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Old 06-24-06, 03:02 AM
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Inattentive ADHD symptoms

Are these symptoms depicted on this web page typical of inattentive adhd... because if they are then they describe me perfectly.

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  1. Becomes overwhelmed easily; can only concentrate on one thing at a time. (actually it's more like I'm concentrating on everything that has to be done while I'm doing something... if I can do it)





  2. Has trouble starting and/or finishing tasks (often forgets to do homework, family chores, or may take “forever” to finish homework).
  3. May daydream while getting dressed in the morning; fixed stare may mask wandering mind.



  4. Acts impulsively or may not appear to react at all; is not good at crisis management (detaches rather than takes action).
  5. Is distracted by internal thoughts and external stimuli. (The brain can be on 16 channels, but the body appears exhausted.)





  6. Has a lethargic and apathetic appearance (Even when the person thinks fast, he fatigues quickly.); is often called lazy and unmotivated.





  7. Does not get needs met in the classroom because he or she doesn’t disrupt others; tends to be quiet, shy or withdrawn resulting in cognitive deficits getting overlooked.





  8. Could have spatial and/or motor skill difficulties (messy handwriting, poor sense of direction, or coordination problems).



  9. Could be on an emotional roller coaster (anxious, depressed, explosive temper, grumpy, sarcastic, rude, or abrupt).





  10. Is unaware of time (either underestimates or overestimates time, but is usually late).





  11. Appears disorganized (messy locker, room, and desk).
  12. Spends time daily hunting for things such as keys, papers, books, purse, etc.
  13. Has social skills problems (may be quiet, withdrawn, or possibly shy; has trouble with small talk and figuring out rules of social interaction; has a problem reading social cues; tends to be lonely and aloof). Unfortunately, this passivity can cause the person to be an attractive target for bullies.



  14. Does not perform up to potential; is slow at processing; appears confused or stressed; has difficulty with synthesizing and organizing ideas; is slow responding to questions.





  15. Has to be repeatedly rescued; uses learned helplessness and passive manipulation; feels powerless; becomes chronically dependent.





  16. Has errors in logical thinking and/or has irrational thoughts.





  17. Does not advocate for self; rarely asks questions in class or participates in class discussion.





  18. Makes mediocre grades or all A’s if person is a perfectionist. May put in extra effort to hyperfocus in order to compensate for inattentiveness.





  19. Has poor listening skills (misses details in conversations, teacher directions, and lectures).





  20. Has short-term and working memory problems; has trouble with application of learned information.
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I just don't know what to do... my mother doesn't believe I have adhd because I can pay attention to some things... I get good grades and I'm not hyperactive. I'm dependant on her , however, if I'm to see a doctor..... so what do you do to convince her?

I'm also so afraid to see a doctor... I just don't know if I can do it... it's so difficult for me to even find the will to tell her what I'm going through. I have no friends because I can't stay in contact with them (I feel like such an ***). Everyday activities feel so overwhelming to me...

Not to mention I feel like my emotions have taken a ride on a rollercoaster along with my thoughts... I hardly say anything to anyone... I guess that's why I suffer in silence... but my mind is so active... it goes a mile a minute constantly changing topics...

I just don't know what to do... I feel as if my life is wasting away while this disorder paralysis me and there is no way to call for help....
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Old 06-24-06, 03:38 AM
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feel the same

I feel the same as you, that it has taken almost two years to finally follow through with the doctor. I am still afraid that they might find something else wrong with me or that they will say sorry you will just have to live with it. But I also feel that I have been to the doctor before and they have given me other diagnosis before and I have lived through it and I will get through this I just hope that my live and the live of my loved ones will be better too. I am hoping that my gut is telling that this will help you is right.
It should help you to find out, I know that it has helped me so far alot and I am just begnning with the diagnosis. It is like a light bulb went off in my head, and now there is hope for me as a person, that all these strange things that I do and have to work through make sense to me now.
I hope this helps you and good luck!
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1.) Becomes overwhelmed easily; can only concentrate on one thing at a time. (actually it's more like I'm concentrating on everything that has to be done while I'm doing something... if I can do it)

This is not entirely accurate for me. My mind multitasks endlessly, but if I have a task where I have to give sustained attention (talking on the phone is a good example), I have a hard time (talking on the phone and driving at the same time). But others may have their own experiences.

5.) Is distracted by internal thoughts and external stimuli. (The brain can be on 16 channels, but the body appears exhausted.)

Seems to counteract the previous. But yes, it's true for me.

16.) Has errors in logical thinking and/or has irrational thoughts.
I can see errors in logical thinking, but I can't see it interfering with raw logical ability. If it did, my future would be over....

But other than that, it seems pretty accurate.

I guess as far as convincing your mother.... That is entirely dependent on her personality. Is she logical and rational? Educate her. Or perhaps give some specific examples of others in similar situations as yourself (that is, those inattentive individuals with high grades, being diagnosed later). Also, if you've had any mysterious developmental issues (obvious maturity lag, etc), maybe it would be a good idea to relate that to ADHD (ADHD and developmental issues are very common together). If anything, learn all you can about this disorder.

I wish I could be of more help, but I still have yet to convince my own parents....
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Gomery...

Your list of questions describes me as a child and even now. I have inattentive ADD and it is hard for some people...even MD's to understand.

I would suggest going to your school principal w/ this list and stress to him/her that you know 'something is wrong' and you feel that you could become an excellent student and take more advanced classes if your concerns were at least addressed by a specialist. Show the Principal and Specialist/Doctor your above post b/c it is very heartfelt.

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Are you an adult? Because that would make things easier so that your mother wouldn't have to bring you to the doctor. If not, then you should find someone that could bring you who believes you have ADD, such as your dad, grandparent, aunt or uncle, etc.

In the process, you should pick out a doctor that you feel comfortable telling about these kinds of things. Again, it depends on your age what s/he will do to examin you. For example, the doctor I saw spent about 15-30 minutes asking about my personal life, and then we pretty much did activities to see if I had ADD. The sooner you go, the sooner you find out you have ADD, and the sooner you'll most likely feel like your life is getting back together; I felt that way after I was diagnosed.

I hope everything works out for you
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Actually I'm an adult (I'm 21). I live with my parents in the country and am dependant on them to see a doctor because I can't drive (and so they have to drive me). School is no longer in ( I attend university), but I suppose a counselor there could be a possibility. It's just that everday activities seem to overwhelm me... this task seems almost impossible.

Thank you for all your posts... I hope it works out for me too...
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Hi.

I was diagnosed at around 20 while at University in CA. I have to say I was at that point getting a bit down. I got lucky and hit the right neuro psychbbbblah. But listen I wouldn't take a chance with someone I cared about. Go to a specialist. Call around until you get someone who says yes when you ask if they have experience with diagnosing ADDinnatentive. And how long will the process take?

A Degree is important. Any DOCTOR realises that.

I'd go specialst or Neurologist. These people know its in the brain. Don't wait too long. Drink alot of coffee to get yourself motivated for the phone calls.

Do whastever it takes.

Try to give your parents some thing physical to focus on like: I'm having memory problems.

I'll think about the MOM thing and try to get back to you.
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... my mother doesn't believe I have adhd because I can pay attention to some things... I get good grades and I'm not hyperactive. I'm dependant on her , however, if I'm to see a doctor..... so what do you do to convince her?
Gomery: I started looking into ADD as a possible issue 2 years ago in my late 30's. Up until then I thought stuff I did was due to personality quirks or flaws. Even when I first started looking into ADD I was inclined to dismiss it as a possibility because like you I could focus on things, and usually got good grades in school, etc. (but had problems turning things in on time, with disorganization, with being on time, etc, etc).

It was only when I ran across information about how ADD is present in women, how ADD is different for inattentives, and how people with Higher IQs might get missed because their intelligence can compensate somewhat or mask ADD symptoms, did more bells go off and did I see myself more in the descriptions. One day ranting to my psychologist that I didn't fit the "profile" that I saw in many books/websites did he say that actually I pretty closely fit what he tends to see in people seeking help in late high school or as college or graduate students. Oh?!

Unfortunately when the general public (including your mom) hear ADD they think of the stereotypical hyperactive little boy who fidgets and can't pay attention. As you know, ADD is more complex than that, and often an aspect of it is that we tend to *hyperfocus* on something we're engaged and interested in.

I suggest you continue to educate yourself, and do what you can to educate your parents. There's some good info on the internet as well as some good books out there. I have found, "Women with Attention Deficit Disorder" by Sari Solden and "Attention Deficit Disorder" by Thomas E. Brown particularly helpful.

Then as others suggested, try to find someone who specializes in diagnosis and treatment of ADD who is up to date on current information and research. Be open to the fact that it could be something other than ADD as there are some medical conditions and other syndromes that can have similar symptoms.

You are your own best advocate - the more you know the better you can explain to parents and doctors what you experience. Be strong and stand up for yourself. The sooner you and your doctors can pinpoint what the underlying issue is, the sooner you can start treating it.

Good luck and keep us posted. ~~bythesea
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P.S. the Thomas Brown book is actually, " Attention Deficit Disorder: The unfocused mind in children and adults." And also, even though you're a male, you might still find some of the info in Sari Solden's book interesting/helpful. Maybe you can find some books in a local library before you purchase your own copies, decide which you find most helpful before you spend the money.
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therres a tv porgame next week on uk tv about a man with adhd should be wouth seeing i def wtach it i let you knoew if you dont allready know dorm
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yes Gomery, it almost describes me and my oldest son (both innatentive ADD)....

sometimes is hard for parents to accept it is something wrong to their child-I know because I am a parent. Especially when that child is not obviously impared...Tried to see if you can find somebody else in your family to understand, if possible...or a counselor in the school system. It is very hard to go thru life undiagnosed....(and you may end up like me-oh yeah, I do have ADD, but ain't nothing wrong with me)....
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I tried... I really tried to make my mother understand... but she wont listen.

Today we went to the cinema, and I completely forgot what time she was supposed to come and pick me up. She was furious because she had just spoken to me about and took 2 hours off of work to do this.

So when I get into the car, she looks at me and says "you know, it's not easy living with an absent minded professor".


Well, I can tell you, my reply was "well, you know, it's not easy being one either ".

I went on to tell her that I don't get some preverse thrill from forgetting appointments, dates, how to drive home! where I parked the car, that I'm supposed to phone people... this doesn't amuse me in the least!

I don't think it's funny or cute or anything of the sort... it just makes me so mad to think she believes that I'm doing this on purpose... why the hell would I do that!?

So I explained all this to her, I explained why I've failed my driving test three times, why I'm afraid of going back to school, why I forget things. I'm daydreaming constantly; all the bloody time.

It's useless explaining this to her... because she thinks it's normal

She's the same, and so was my father (according to her, which explains a hell of alot as well). Her answer was that I can teach myself how not to daydream anymore, and become moer motivated... as if that's not what I've been trying to do my entire life.

I'm just so frustrated... she doesn't think anything's wrong... and I know why... because then she'd have to admit that there was something wrong with herself, and she refuses.

The fact is she notices this too, she even said to me at the time that she notices that I can be in a croud of people and not even hear them because I'm gone in lala land.

I just can't understand how she thinks this is normal...... this isn't fun in the least.
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Another thing she said was that my MBTI being INTP meant that I was going to have to endure these kind of daydreaming spells... because intuitives live in their heads, and so they daydream alot.

So, according to her at least, it's not a problem, it's just my personality... never mind that it's driving me insane... that it's ruining my life... and that I feel helpless against it... I'm soo angry right now...
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