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Old 01-19-17, 03:10 PM
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**** man. What crime? You got your feelings hurt. You weren't attacked. The 30 year old should report it. Preferably to the police.. Who should then take care of it. Physical abuse is a whole other level of being bullied. I said that at the beginning of my post.




You are a lady.

I never said the word ignore. I'm suggesting something entirely different.

Insults are only insulting so long as you are insulted. If you just ignore the
"bully" they'll still know that these actions "hurt" you. It will continue.

Now what I'm suggesting is entirely different.

You're feelings and emotions are not genetically hardwired and you are not required to pay them a single ounce of attention. So don't. Bam, the bully doesn't matter anymore because you now have an indestructible shield of not giving a ****. They hit you physically? Tell someone bigger. Hit him harder.

But fine. You can be sad and sorry for yourself. It doesn't change the fact that you only have two options. Hit them. Make them irrelevant. Any other solution is temporary and you will be bullied again. Maybe not by the same people. But it will happen again.

What you're getting bullied for... It's probably funny. Not to you. But to every one else.. It's usually pretty damn funny.

Weird and stupid things do warrant "bullying". It's not right, every one knows that. But it doesn't change the fact that jokes at others expense are funny. Always. There are no victims to blame. You're not a victim. You're easy prey. So stop being so easy. We all know the "bully" is wrong. But the bully doesn't care. You do. Stop being such a ***** and win. You can't win? Start.

You know what kind of attitude needs to stop? The "I'M THE VICTIM!" attitude. You're not a victim. You're just not good enough. So be better. You're the only reason you're still a victim.

Having social anxiety is much different from being scared of making friends. Anxiety to that degree is a medical condition which is completely different. Being scared of making new friends and having a low self esteem is not. If you don't make friends it's your fault.

If you have such sever anxiety you probably shouldn't be involved in socially heavy activities until you're ready for it anyways. In which case it's still your decision and any bullying or harassment is directly up to you to deal with. There's no other way. No one will hold your hand. Who could?

People think you're weird and they just don't "understand" you?
Come on? So they're just supposed to immediately understand everything about you without any sort of explanation as to "who" you really are?



You're not a victim of a crime. You just suck. So stop sucking. Or is that something you cant help either? If it is.

Have fun being sorry for yourself.
Peoples, we have an example of a bully! right here! in the thread dedicated to talking about bullying! here to show us that our feelings don't matter because me collapsing sobbing in the middle of school is absolutely HILARIOUS. Therefore i "just suck". What would we have done without you, oh great Wango Mango?
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I was bullied once in the school when I was in senior high. It's hard to deal with it but I just decided to be neutral and calm whenever someone is bullying me which made them think that I am a strong person.
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Being bullied in school is one of the hardest things for kids or even teens this days. Glad you posted something about it to help prevent or to help kids be aware of this issue.
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Old 07-13-18, 04:25 AM
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Being bullied in school is one of the hardest things for kids or even teens this days. Glad you posted something about it to help prevent or to help kids be aware of this issue.
I couldn't agree more. That's the very reason why I will always monitor my kids at school.
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Old 07-16-18, 01:25 AM
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I couldn't agree more. That's the very reason why I will always monitor my kids at school.
Me too I regularly check my kids if their doing good at school.
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Old 07-17-18, 04:16 AM
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Me too I regularly check my kids if their doing good at school.
Yeah, Because this time bullying is very common in schools.
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Re: Bullies

Well, I was bullied in some form or another throughout school. The extent of it also waxed and waned, escalating to its zenith in 9th & 10th grade. It never really goes away, and is so easily triggered by authority figures. It's had a profound impact on my life. Most of it I would say was due to ADD and eye hand coordination issues affecting my athletic ability. And yes, there is nothing worse than when a teacher sanctions it either by doing/saying nothing, facial expressions, or verbal comments
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Old 07-22-18, 10:33 PM
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Yeah, Because this time bullying is very common in schools.
Do you still have any other tips in monitoring your children at school?
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Old 07-25-18, 03:06 AM
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Do you still have any other tips in monitoring your children at school?
Yeah! I always keep my eye on my kids. They have a tracker with them so that I can easily track their location.
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Yeah! I always keep my eye on my kids. They have a tracker with them so that I can easily track their location.
Wow! That's a great idea! May I know what tracker do you use?
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Re: Bullies

I've had that bullies but they only have as much power as we think they do if we complied with them.there no easy solutions to this ...each person see it different but l in the end we rise beyond them dorm
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Wow! That's a great idea! May I know what tracker do you use?
I use Trackimo for my kids. It's great because it really gives me a real time update and it can also be tracked via web or mobile.
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I was bullied once in the school when I was in senior high. It's hard to deal with it but I just decided to be neutral and calm whenever someone is bullying me which made them think that I am a strong person.
And being bullied can actually end up making you a strong person.
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