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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

A lot of good looking people in this community so its definatly all a mind game.
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as all things are . Play the game and win. Machiavelli and it works too. Just read about it.
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as all things are . Play the game and win. Machiavelli and it works too. Just read about it.
I read Machiavelli..... no way im going to kill my best friend to become king and take his wife. Id rather roleplay or fantasize that stuff lol.
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Well use all the information as a guide then. Machiavelli from what I gather chose friends based on positioning . So by all means keep reading and draw the best analagy for today. If you like your friend , let him live. Ha ha ha ha. lol
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

sort of with what The Chemicals said, there's plenty of good looking/what girls call hot and sexy guys who are single, like alot of actors or celebrities. i forget your first post and am too lazy to interrupt my post right now, but if your problem is getting a girlfriend now then dont worry if youve had girlfriends in years past, or at least lost your virginity. if you want a first girlfriend with no previous women in your life, still never fear because there's a girl out there for you, you either dont know it yet or you just havnt met her yet.

although the factor i can control but have a hard time doing so for me is the social aspect of being attractive.
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

they should set up a dating site for add/adhd people.... that being said perhaps start to get yourself out there a bit more, start going to parties, maybe join a sports team,gym, hobby class, youll soon meet people with similar interests and if your an available good-looker it wont take long for the interest to start building
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Are you married Florence,you seem to know what your talking about.
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What do you mean by superficial?
I mean superficial.

Surface stuff, shallow, etc.

Obviously everyone has certain things that they are physically attracted to, but if you are sitting around with a "No Fat Chicks" t-shirt on over your 400lb frame, hoping that Mom is going to call downstairs and tell you that Megan Fox wants to get naked with you, you are deluding yourself.

Some people are superficial. They have no depth, their only concerns are with physical appearance and things like wealth and power.

If you are looking for a woman who has manicured toenails and a brazilian wax, you had better be equivalently "groomed".

If you are judging women based on a "1-10 scale," you had better be a "10" yourself.

If you want someone who looks good draped over a Ferrari, you had better not be riding the bus.

On the other hand, women who have more going on in their lives than spas and shopping are more likely to be interested in a guy for his real qualities as well. And they will be more forgiving of things like a lack of impressive material possessions or a tendency to wear elastic-waisted pants.

Someone like RHW, for example, is a hottie who dresses in her own unique style, and won't be likely to be impressed by a guy just because he throws money around or picks her up in a fancy car.

Neither would she be likely to put up with someone telling her that she should get a boob job, or to dress differently, or that she shouldn't eat pizza because it might make her gain weight.

Go on singles websites, and you will find hundreds of single men who look like trolls and have no money and are looking for a supermodel/maid/hooker.

First of all, that's not a real relationship. Second of all, if you want a supermodel/maid/hooker, you had better have the billionaire bank account to pay for her.
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

Lol no im not married...i have a boyfriend who has been putting up with my adhd madness for nearly 5 years now lol......i think i get away with it by giving him the cute face
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Peche you were right on the ball there with that post..
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Re: I am a good looking guy and still have no girlfriend

That post made me laugh pechi good thing I wasnt eating anything.
I was hoping it would say mom was calling down the basement to come up for dinner and then it said to see megan fox naked. that had me rolling and made my nitestll laughing.
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Obviously everyone has certain things that they are physically attracted to, but if you are sitting around with a "No Fat Chicks" t-shirt on over your 400lb frame, hoping that Mom is going to call downstairs and tell you that Megan Fox wants to get naked with you, you are deluding yourself.
If Megan Fox wanted to get naked with me, I would respectfully tell her she's not my type.

Seriously though, I've seen fat guys(not 400 lbs obviously, he probably wouldn't be able to leave his house) with slim, fit etc women because looks aren't a top priority for women.

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Some people are superficial. They have no depth, their only concerns are with physical appearance and things like wealth and power.
If a man is only concerned with physical appearance or a woman's only concern is a man's wealth then yes, that is superficial.

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If you are looking for a woman who has manicured toenails and a brazilian wax, you had better be equivalently "groomed".
I avoid those types of women.

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If you are judging women based on a "1-10 scale," you had better be a "10" yourself.
I think that scale is usually based on looks alone. If so, I would say most "10's" don't make good wives.



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Neither would she be likely to put up with someone telling her that she should get a boob job, or to dress differently, or that she shouldn't eat pizza because it might make her gain weight.
A lot of men don't like fake breasts and from what I've heard, it's not healthy for a baby when breastfeeding. It's kind of ironic though, since women think this will make them more attractive to men.

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Go on singles websites, and you will find hundreds of single men who look like trolls and have no money and are looking for a supermodel/maid/hooker.

First of all, that's not a real relationship. Second of all, if you want a supermodel/maid/hooker, you had better have the billionaire bank account to pay for her.
Lol well those are three different things. Plus, one doesn't even have to be rich to afford a hooker.
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Maybe women are intimidated by your good looks.
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Seriously though, I've seen fat guys(not 400 lbs obviously, he probably wouldn't be able to leave his house) with slim, fit etc women because looks aren't a top priority for women.
I've also seen the reverse, albeit in smaller numbers.


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I think that scale is usually based on looks alone. If so, I would say most "10's" don't make good wives.
I think looks are quite irrelevant to what makes a good mother as they come in all shapes and sizes, and obviously, no two people have the same conception around what makes a good wife and often have their conceptions change dramatically with experience and maturity.


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A lot of men don't like fake breasts and from what I've heard, it's not healthy for a baby when breastfeeding. It's kind of ironic though, since women think this will make them more attractive to men.
Many women have breast augmentation to feel better about themselves, not to be more attractive to men, just as they will often dress in a certain way to feel better or more confident about themselves.

It seems to me that your preconceptions about women are sometimes off the mark and will certainly narrow the field when looking for a mate, and might lead you to miss that 'right one'. I also sense something about a 'chip on the shoulder' when it comes to dating/women which can be quite a hindrance. The less baggage we carry into dating the more fun of an experience it will be, and the more likely a permanent match be found.
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I honestly think that the best way to meet someone is to get out and do the things that you enjoy in a social setting. If you like reading, join a book club. If you like working out, join a gym, etc., etc.. You will find people who share your interests.

Women in general find men who have interests and social lives more attractive than men who stay at home and go online on dating sites.

Unless, of course, you're a computer geek, in which case the woman you want is online!

The important thing is that you have things going on in your life apart from the search for a girlfriend.

Also, not to be mean, but I have seen some alarmingly ugly people who appear to be in very happy relationships. So I doubt it has anything to do with the way you look. I think you might want to analyse more the way that you act around women. The best-looking guy who is creepy or weird will get nowhere with anyone but the desperate or unsober, in which case he may as well be ugly.

That's just MHO.
I agree 100%! In fact, I think that even if you do end up meeting somebody via the internet, it's much more natural if you do so as an unplanned result of being active at a common-interest areas, much the way you would via social activities "in real life," rather than seeking it out on a dating site.

I've never looked for or been open to a romantic online relationship, since I have been in a relationship since before I ever started doing much online socializing, but I've met some of my dearest and best friends there, and relationships that start off as friendships are definitely the ideal!
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