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Old 09-10-16, 04:15 AM
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Re: I really don't understand men

....I cheated on my husband ...but he treated me like s*** ......I was desperate to be valued for myself .....of course ...I ended up with a paranoid sczisophrenic ....( or however you spell that .....srsly, I met a psychiatrist, and described the guys behavior, and she said run do not walk away from this guy ....he's seriously damaged ....oops .....

....not my proudest time of life .....

...Since I was bound and determined to be a great photographer, I did not let myself fall for any of the good guys, I made sure to fall for the ones I couldn't take home to meet the parental units, or who I knew wasn't into settling down ....I didn't want to settle down .....

.....I've been with some jerks, some really wonderful men, some very damaged ....and a few who actually had their head screwed on straight ....


...The trick is to keep centered in yourself .....my sisters value to herself, depended on how valuable her men treated her ....used to drive me crazy ....she one one of the finest people to ever walk the earth, I loved her dearly, and thought she hung the moon....and when some jerk off would treat her badly, and she would go into a tailspin, it would infuriate me ....the only thing that prevented me from going after the jerkoffs was I knew it would hurt her ...no matter what anyone else would say to her, ....only that a** h**** view mattered to her .....


.....when someone plays those kinds of games ....get yourself away from them as soon as you figure out that's what they are ....( I said what instead of who, cause I don't give them the courtesy of granting them humanity ....)

...Having reached the grand old age of 66, I find I have less and less time for people I don't deem worthy .....fooey on them ....and the horse they rode in on .....

..I'm into nice people ....when young ...being called nice is the kiss of death ....as you add up time spent on the planet, and around humans ....you begin to realize how special that nice people really are ....
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Re: I really don't understand men

I don't understand men either... and I am a men.

But I should be fair, I don't understand women either...

I think I get those with absolutely no gender-identity... that makes sense to me.
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That makes sense, and thank you for that information. And to the degree merited, you have my apology.

I often take things literally, even when there are clear signs not to. I’m not on the autism spectrum (I don’t think, anyway), but I do have this weird blindness to sarcasm, both typed and spoken dryly. I’m not sure why.


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I grew up around sarcasm so to me it just sounds like the way people normally talk.
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Re: I really don't understand men

I really don't even understand myself, never mind men & women.
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Re: I really don't understand men

I can't say I understand men except to say they're a lot like women. They like affection and pampering and want admiration. The jerk you're talking about treats all people like vrap is my guess and treats himself no better. You can't fix that so you gotta slam the door. Closing it quietly to him means.. Later.

You know this.. Be confident in your own knowing. You'll do ok.
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Re: I really don't understand men

What the hound said.

And ginniebean.

Your ex is a major jerk and not someone you should send time and effort trying to understand. Not all men are like that.
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What the hound said.

And ginniebean.

Your ex is a major jerk and not someone you should send time and effort trying to understand. Not all men are like that.
It just seems like all the men round here are the same, either they already married (in which case I don't even go there!) or they behave like my ex did (or they seem to think that women are inferior beings - stuck in the 1950s type mentality) or they're completely rigid about what they want a partner to look like and won't budge an inch (like wanting a supermodel who is thin with this and that body shape, this hair colour, that eye colour etc etc)
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Hmmm, lots of triggers to avoid.
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Maybe it's not the men round here, maybe there's something wrong with me instead of them, idk.
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I highly doubt it's you but what do you think.it might be about you if there was anything?
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I highly doubt it's you but what do you think.it might be about you if there was anything?
idk maybe the fact I don't look like a model?

Or maybe it's cause I'm constantly covered in cat hair and I don't care cause I adore my girls?
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idk maybe the fact I don't look like a model?

Or maybe it's cause I'm constantly covered in cat hair and I don't care cause I adore my girls?
Even models don't look like models in real life I suppose....

None of the things you mentioned are anything negative so it's not you.

Just keep looking. There are nice guys out there. It just takes time to find someone with whom you click.

An animal lover is surely a must. Are there any clubs around where you live? Is there anything like pet clubs or cat clubs even?

Maybe even just online forums where you csn get to know like minded people.
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Even models don't look like models in real life I suppose....

None of the things you mentioned are anything negative so it's not you.

Just keep looking. There are nice guys out there. It just takes time to find someone with whom you click.

An animal lover is surely a must. Are there any clubs around where you live? Is there anything like pet clubs or cat clubs even?

Maybe even just online forums where you csn get to know like minded people.
nope there's nothing round here and this is the only forum I feel comfortable on (my ex has in the past stalked me on other animal forums and dating sites)
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nope there's nothing round here and this is the only forum I feel comfortable on (my ex has in the past stalked me on other animal forums and dating sites)


No wonder you are a bit wary of men after that ex.

Seriously though there are nice guys out there. I hope you'll come across one of them sooner rather than later.

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Re: I really don't understand men

Both men and women want to be loved, respected, known intimately, and desired.

It’s only more complicated than that because we make it so, unnecessarily*.

Be yourself, be open to receive someone, don’t judge, and go ask someone to lunch.

You’ll never know what could happen, my friends, you just could never know...until you do it.


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* OK, that’s a bit of a generalization, but not a sweeping one.
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