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Old 11-22-17, 01:43 AM
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i appreciate you so much, fraser.xx
You know how much I appreciate you to perper. Don't think i've taken my eye off you. You're one of my personal favourites on here. But you already knew that.
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You know how much I appreciate you to perper. Don't think i've taken my eye off you. You're one of my personal favourites on here. But you already knew that.
you're such a good guy, fraser. women are fools to not give you a second look.
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you're such a good guy, fraser. women are fools to not give you a second look.
You know when you look through a window of a shop and you see all the little pretty things in the window that make you want to go in? Yeah.... i'm that dusty item at the back of the shop that nobody takes any interest in and never gets sold. It's my fault really.
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Old 11-22-17, 11:12 AM
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I'd go to the back of the shop. You're quality not fluff xx
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I'd go to the back of the shop. You're quality not fluff xx
Aww, thank you my gorgeous angel. You wouldn't need to find me, i'd jump off the shelf and into your arms.
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But what if you offer no value?

Not to be terse coming out of nowhere, but have you considered there are men (and women) around who truly lack functional (adaptive) ability?

So what happened here is I lack the ability to acquire anything of conventional value. If I had to fill out a profile on some crappy online dating site, I would have nothing to put (no higher education, no "decent job"... nothing) and therefore just put a blank line there hoping someone doesn't care that I omitted the "hey, look at what I can do" crap.

I tried that, and you can guess how that worked out. There was almost no interest and the reason is probably simple... with the uneven ratio of genders and the fact that women get too many messages, they only bother to even reply to guys who show-off some "amazing profile."

Hopefully your answer is not "then become amazing" not saying you would imply such a thing, but I've been given this answer before. I'm not capable of even getting close to functioning like a normal adult. I don't know how else to say it, I've had some folks "not believe me" or think I'm much higher functioning than I claim, well I can't offer agreeance on that.
You said there was almost no interest. So there was some interest? Maybe you just weeded out the shallow people. You can do the "honesty" challenge Fraser and I are doing, where we just lay it all out there. Maybe put something funny in the "job" section, instead of just a blank line. I put "scatterbrain" in mine. If you want, I'll send you the link to my profile so you can laugh at it. I'm still not completely finished with it yet, though, and am still working up the guts to unhide it. I think we all pretty much know by now that dating sites suck, might as well get a laugh out of it.

BTW, I just signed up for a couple events at Meetup groups. Maybe it's your turn? Did you check if there is a social anxiety one near you? Maybe we can all commiserate over our experiences.
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Think i'm going to do the same!
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Old 11-22-17, 02:26 PM
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You know when you look through a window of a shop and you see all the little pretty things in the window that make you want to go in? Yeah.... i'm that dusty item at the back of the shop that nobody takes any interest in and never gets sold. It's my fault really.
Fraser there is nothing wrong with the product but maybe the product needs to dusted and brought to the front of the shop so enough people can see it.
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Re: Are men not allowed to think about sex anymore?

Wow, this is such an inspirational thread. Maybe I'll try to post up a profile this weekend as well if I can get off my butt and actually do it.
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Wow, this is such an inspirational thread. Maybe I'll try to post up a profile this weekend as well if I can get off my butt and actually do it.
It does feel very freeing to just lay it all out there. And they say if something isn't working, try something new. If it scares away the type of guys I've been getting replies from, I'll be happy!
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It does feel very freeing to just lay it all out there. And they say if something isn't working, try something new. If it scares away the type of guys I've been getting replies from, I'll be happy!
Exactly. The only guys your profile is going to "scare away" are the guys that were wrong for you anyway. Think of it as a way of automatically weeding out the trash to make way for the prize.
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yes! I like the dusty stuff.
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If it ain't dusty, it can't be trusty.
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You ladies crack me up.
You won't be laughing when we find you, Mr. Dusty Edinburgh.
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