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Old 04-05-09, 02:31 PM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I was concerned about the "too much porn" question many times in the past. I've always found the resolution doesn't require resisting the urge to use porn, masturbating without it, or using it differently (downloading vs. saving). I truly believe that resisting the urge to masturbate when appropriate (at home, alone, not neglecting responsibilities, etc) is unhealthy for anyone who is not a Zen master. The anxiety associated with trying not to do it will consume you and the guilt when you eventually do it makes it all worse.

I eventually found that sorting out the other issues in my life associated with sex and women led to the porn issue taking care of itself. I was in a difficult relationship (sex was just one of our many problems) and found myself way more interested in porn than anything else. We broke up a few months ago (not because of porn) and it gave me a chance to look at my life's issues surrounding seeking approval from women. I also stopped drinking alcohol and had a few long-overdue medication changes.

Since then I've had little interest in collecting porn like I did, but I'm glad I still have the collection - it's quicker to go through the folders of what I have than search around the ever-changing Internet. The purpose of porn for me at this point is a tool to get an erection so I can get off. The whole process takes about 5-10 minutes. In the past, I would browse and download for 2 hours. In terms of addictions, its a much healthier one than drugs/alcohol or acting out sexually, but there are better ways to pass time.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

If you think you may have a problem with porn, you probably do. I used to spend HOURS in hotel rooms watching porn on the internet. Time would just get away from me. I'd promise myself only 30 minutes but next thing I new 3 or 4 hours had gone by.

I ended up going to SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) and found out there are a bunch of people just like me.

I recommend SAA if you think you have a problem. One meeting my really open your eyes.

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I will be 41 this month, and I have found that Adderall makes me quite horny, and I am performing like I was 18.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

My partner has become concerned about my use of porn lately. I generally view porn every single night after she goes to bed. I also sometimes use it during the day when I'm home alone. She finds it disturbing, and so it is now also disturbing to me.

She has voiced lots of what other people on here have said. She worries that porn has, or might, replace her. She worries that I'm looking at absurdly beautiful women that she cannot hope to emulate. Finally, she worries that I'm doing this entirely too often.

Of course, I KNOW that none of those things are true. I simply have a hyper sex drive, and I really enjoy indulging it. Others may experience this business of "porn creep" or whatever, but I've certainly seen no signs of it. Porn simply cannot replace the thrill of intimacy with a partner. But that's just me talking. There certainly seems to be a lot of people out there talking about porn addiction.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

All my friends (ALL) most of them without mental problems (that I know off) and some others with depressive episodes, love porn.

I share lots of emails daily with nude women and videos etc. Even my wife gets them from her boss!!!

I don't think even kinky stuff should be prejudiced, as long as it not child porn etc

IMO, ADHD only interfers when you can't remember the girl you just saw on a picture
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I share lots of emails daily with nude women and videos etc. Even my wife gets them from her boss!!!

I don't think even kinky stuff should be prejudiced, as long as it not child porn etc
Wow. Your wife must have an 'interesting' job. That behavior has lawsuits written all over it!

I certainly would never want to be the arbiter of what porn is "healthy" for whom, but there is a lot of pretty sick stuff out there. Child porn is an obvious example, but there's also a lot out there that seems to me to be very degrading & humiliating. I'm also sometimes troubled by what I've heard about the porn industry being very abusive and exploitative of people who have a lot of problems. I hate to think of providing money to such an industry, if it profits at the expense of people's well-being.
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Wow. Your wife must have an 'interesting' job. That behavior has lawsuits written all over it!
I do not live in the US

About people abuse I fully agree with you.
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My partner has become concerned about my use of porn lately. I generally view porn every single night after she goes to bed. I also sometimes use it during the day when I'm home alone. She finds it disturbing, and so it is now also disturbing to me.

She has voiced lots of what other people on here have said. She worries that porn has, or might, replace her. She worries that I'm looking at absurdly beautiful women that she cannot hope to emulate. Finally, she worries that I'm doing this entirely too often.

Of course, I KNOW that none of those things are true. I simply have a hyper sex drive, and I really enjoy indulging it. Others may experience this business of "porn creep" or whatever, but I've certainly seen no signs of it. Porn simply cannot replace the thrill of intimacy with a partner. But that's just me talking. There certainly seems to be a lot of people out there talking about porn addiction.
Being an addict of drugs and porn for many years.Have learned that Addiction is Addiction.Porn/masturbation/drugs/alcohol/Etc.
My opinion is if a couple enjoys porn together or separately on occasion.
Agreed on by both then I don't see a problem..But when it is one sided and in excess then it is Addiction and should be treated that way.There are programs that help.12 step like N.A or A.A are only a few...
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Being an addict of drugs and porn for many years.Have learned that Addiction is Addiction.Porn/masturbation/drugs/alcohol/Etc.
My opinion is if a couple enjoys porn together or separately on occasion.
Agreed on by both then I don't see a problem..But when it is one sided and in excess then it is Addiction and should be treated that way.There are programs that help.12 step like N.A or A.A are only a few...
Fair enough. I guess that brings us back though, to determining what is excess and therefore, what exactly is addiction... This has never been very clear to me, though I have definitely had friends, family, acquaintances in various kinds of addiction and recovery.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I started getting into it too much until I learned about my ADD recently. For a sex/porn addict I think its the disease process. For ADDults, it's a symptom of the disorder. It a combination of a lack of inhibition and the need for a quick fix of dopamine, not to mention our interest in variety. I would be looking for way too much time and not really enjoy it; it was more of a compulsion than a need.

So far I've only been using only homeopathic treatment (fish oil, more excercise, and subtle diet and lifestyle modifications) with some success. I've cut down from as much as 4-6 hour a week to about 20 minutes about every other week; just enough to get it done if my spnk'n bank is running low on funds. I'm not totally on the wagon, but maybe I don't need to be at this point. Women use sex toys, we use porn. I think I'm down to a healthy level.

To replace it, I'll go on a long-*** bike ride or get absorbed in stock market trading, e-mail, this forum, etc on days I'm not working (I'm not a 9-5er). My urges to veg out for hours at a time and surf the porn sites are all but non-existent.
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The term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive psychological dependence, such as: drug addiction, video game addiction, crime, money, alcoholism, work addiction,compulsive overeating, problem gambling, computer addiction, pornography addiction, etc.
In medical terminology, an addiction is a state in which the body relies on a substance for normal functioning and may occur along with physical dependence, as in drug addiction. When the drug or substance on which someone is dependent is suddenly removed, it will cause withdrawal, a characteristic set of signs and symptoms. Addiction is generally associated with increased drug tolerance. In physiological terms, addiction is not necessarily associated with substance abuse since this form of addiction can result from using medication as prescribed by a doctor. Physical dependence is different from psychological dependence (addiction). The latter is often characterized by a compulsive need for a drug for psychological reasons, while the former is characterized by need for the drug due to tolerance and the need to prevent withdrawal symptoms on discontinuing the use of a drug. Physical dependence however, commonly occurs with both addiction and therapeutic use of drugs.
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Hmmm. I don't think that definition of addiction has cleared the issue up for me. What constitutes 'compulsive' is always so vague.... If you aren't clearly injuring yourself or others, it seems a gray area to me.

At any rate, I have recently given up the porn thing out of respect for my wife. Maybe it will help restore a bit of our lost intimacy... Or maybe not.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I have a problem with porn, but it comes and goes. It used to be soooo much worse. Masturbation though, will always be there, On average I masturbate about once a day, most days more. Usually once in the morning and once at night, but sometimes I do several times in the evening. That's probably too much info. Anyway, I find that exercise and diet helps with my ADD but also my porn cravings...at least it seems that way.

Not having a computer helps a lot (mines been out of order for over a month). It's a good idea if you have one to set a limit on what time of night you are on, since I find that after 11 or so is when I find cravings hitting the most, then suddenly you're up all night looking at porn. I think the porn viewing can hurt you in ways you don't realize. I'm sure I lost many a good night's rest to porn, I also found myself viewing it at work and hurting my hours and therefore my money.

I also agree about it being more of a compulsion thing. Someone likened it to a sex toy for women, I found a sex toy for men and I think my interest in porn has decreased a lot because of how good it works.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Wow... this is my first real post on this forum.. just started my first medicine today (vynase) after being diagonsed with ADHD yesterday and my experience has been that I have a lack of impulse control.

I talk too much, i interrupt people and i eat too much (although somehow im not in horrible shape - probably because of a high metabolism). I think its just that i want pleasure, and masterbation is also part of the game

Although I am married to a wonderful woman, I have had sex with at least 10 other women in the past year. I have spoken to my therapist at lenght about it, and he feels it is a desire to feel loved and a compensation for my feeling of inadequacy.

I masterbate at least once a day, sometimes twice. Porn gives you unrealistic expectations, (do woman really want you to ___ on their face?) I have become obsessed with a threesome to the point that the wife is sick of my talking about it..

I justify my masterbation as a way to keep me from looking for other women, becuase usually after i masterbate the urge to go out and meet someone else is gone, albeit temporarily.

How much is too much....? I guess if your masterbation keeps you from doing things you should be doing its too much... Same could be said for too much TV, or surfing the net.
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I buy and collect porn from websites and store in my harddrive. The funniest thing is I dont watch them completely. I just watch them forwarding for just few minutes , then masturbate and stop it before ejaculation. You can call it compulsory masturbation (anothar co-morbidity of ADD).

I liked the idea of self help group. if it can be very helpful to me.
Exactly...thats what happens to me too...i tend to get bored with all the other details...but I generally dont stop before ejaculation, and then comes the feeling of guilt...

I have tried earlier to go without masterbation....the maximum I could go without is around 14 days. After that I broke down....

I dont know how helpful a self help group will be...but I would want to join such a group too...perhaps we could model it in a similar way as Alcoholics Anonymous is...all with live online chats etcc....
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