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Old 03-16-08, 01:23 AM
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"support" or "condolences" button in addition to "thanks"

... because often times I read a post about a rant or a really bad experience/day/life, etc., and I want to show support or something, but can't really think of anything to say....
Or even a "hug" button, but i guess that might be too sappy for some

Just a thought.

I really like the new "thanks" button feature, btw.
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I thought that would be great too!
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Re: "support" or "condolences" button in addition to "thanks"

Good Idea! Then you wouldn't risk offending anyone...or there would be no misinterpretation...hug=hug and support=support! I like it!
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Re: "support" or "condolences" button in addition to "thanks"

I'm not sure .. although it is an attractive idea, I am having second thoughts about a Support or Hug or Condolences button .. maybe because I feel that these things are a bit more complex than just a 'thank you - that was helpful'.

Thinking from the 'receiving side' .. what would it be like if I was going through something really hard and got some 'condolence' button presses .. I just don't know. Maybe a word from someone would mean more in a case like this, even if it is way harder to formulate for the giver and I would end up with a lot less 'condolences'. But is that bad?

Same with hugs. If someone touches me .. and that happens often in here, I want to say something. And that's hard to do, because well, emotions tend to be awfully hard to express when I am experiencing them. In real life giving a hug is easy .. at least, I find it easy.
So I sit there with my head full of thoughts and emotions and (meta-)thoughts about that, maybe even be tearful .. and dont know what to say. Sit there with that editor open and type a line ... delete it again. Maybe I end up not posting at all, and often a simple line is all I get in there .. but I would really rather give someone a couple of words .. or even a

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But I like it that is takes an effort. Wouldn't 'buttonizing' emotions make them too easy - maybe more shallow somehow?
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Re: "support" or "condolences" button in addition to "thanks"

thats a great idea just a weirdo.
also dont know what to say sometimes.
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Re: "support" or "condolences" button in addition to "thanks"

I totally hear you Luthien and normally I would agree, but once or twice I have chosen to show support with my own words and it made things worse!
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Re: "support" or "condolences" button in addition to "thanks"

sometimes the simplest words help the most. However, just think of how cluttered the ends of posts could be if we have "i support you" buttons, "my condolences" buttons and the already there "thank you" buttons.

That would be a lot more distractions.

on a personal note, if I was going through something rough, i'd want more than a "my condolences" button - i'd want something more personal. All a person would have to do is say something like "i'm sorry for your loss."

on a moderator note:
it is a good idea, however, if we keep adding buttons for people to press (so that message ends up at the bottom of there post) . that could be very distracting (button-wise and message-wise)

The reason why "thank you" was added is to eliminate the one post "thank you" notes.
We don't want to eliminate supportive comments (since we are a support forum), which is what could happen if we add in a "i'm sorry/my condolences" and/or an "i support you" button.
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Re: "support" or "condolences" button in addition to "thanks"

I understand where you guys are coming from, luthien and livingchaos. I had those doubts in the back of my mind about it, too. Esp. regarding the distractions.
It was just a random idea :-)

Although, I was thinking/hoping that, in most cases, it would be used by who wouldn't otherwise say anything, and therefore add to the original poster's awareness of how many people care (enough to at least push the "support" button).
But of course, the worst case scenario is that people would get lazy.
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sorry - just had to play with the idea ...
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Re: "support" or "condolences" button in addition to "thanks"

lol...all that's missing is the ignition button!
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lol, thanks .. but it's not programming, just playing with The Gimp
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how about a button that just says i support you. no hugs that way its not invasive in any way.
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I'm not sure .. although it is an attractive idea, I am having second thoughts about a Support or Hug or Condolences button .. maybe because I feel that these things are a bit more complex than just a 'thank you - that was helpful'.

Thinking from the 'receiving side' .. what would it be like if I was going through something really hard and got some 'condolence' button presses .. I just don't know. Maybe a word from someone would mean more in a case like this, even if it is way harder to formulate for the giver and I would end up with a lot less 'condolences'. But is that bad?

Same with hugs. If someone touches me .. and that happens often in here, I want to say something. And that's hard to do, because well, emotions tend to be awfully hard to express when I am experiencing them. In real life giving a hug is easy .. at least, I find it easy.
So I sit there with my head full of thoughts and emotions and (meta-)thoughts about that, maybe even be tearful .. and dont know what to say. Sit there with that editor open and type a line ... delete it again. Maybe I end up not posting at all, and often a simple line is all I get in there .. but I would really rather give someone a couple of words .. or even a

or a

But I like it that is takes an effort. Wouldn't 'buttonizing' emotions make them too easy - maybe more shallow somehow?
I agree. Whether someone is venting or feeling down a few words would do more good surely? I tent to just acknowledge a vent with a little sympathy and not much comment. I don't see anything wrong with that. I can always come back and comment more positively later. Also I’m just paranoid enough to imagine, if no one comments after I have vented, that I have upset someone.
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