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Old 01-26-08, 08:09 AM
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Re: Inattentive males

So much here applies to me. I really appreciate people participating like this. I'll come back to write more, but am grateful you all are here..
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Re: Inattentive males

OH NOZ. What is inattentive ADHD? Not another category.
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Re: Inattentive males

Hi there, I'm the inattentive type. As I was bright and could perform well one on one or under pressure eg. tests, it went undiagnosed until I was 21. I suffered from shocking clinical depression, I guess being so frustrated over the year made whatever it is get stored up in my body. About every two years I have an episode, generally lasts 3-5 months but the longest (at 16) was 13 months. It's so intense. In your mind you are fine, but in your body... the closest thing I can describe it as is how your body would react after you had lost a loved one or got divorced etc. It actually physically hurts and you are exhausted.

Unfortunately there never seems to be anything to 'snap' me out of it. Exercise, visiting my specialist and support for my loved ones helps manage it and guide me through until it's over.

Luckily my life is so wonderful and I have so much time being healthy I can get through these.

I also have auditory processing issues. If I am in a busy place I hear everything at once at the same frequency. Night clubs/big parties are pretty intense so I normally just go dance or hang out with my mates.

In spite of the difficulties I am extremely happy and grateful for the life I have. I didn't choose ADD but I can choose the way I live with it.
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Re: Inattentive males

Also have the inattentive type as well. I couldn't care less if I lied in bed all day and did nothing.

I just can't stay on one task for too long and when I need to work on something else and try to go back to what i was doing, I am completely lost!
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Re: Inattentive males

I also have the inattentive type. My interest in certain things shifts in and out.
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Re: Inattentive males

Yep, it's a whole 'nother category. And if you are an "inattentive" male it means you are a minority within a minority.
I have been this way since childhood. I have always marched to the sound of my own theremin. Interestingly up till the age of 8 I had issues with acting out -- I was actually expelled from kindergarten. After that I went through a "phase change" and the acting out stopped. What made a difference for me was that I finally got the hang of reading. I shudder to think what my life would have been like if I hadn't.

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Re: Inattentive males

I was diagnosed with ADD a little less than a year ago (I'm 29!), but I was not surprised. I have the inattentive type as well. It wreaks havoc with relationships and I'm learning how to work with those negative aspects. It's very hard to make people understand that you still care about them even though sometimes you forget to acknowledge their presence. Some days are better than others. When I'm tired or haven't exercised in a while my symptoms are at their worst.
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Re: Inattentive males

I was diagnosed with SCT in 9th grade and have been living successfully with it since then (I'm now 23 and about to complete studies at Harvard Law). While I agree with many aspects of what people have said about having it (low energy, spaceyness, etc.), I think the key is finding out what energizes you. After graduation, I'll be in finance on Wall Street, and the interactions/overall environment really give me a ton of energy. I feel similarly when I play basketball or spend time with my girlfriend. There just seems to be much more of a bounce in my step, and I feel myself get excited. When that happens, the "fogginess" seems to lift and I can think much more clearly. In those moments, instead of being an energy-taker, I become an energy-giver, and those around me feed off of my energy rather than the other way around.

Again, we all have to figure out what does it for each of us, but I don't think having SCT means we are confined to a low-energy existence. It just means that we have to be very attuned to our interests and preferences. Viewed in that light, SCT is really a liberator – we physically cannot perform tasks that don't interest us, so it forces us to pursue our interests and only our interests. I hope everyone else has the same luck that I've had in identifying and pursuing their personal sources of energy.
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Re: Inattentive males

Great post, Alex.
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Re: Inattentive males

This was written with paragraphs yet did not post with paragraphs...dunno. Add another adult male inattentive to the list. Newly diagnosed, early 30s. I've got a doc also working on the theory that I am dysthymic. Does appear that is a more common co morbidity among us rarities. Apparently very intelligent. So the testing says, I'm waiting for proof in terms of real world performance. It's be supposed that this intelligence is responsible for the relatively decent functionality I have when considered against the severity of the ADD. Yes, it does appear we are a minority within a minority enigmas within riddles. Frustrating to come across the myriads of stories about little Johnny or Jane bouncing off the walls when trying to educate yourself and relate. Their symptoms and mine seem worlds apart. At least from this world they do. Anecdotally I've noticed that most inattentives are finding Adderall works best for them. This isn't coming from any scientific study, because I can't bloody well find much of any use that applies to us, but from my own reading on these forums. Inattentive and adderall are two terms that appear to have a correlation here. Currently I'm on Concerta. It's crap. The first few days were great, I felt like me! It was new, yet familiar oddly, but pretty damn cool. After about 4 days it has done very little for me but provide side-effects. Mostly in this thread we've had the newly diagnosed, like myself, post. While there have been some of the more experienced offer advice, incredibly valuable advice, I still want more! What's working for you guys?! What has helped the most? Little things? Big things? Did anything come of that subforum idea? I'd appreciate one.
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Re: Inattentive males

I also have the same day dreaming and feel like life will continue to be bad untill it is stopped. Will excessive stimulents help with mental energy? obviously not the perscription kind but like excessive caffine or something. I need them to go away due to the proffession i am going into. what is the meds that worked for you guys the most?
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Re: Inattentive males

I'd like to provide some advice, but most of what I'd suggest I don't currently do- so I'd feel a bit insincere giving it. The book Delivered from Distraction has some really good advice in it. I've underlined and marked many pages in DDFD. Another book ADD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life has many helpful tips (as lame and pedantic as it sounds). I hate following advice that sounds like something you'd hear in kindergarten, but I think it helps to just swallow your pride and try to integrate some basic organizational skills. I can totally relate to Smoky, and also second his experience with those drugs mentioned. I've noticed that Ritalin doesn't seem to work well with ADD-I. I take Dex, which I think works best, and Adderall here and there. I don't even understand why strattera, focalin, concerta, et. al was ever put on the market. I haven't read a single post where it's helped anyone.
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Funny, I was just scanning this page when the "doctor makes me feel I'm a druggie" caught my attention and I thought: I bet this guy lives in the UK! ...which made me scroll back...

Funny too, every word in your post describes me 100%. Welcome to the club! ...do you struggle with paperwork too?
On reading the posts by BoredADD and bahhhh, I felt compelled to register and declare myself. I'm also in London, UK and having read this thread, now self-identify as ADHD-I.

I've been hyperfocusing on ADD/ADHD for the last two weeks as it seemed to describe the underlying problems I've been having since and including childhood.

BoredADD seemed to be describing my particular variant with the possible exception of low energy. While I do have the low motivation, big on procrastination thing going on amongst other things, the low energy aspect doesn't really resonate for me.

Is there a London ADHD-I support group going on or is it the case that we'd all turn up late after the event was over! ;-)

Anyway, I'm currently going through the rigmarole needed to get a diagnosis. I've booked an appointment with my GP, so that I can get a referral for an assessment that will in turn allow me to get a referral for a diagnosis from a specialist. This process may take some time. Wish me luck.

I'm not looking to go the medicated route, but if I did, I would definitely go for the dex as I've seen at least one study pointing out that amphetamines are better than ritalin-style meds for those with ADHD-I.

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I'd like to provide some advice, but most of what I'd suggest I don't currently do- so I'd feel a bit insincere giving it. The book Delivered from Distraction has some really good advice in it. I've underlined and marked many pages in DDFD. Another book ADD Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life has many helpful tips (as lame and pedantic as it sounds). I hate following advice that sounds like something you'd hear in kindergarten, but I think it helps to just swallow your pride and try to integrate some basic organizational skills.
Thanks for this. I'm ordering ADD Friendly Ways... from the bookshop. I hadn't been paying any attention (doh) to any of the Distraction series of books as I wasn't sure of how relevant or helpful they are. I really have a bad case of chronic disorganization, so any help along those lines would be valued. Marilyn Paul has an interesting book out that isn't aimed at ADDers, but might be useful to some of us, it has a testimonial from Dr Edward Hallowell of the Distraction series who says he's going to use it for himself and his patients:
USA Edition: http://www.marilynpaul.com/book.html
UK Edition: http://www.littlebrown.co.uk/Title/9780749924805
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Re: Inattentive males

I've been thinking about the "low energy" thing and why some inattentive males have it but I don't. I think it's the result of a comorbid dysthemic disorder which a significant proportion of inattentive males are suffering from.

What do other guys think?
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