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Old 08-12-19, 07:16 PM
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Question Why do we attract toxic individuals into our lives?

Is it that we allow ourselves to be taken advantage more often than most and manipulative/toxic people can detect people like us from the crowd? How do we break this cycle?
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Re: Why do we attract toxic individuals into our lives?

Look at your past. Are you an adult child of a narcissist or was there someone in your life who disempowered you? Start doing some reading about narcissism. Read about empath and narcissist and how to identify these ********.
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Re: Why do we attract toxic individuals into our lives?

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Look at your past. Are you an adult child of a narcissist or was there someone in your life who disempowered you?
Don't really have any narcissist parents.
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Re: Why do we attract toxic individuals into our lives?

Do we actually attract toxic individuals into our lives?

Or is it just that there are toxic individuals out there, and we (like others) happen to have the misfortune of having to deal with them sometimes?

Maybe I've just been very lucky, but I don't think I've had to deal with a disproportionate number of toxic people. (Then again, I don't have a good sense of how many toxic people most other people have to deal with!)

What kinds of boundaries are you having trouble maintaining, or in what ways are you being manipulated? In terms of breaking out of the pattern of these relationships, it depends a lot on the situation. Are these family members? Bosses? Coworkers? Frenemies? It's easier to cut ties and maintain boundaries with some than with others.
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Re: Why do we attract toxic individuals into our lives?

When it comes to romantic relationships, love or attraction can make us blind to faults. We see what we want to see. For all kinds of relationships, well, some people can really give off that charm or seem so friendly and help you out sometimes. Had a brother-in-law like that. He didn't want people to know about the OTHER side of his personality...cruel, sometimes violent, insulting, threatening. But he normally could act so nice, he could seem like a real good guy.
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Re: Why do we attract toxic individuals into our lives?

I decided to rid my life of toxic individuals one day. And now I have one friend left beside my wife and daughter. That's ok though, quality over quantity.
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Re: Why do we attract toxic individuals into our lives?

I give almost any one a first or second chance.

After that, they are CUT!
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