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Old 02-23-09, 11:18 AM
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Question Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I have ADHD and find that porn may have changed my desires and expectations for real sex. I wondered if this is another form of self injury. Any men that can relate would love to know or if you do how you deal with it?

I also wondered do all men find masterbation as a form of relaxation and self medicating.
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Old 02-23-09, 11:56 AM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

this is not an exclusive add/adhd thing.

many comedians have used this topic for the subject of their jokes.

i believe it's a normal average guy thing.
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Old 02-23-09, 12:02 PM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I am sorry but really didnt mean this as a jok., I have read alot of research articles that analyze ADHD adults being addicted to self pleasure and even diffrent forms of addiction. Wondered if men like that are as real as research says and looking to see how they changed these behaviors and once they have didnt helpt there sex life to be more within real expectations
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Old 02-23-09, 12:33 PM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

oh, i know you were serious. i didn't mean to sound like i was jesting or interpreting your problem as jest. i was merely trying to convey that it's such a normal occurrence in men(and maybe women) to the extent that it's a topic in stand-up comedy(i believe that comedy is best when it's inclusive and the topic is universally known/experienced by everyone).

about your situation, if you find your habit to be hindering your daily chores, work and/or personal life, then you might want to seek professional consultation.
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Old 02-23-09, 12:38 PM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Thanks fo5r the advice already have but looking to maybe start a support group for men of the site and many times as guy feel alone with certain issues
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Old 02-23-09, 12:53 PM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Well you know adhd/add people tend to give into their immediate impulses more then most people. That could be a contributing factor. Adhd people tend to have obsessive type behaviors more then others, medication exasterbating that obssessiveness for some on the meds.

They may be more into it then otheres on average, but whether it reaches the level it could be considered an addiction is whole different question.

jjreadhd you keep on saying men in the 3rd person lol. Are you a woman or are you related to tarzan?
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Maybe it's a form of self medicating, because of the release of endorphins you get afterwords?
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I have read that children/adolescents with ADHD/ADD visit sexually explicit sites much more often than "normal" kids. Perhaps this is just another statistic, it seems everyone/thing is now. I myself masturbate regularly, almost everyday
Im not ashamed of it, as its perfectly natural and everybody does it, if not less often than me. It does release Dopamine (or seretonin, cant remember) which may be why some people do it often, it makes you feel good. As long as it is not interfereing with your life there is nothing to worry about! (except chafing lol)
You know when its to often if you leave class during school to visit the washroom, or you do not want to hang out with friends because you have "other things" planned. Other than that, its a perfectly healthy habit.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I've had issues with fluctuating desires and high expectations in reality that aren't met making intimacy/sex feel more mundane. Also, yes, I enjoy the "high" that comes from masturbation, but I dislike that I use it as a way to "feel good". So, you're not alone.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Its called Porn Creep. You DO expect sex to be like that over time. Happened to me once and my doc told me all about Porn Creep. Made perfect sense. Also ADD/ADHD are very commonly hyper sexual to begin with which makes falling into Porn Creep even more likely.

Just cut out the porn for awhile. I mean it too. NO PORN for at least a month! "Things" will start to fall back into place. As for masturbation, why not? As long as your not doing it to the point to where it interferes with normal function its perfectly healthy. Having to watch porn in order to er...reach that point of...release(?)(being very careful here mods)is dftly not good.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

jjreadhd you keep on saying men in the 3rd person lol. Are you a woman or are you related to tarzan? [/quote]


That was a great point I think I am trying to say its not me but it is who is having so difficulty. I am man sorry for the confussion
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Hi,

If you are looking for specific examples who fit the research models, then I can say I am the one.

I have been addicted to porn since few years. I have been diagnosed as Adult ADD 2 years back and my addiction goes long time back.

I buy and collect porn from websites and store in my harddrive. The funniest thing is I dont watch them completely. I just watch them forwarding for just few minutes , then masturbate and stop it before ejaculation. You can call it compulsory masturbation (anothar co-morbidity of ADD).

I am 28 and depressed with all the health things going on with me.

I liked the idea of self help group. if it can be very helpful to me.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I do both but not at a level that it's a problem. I have found out I always have to have something in my mouth be it food, gum, or food. If i don't have anything lots of time I just start chewing on stuff.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Lol I do have a huge collection of porn too. My friends call me the Collector but I only do it on my free time.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

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Its called Porn Creep. You DO expect sex to be like that over time. Happened to me once and my doc told me all about Porn Creep. Made perfect sense. Also ADD/ADHD are very commonly hyper sexual to begin with which makes falling into Porn Creep even more likely.

Just cut out the porn for awhile. I mean it too. NO PORN for at least a month! "Things" will start to fall back into place. As for masturbation, why not? As long as your not doing it to the point to where it interferes with normal function its perfectly healthy. Having to watch porn in order to er...reach that point of...release(?)(being very careful here mods)is dftly not good.
Perhaps with watching actual videos of people engaging in the act. But what about just a static picture of an unclothed woman posing by herself?
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