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Old 07-02-12, 01:21 AM
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

Everyone likes something different. In college, my friend liked skinny guys with long hair who play guitars and smoke pot and wear Jesus sandals and are into artsy stuff. They had some kinda soul connection I guess.

I liked a guy who was bigger than me, it made me feel safe and protected. Ive always been a sucker for brown eyes too, deep brown chocolatey eyes i can fall into *swoon*.

If they had a tattoo and maybe were suffering from some kind of "inner pain" I was drawn to them like a moth to a flame, too. "Ooooh mommys here to fix your problems! I know you have a felony, but somewhere, deep inside, there's a good guy waiting to get out, and I will make you pies until I fix you!"

Despite this, my husband has green eyes, has no inner pain or felonies other than a DUI in high school, and looks pretty much exactly like Jack Black.

There's someone for everyone. And sometimes, the guy that makes you weak in the knees isnt the one who steals your heart.

Why sell yourself short? If they don't like you for YOU, they arent worth your time!
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

Crystal asked a good question. From what I've read, you can't expect any possible more support. 10 pages dedicated to you. I hope that warms you up a bit. Are you expecting different advice ? Or just support and encouragement ? Or just a listening ear ?
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

That was not supposed to be offensive or provocative. What I meant is you have a lot of support, 10 pages, and I don't see how you could get even more. I mean this in the most kind way possible =)
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

I didn't mean it in a rude way either. There is some stellar advice here, and the OP has dismissed every piece of it. So, its a relevant question.
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I confess I would write a guy off for living with his parents. I also tend to write off guys who complain about not being able to get women.
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I confess I would write a guy off for living with his parents. I also tend to write off guys who complain about not being able to get women.
Especially guys who blame all women for their inability to get a woman.
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

My best friend said she looks for the three "tions" in a guy (not positive about occupation):
  1. transportation
  2. occupation
  3. education

She said she discussed this with her friends, and I know it's not just her. I don't there's anything wrong with what she wants either.
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My best friend said she looks for the three "tions" in a guy (not positive about occupation):
  1. transportation
  2. occupation
  3. education
She said she discussed this with her friends, and I know it's not just her. I don't there's anything wrong with what she wants either.
I can understand to an extent education (in thes sense of being educated about similar interests) but transportation and occupation?

I suppose transportation means owning your own car ( rather than knowing the bus schedule for your town...). Why can't she provide her own transportation?

How does occupation matter? Sometimes it's interesting to work in similar fields but that is usually covered by education.

I don't like women who expect a man to provide for them just because of their gender. I think a relationship should be symbiotic and people shouldn't expect to get more out of it than they are willing to put in.

Just as men shouldn't expect that women will hook up with them just because they are male.
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I can understand to an extent education (in thes sense of being educated about similar interests) but transportation and occupation?

I suppose transportation means owning your own car ( rather than knowing the bus schedule for your town...). Why can't she provide her own transportation?

How does occupation matter? Sometimes it's interesting to work in similar fields but that is usually covered by education.

I don't like women who expect a man to provide for them just because of their gender. I think a relationship should be symbiotic.
She doesn't expect for a man to provide for her, but she expects that bills be shared. She doesn't need a guy to help her with transportation. Her car is reliable. She wants a guy to have a job too.
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

You could always get a pet.
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

it would depend on why living with parents....my favorite person ever had to return home at age 37.

men who lack self confidence and work to compensate for that by treating other people like ****....men who prioritize obtaining "things" or "status"...who ...those who lack compassion for others...who think the measure of a person is what you accumulate/take in the world instead of what you give to it...who see people as means (extrinsic value) and not as ends (intrinsic value)...someone without faith in me...even when i **** up... yeah...those men have never been successful with me. character...as well as someone who enjoys me...that's what's important
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

We need to give the original poster solutions/ideas, not reasons "why" and personal experiences. Lets not delve into the male pysche.

So yeh, go to a bar and order one drink and nurse it all night. Let everyone else get drunk and just wait. Eventually a girl will ask you something when she is wasted beyond all her insecurities.
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Ive consolidated all my advice so you can be successful. If you want something you have to do all you can to get it and while you wait for it...skim all the alternative options.

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You can improve your chances by 50% if you go gay. 50% is alot.
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Yeh because the world has something 51% women and 49% men. So if youre only looking for females thats 51% but if your looking for men and women thats 100%.

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Proximity is key when you dont go out alot. Office romance is a good thing. Almost all my relationships have been with people that work in the same place as me. I trust them more i suppose. I have 2 ex's at my job and we have no bad blood.I suppose it depends on the person. Im not very mushy or jealous so i can just move on.
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I stand by office romance. The professional ethics and rulesbooks might say its wrong but we are just human beings at the end of the day and the people we spend a large portion of our lives with are the ones we works with.
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Its just low self esteem. Go hook up with some escorts and get it out of your system.
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Erone has their own style. Be careful whose advise you try to apply. It might not become you.
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Noone should ever know that your staying with your parents. Fake it till ya make it.
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Just think of women like lil itty bitty rabbits and your a big strong bear that wants to just pounce that bunny.
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Just think of women as dudes with boobs and youll be alright.
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Just speed date online on all the the relationship sites and call your profile "Idonotlivewithmyparents"
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If all else fails,they make silicone dolls for men who are not successful with women nowadays. They are very popular for men in alaska.

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Im a guy, and i dont hang out with my guy friends that still live with there parents. Its just weaksauce.
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Re: Today I realized that I will never be successful with women. In other words...

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Crystal asked a good question. From what I've read, you can't expect any possible more support. 10 pages dedicated to you. I hope that warms you up a bit. Are you expecting different advice ? Or just support and encouragement ? Or just a listening ear ?
Some of the advice is sound but it's been what, like a week since I asked this question and my life still hasn't changed.

no women, nothing.

I don't even know how to tell an indicator of interest, and for some reason our culture forbids women from approaching guys. or maybe they approach guys, but only the handsome ones.

until I find a way to find that pool of women from which at least one compatible woman will emerge, I won't feel satisfied with any of the advice
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