry too much about being annoying.

Not everyone is going to like us all the time.

And it's not our responsibility to "make" everyone like us.

It's okay if someone thinks we're annoying one day, but for the most part like us.

It's okay if someone thinks we're always annoying because there are a lot of
other people who don't agree with that.



I too agree with aeon, you're going through a growth phase.

You know why they're called "growing pains"? Because it sometimes hurts.

But growth is necessary. And usually interesting once you're over the bumps.

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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

You guys are all so wonderful and lovely.

I have changed...I am a bit harder than before, and that does sadden me...
And I think I'm too much sometimes. Too loud or obnoxious or confrontational/rude/upfront.
But I do think Aeon is right in saying I'm going through a growing phase. He's spot on with his observation. There's been a lot of change here in the 3d world I've been actively working on.

I also think it has to do with these forums being as quiet as they are. There's not enough posters right now to drown out my loudness lol. Not sure if that makes sense, but I'm too lazy to further explain it! lol

Anyhow, thank you guys...

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Get out of that bad neighborhood that is your mind.
Yes. I do tend to spend a bit too much time in that neighborhood for my own good.
This statement coming from you made so much sense to me.
And I'll do just as you tell me.

Thank you my friend.


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You thank all the posts even the ones that insult you so I don't know if you really like what I've said or just being polite.
I could TOTALLY stop thanking posts! TOTALLY MAN! TOTALLY! I don't have any issue! Easy I say!
PFFFFFT! Addicted? Don't be silly! I could easily quit thanking anytime I wanted!
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I really should stop posting like 100% of the posts I read. I think it takes away from the point of having a thank button.
But you are right...I thank almost all posts I read. Whether I'm "truly" thankful or not.
It's become habit at this point. And I do it for all sorts of reasons...
Most the time it's genuinely because yeah...I am thankful for the post.
But sometimes I thank posts just to thank them. Or to keep place in a thread.
Or sometimes I do it to try and be polite. Or to show people I like them.
Or maybe I've thanked a bunch of people in a thread...and then someone else posts in that thread, and perhaps it's not a post I'm truly thankful for or something...but then I need to thank it because I don't want them to feel left out! lol Like "Omg, Psychopathetic has thanked everyone else in this thread...but he didn't thank MY post? /sadface).
And sometimes I do it to try and be encouraging to others. To be like "hey there! I appreciate you! ".

I think I'll start re-evaluating how often I leave thanks. But I will say that the vast majority of my thanks are genuine.

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You thank all the posts even the ones that insult you
I can't remember you personally ever insulting me? I can be rather dense and slow though, so you may very well have and it went right over my head.
Or maybe I'm just being insensitive and am not remembering. If so I do apologize .
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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

Since I've grown older, I miss my younger self...even the self from 10 years ago. I was able to cope with things better then. It's as if I'm losing control of my life. What used to be a molehill now seems more like a mountain.
But as for growing phases...I do miss them! Good luck with yours!
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Re: What's happened to me? (thinking out loud)

Something else I thought of... remember way way back when you told me I was intimidating and I think we had an argument about a dog or something? Look at us now! Look at me now! Even since then sobriety has helped me and you and I are a lot closer. How the F did that happen? Well, we were both just ready.. time takes time.



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You guys are all so wonderful and lovely.

I have changed...I am a bit harder than before, and that does sadden me...
And I think I'm too much sometimes. Too loud or obnoxious or confrontational/rude/upfront.
But I do think Aeon is right in saying I'm going through a growing phase. He's spot on with his observation. There's been a lot of change here in the 3d world I've been actively working on.

I also think it has to do with these forums being as quiet as they are. There's not enough posters right now to drown out my loudness lol. Not sure if that makes sense, but I'm too lazy to further explain it! lol

Anyhow, thank you guys...

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Yes. I do tend to spend a bit too much time in that neighborhood for my own good.
This statement coming from you made so much sense to me.
And I'll do just as you tell me.

Thank you my friend.


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I've changed on these forums. A lot.
  • I use to be a lot sillier. Now I just seem hyper and annoying. I'm too much too often.
  • I use to be genuinely funny. Again, now I'm just hyper and annoying most the time.
  • I was a lot more selfless and loving. Now I've become increasingly self centered.
  • I use to be cheerful and full of joy and hope...I'm becoming more and more gloom as time goes on.
  • I use to have more respect. Now certain members straight up ignore me...and I'm halfway convinced I chase some people away from the forums.
  • What happened to me guys? I miss the old me that use to be here .
  • Any of you relate to these kinds of feelings
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Let me generalize...so you're "saying" that you have noticeably changed &/or your perception of you has changed since on the forums?

Have there been any major/key/critical changes in your life during this period that could explain this? All I Got. Anywhoo, glad ur here, Psych. -LN
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