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Re: Sex and ADHD

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you guys are all way too funny!! You have all given me a cheery start to the day.

Btw sorry to crash the "boys party" here just thought maybe u might want the female side of this .
Hey happy to have company and the opposite sexes POV. Would you believe I am shy in the presence of women and not too sure of myself?
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Re: Sex and ADHD

No problem BrownRabbit, join right in.

I never really thought about it but I think you may be right. At 41 I'm still high maintenance in the sex department, and I don't think that's going to change any time soon.

Let's just say that the frequency would stager most people. Nuf said?
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Re: Sex and ADHD

yep hearing you there , i used to wear my men out fairly quickly, not usually a girl thing. All come to a halt when i went through early menopause at 37 and sex drive hormones took a dive, now im maybe just normal. I kind of do miss the buzz though, not just about sex either, i was much happier. I think i had high testosterone now i have none, am thinking about going on a small dose, you can get it in a spray here, done studies and it works well for "wellbeing" and sex drive. Really we are just made up of a heap of chemicals and they all interrelate to each other, lose one and the others tend to become unbalanced. Hormones really do rule our lives , i guess its a matter of learning to live well with whatever we are dished out!!

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Re: Sex and ADHD

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On the subject of SEX ( all awake and alert now ?) and with the danger of giving too much person info away.....From a female ADDer point of view, my sex drive was always crazy high and from a very young age...( and i was still a virgin until quite late if you get my drift) But i was thinking, is this just another way of self-medicating???? Doesnt sex release alot of the hormones us ADDers are lacking??
Now that i think about it , its surprising i never really did drugs, or smoke, but maybe my high sex took the place of all of those.

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Exactly the same here!!!! I didn't have sex til 18 and a half and... well, I just love it! But yes, I'd say masturbation (can you use that word on here? I'm guessing so) is the same in calming us down and helping us focus.

Oddly enought I'm inattentive, but I'm auditory wise I'm senstitive in places with lots of noise and stuff going on eg. parties, supermarkets, etc. So I can actually HYPERFOCUS on the sex., because there's not all these distractions, just me and him. It's unbelievable!

I'm a girl, so you guys are okay with us reading these kind of messages? I know I'm more than happy to give advice if you need a female's perspective.
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Re: Sex and ADHD

I think I can speak for every guy here saying the more female perspectives the better interesting stuff how it's all a bit different for us ADDers.
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Re: Sex and ADHD

I'm with you, AlohaGirl, on the hyperfocusing. I used to lose myself during the "deed," shall we say, and I absolutely loved it that way. It was sort of tantric, if you follow me. But sadly, that's not happening anymore. It seems to be due to a disconnect between me and the hubster, though, not any change in my hormones or what have you (I'm 41). Bums me out. I miss that selflessness part. It was like stepping outside your skin for a while.
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I'm with you, AlohaGirl, on the hyperfocusing. I used to lose myself during the "deed," shall we say, and I absolutely loved it that way. It was sort of tantric, if you follow me. But sadly, that's not happening anymore. It seems to be due to a disconnect between me and the hubster, though, not any change in my hormones or what have you (I'm 41). Bums me out. I miss that selflessness part. It was like stepping outside your skin for a while.
Do you think it's just a phase? Maybe just gotten comfortable? My husband and I have gone through these phases...especially with it being 7 years and all. But when we rock it...we rock it! I have read that men peak in their late teens/early 20's and women in their 30s and 40s.
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Do you think it's just a phase? Maybe just gotten comfortable? My husband and I have gone through these phases...especially with it being 7 years and all. But when we rock it...we rock it! I have read that men peak in their late teens/early 20's and women in their 30s and 40s.


Not all of us. Some of us "older folks" have as much drive now as we did when younger. Difference is I think we know more how to get into the moment if you know what I mean. Timing is everything and takes practice, time and patients. Given a choice, some younger women would probably rather have us than the young whipper snappers.

Did I post that?

Anyway, back to topic

I guess my taste of have changed or should I say more refined over the years. I guess being short myself, I have always been attracted to the petite tiny women. Hair color does not really matter, was partial to redheads for a long time. I would say, I like whomever to be themselves and not try to be something they are not and don't try to turn me into something I am not. I hate whining!!!!!!!!
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I just 'read' it somewhere!

those young whipper-snappers....sigh! (can I call someone a whipper-snapper if I am 32?) LOL
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I think I am still a virgin
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Hey just giving the perspective from a more mature point of view
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