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Old 08-27-05, 10:25 PM
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I'll ask her tomorrow...and post an update...if I remember to. I'm bad at remembering things sometimes.
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and as soon as girls are involved, I freak out and forget EVERYTHING.
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Old 08-28-05, 11:05 PM
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She has to be working for this to work. I suck I should have done it the second time we talked...but I'm shy when it comes to girls and strangers. I suck at talking to girls. You'd think I'd be much better at it at 22.
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Old 08-28-05, 11:48 PM
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She has to be working for this to work. I suck I should have done it the second time we talked...but I'm shy when it comes to girls and strangers. I suck at talking to girls. You'd think I'd be much better at it at 22.
You'd be much better at it if you first stop telling yourself you suck at it.
You may have made mistakes in the past as many of us do but that does not define who you are or how you will respond in the future unless you constantly remind yourself of mistakes and failure.

Also, think about it this way, maybe some girls like guys who are honest about being nervous and shy about talking to them. If you weren't nervous or shy about it you might only be after one thing. A "bull in heat" isn't shy about tearing up the pasture....and there are a lot of those kind of guys out there. (Sorry, I had a Dr. Phil moment! )

You might just end up being a refreshing change of pace.

When the time comes that you can talk to her just write down 3 to 5 key words on a piece of paper that you want to get your brain to remember and say. Keep the paper with you...
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to bad you can't club them over the head
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to bad you can't club them over the head
Ya, I could see that as being easier. Silly laws....

I dunno, I'm just worried she'll have forgotten about me by now, and that I missed my window of opportunity, ya know? Is there such a thing as a window of opportunity? If so, i hope it's wide

McCoffee how's the dog park girl?
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Old 08-29-05, 09:34 AM
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dog park girl left where to not sure i think she went back to law school in vermount
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So...I completely BLEW IT.

Me: "what's your fav ice cream?"

Her: "cappucino"

Me: "oh I haven't tried that"

Her: "Have a sample"

Me "oh I like it, can I have a scoop of cappucino and a scoop of lemon gelato?"

Her: "would you like that in a cup or a cone"

Me: "I'll take the lemon gelato in a cup, and you can have the cappucino in whichever one you like more"

Her: "I'm not really hungry, I'm kinda sick of the food here"

Me: "Oh, uh, I'll still have that scoop of cappucino"

Her: "Lemon and cappucino...that's a weird combo"

Me: "yaaaaa...it kinda is...but I like it"

Ya...wow....so I'm not very good at talking to girls. She was smiling and laughing, but...I failed
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Old 09-03-05, 04:34 PM
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hey, if she was smiling and laughing--and not in an annoyed, freaked out way--you did just fine :-) At the very least, she probably doesn't mind talking to you and at least, likes you on a friend level. But if she mentioned she didn't like the food there, you could have suggested getting food elsewhere with her.


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Ha! Y'all are killing me with these stories as I thought myself king of the mountain when the subject is the inability to recognize an approach. I feel I may be losing the grip on my septor.


I recently had a good friend tell me that she was going to start giving me a signal proportionate to the subtlety of the woman's approach I had just missed. She said the only problem is the brick she wants to drop on my foot is too heavy to carry around in her purse all the time. That was pretty funny, but she was serious and I got the point that I miss some very obvious things.
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Am I allowed another update??

Too bad, here it is:

So, I'm in class today. I'm just chillin', sittin', waiting for it to start. Lecture is boring right? WRONG.

Girl from the coffee shop sits next to me...voluntarily. I didn't even know she was there. "Hey, I didn't know you were in this class"....she's stoked to see me and is still cute (it wasn't just the caffeine talking). We had a break together....She's rad...I'm kinda...wow...impressed by her...

So, ya..I think I get a second chance. Sweet.
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Did anyone else with ADD have this promblem or i'm just that social stupid to pick up on it when a women is trying to get my digits or more, I keep reflecting tiems in the past where they hit on me but i didn't relize it till after the fact or too late.

Just wondered. TIA
I've been there done that often.

One female who was obviously frustrated with my lack of reponse said the following:
"Just shut up and kiss me stupid".
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