How to de-stress / relax in the moment?

[Vrantic]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

I think deep breathing helps. I know that it seems to be the go-to when people talk about stress but its not so much about focusing on your breathing as it is flooding your body with oxygen which does help you calm down.

I agrree with sarah, take a step back for just a second and try to observ the whole scene. Try ask yourself IF its really worth to be angry about that.


Sometimes meds can raise aggression potential, that what i suffer from vyvanse, not a lot but significant enough.


I can tell you one case of my former behavior if it helps you, mentioned the tipp above:


While driving, many people including my self getting really angry in no time. Today everyone seems to be choleric on the streets. I dont know why but there was a moment like this when i start asking myself: Is it really worth to outrage about this stupid car driver? Why wasting so much energy for that? 5 mins later the next jerk appears and i will rage again. And again. So if i stop now then i dont need to rage again.

And thats what made my driving aggression go really down. Sometimes i get angry a bit but not really much, most of the time im not even swearing anymore.


You could use this situation to convert it in many situations of your life and try if it helps you. I hope i could help you a bit.


And there also other things like:
- Leave the scene and take a moment for yourself
- Music


If you really suffer that much maybe you could find out if you are cholerical. Ask your doc for that. Maybe theres some medical and behaviour treatments.

[Daniel1970]

Originally Posted by Fuzzy12

I did actually think of you and the 10% app when I realised I needed something to help me relax. I'll definitely check it out. Thanks.

Another cool app I've found that's actually geared towards women is "Happy Not Perfect". I like it too. It has this neat "Morning Refresh" ritual that gets you started on your day the right way, which is free. Some of the content you have to pay for (which I haven't done yet) but the free content is pretty cool! It's a little different than 10% happier, in that it's really focused on generating positive "good vibe" feelings.

Daniel

[acdc01]

Originally Posted by Fuzzy12

I guess though maybe if I took an SSRI it might help with the short bursts as well. I did wonders for anxiety when I used to take them.

The last time round when I used to take stimulants that too helped massively with these short stress bursts. I'm not sure it does now because sometimes too irregular in taking the meds.

If they worked well in the past, they sound like a winner to me. I think a lot of the ideas here are fantastic but honestly, you've been sounding down enough that I don't think all the other ideas combined will be strong enough without medication.


I do think you can get yourself to take pills regularly too using some of the ideas others suggested before.

[namazu]

Originally Posted by Fuzzy12

I'm sorry. I don't understand how you mean transit. I'm assuming you don't mean transit with respect to air travel?

Mass transportation -- buses, trains, etc.

[Fuzzy12]

Originally Posted by namazu

Mass transportation -- buses, trains, etc.

Oh ok. The public transportion in my town isn't very good. I used to get quite frustrated with it too. Funnily enough m mum told me just today out of the blue that I get angry so quickly.all.tje time. She thinks it's the meds. I think it might be because I don't take them regularly..today again I just managed to take one.dose. once upon a time when I was younger I was actually known for being super laid back and easy going. Sigh..in the good old days...

[Fuzzy12]

Originally Posted by acdc01

If they worked well in the past, they sound like a winner to me. I think a lot of the ideas here are fantastic but honestly, you've been sounding down enough that I don't think all the other ideas combined will be strong enough without medication.


I do think you can get yourself to take pills regularly too using some of the ideas others suggested before.

They worked well for anxiety but not depression. The either made me hypomanic or super depressed. Actually they all gave me really bad mood swings.

[SashaBV]

Is there a transit app? Is that what you use?

[Little Missy]

Originally Posted by Fuzzy12

Oh ok. The public transportion in my town isn't very good. I used to get quite frustrated with it too. Funnily enough m mum told me just today out of the blue that I get angry so quickly.all.tje time. She thinks it's the meds. I think it might be because I don't take them regularly..today again I just managed to take one.dose. once upon a time when I was younger I was actually known for being super laid back and easy going. Sigh..in the good old days...

wellll..I believe that is all beginnings, middlings or last ofs, of menopause. maybe.