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Old 08-23-11, 08:32 AM
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

Honestly, I don't have the patience, even with Adderall in my system, to read through all the posts carefully.

As for online dating: I know two couples who met that way and are now happily married. So don't discount it entirely. The trick is to join an online dating site that meshes with your interests and personality. I.e., a generic date site that has thousands and thousands of good looking, athletic, attractive, funny, interesting, creative people who like to read a good book and like pina coladas and gettin' caught in the rain isn't going to be much help.

But if you are interested in a specific community then you are more likely to find a mate. E.g. a site for particular religious faiths, or for tall people, or for people who are interested in financial investments, etc.

I met my wife at a party, I was invited by a mutual friend, there were no presuppositions. He said, 'Let's go to this party.' I said, 'O.k.'

And just like finding a new job: Network, network, network.
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Old 08-23-11, 01:42 PM
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Holy moly, Red, your way is complicated. I guess this I why I don't tend to pick up guys in bars or whatever.

Actually it's not complicated. While my description was detailed, it basically boils down to: You look at each other, you make eye contact, you smile, you come over and you talk.

I don't meet people at bars or clubs either. I'm more of a random encounter at a book store or event kinda girl :-)
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then again i dont know any blues or jazz, but even saying i play sax has never raised any girl's eyes at all.
You don't tell her that you speak the language of love, you show her.
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

*nods* lots of guys claim that they can do all sorts of things; climb mountains, tame lions, play the sax. You gotta show it for realz.
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

I can climb a mountain while riding atop a lion that I tamed and then trained to play the sax.

I actually prefer to not tell people any of my talents. That way, whenever they see me do something incredible, it's new and exciting for them
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

well if i get an opportunity to show a girl the language of love i'll be sure to.
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

I found my wife on Match.com. I was in the same boat and was terrible at meeting girls at random. It sounds terrible (and great), but it was kind of like online shopping -match.com that is. I had a lot of fun with it. You can have a date a night of you want, but that can get expensive. I went on ~2-3 dates a week for 6 months and had a blast. Prior to think period in my life (at age 30) I had dated very seldomly- less than 10 times. It was nerve wracking everytime but exciting & fun as well. Even if I didn't think the other person was "date worthy", I would still go for the practice. Nothing sexual ever occured (that wasn't my intent), just good (and sometimes bad) conversation. I went on 1 date with my -now- wife and cancelled my account the next morning. It's corny, but I knew about 1/2 way through the date that I was going to marry her. We've been married for ~2 years now and have a beautiful 8 month old daughter. Good luck!
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Actually it's not complicated. While my description was detailed, it basically boils down to: You look at each other, you make eye contact, you smile, you come over and you talk.
I guess maybe more "scary" than complicated, then. If men I've never met talk to me, or even smile at me, I usually think there's something wrong with them. And that they're probably serial killers.

Blame it on too much "stranger danger" education. I know I'm more likely to be assaulted by someone I know, but I don't trust strangers.

"He's cute and he's looking at me. He's inSANE!! Run away!!".
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*nods* lots of guys claim that they can do all sorts of things; climb mountains, tame lions, play the sax. You gotta show it for realz.
We can............in our heads.


As best as you can, you need to be yourself. It's not any easy task when you're trying to impress someone, which seems to be consistent with nature. But, when you are yourself, you're letting out the real you. You know for sure that the person is into you and not a flowery persona meant to impress. It takes a decent sense of security and CAN be learned.
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You should ask 'nevermore'.
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You should ask 'nevermore'.
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You should ask 'nevermore'.

Touche, but I thought it was flashmore.
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"whats that scent your wearing " or whats your favorite flower. Steer clear of cheesy lines.
Are you serious?? lol..
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