Was everyone here a victim of bullying?

[crystal8080]

I've heard its normal to re-evaluate your life after diagnosis, so I've been thinking a bit about my childhood. I was bullied, and until now I really didn't know WHY I was bullied, other than the reactions people loved to get out of me.

I was completely reactive. And countless people tried to teach me how to deal with it, and I just couldn't get through to them that I had no control. Even my kindergarten report card mentioned something about my emotions.

So people at school, even my family LOVED to bug me, tease me, laugh at me because I would get so mad, and had the funniest expressions. Then I would cry, completely humiliated.

(Even as I got older, having playfights with boyfriends, and it would get to be too much for me, I would say stop stop and they wouldn't - and I would have to totally freak out to get them to stop. Then they would get mad at me for losing it.)

Was this a common experience for people? Was this ADD? And if so, is there anyone out there who WAS NOT bullied?

[jennsation]

I was teased...I'd say, quite a lot as a child. It still affects me (self-esteem wise) but it has also made me a better person, as I am very sensitive to things like that now and trying VERY hard to teach my children to be respectful and nice to people.

I think my reactions were more hidden...not that I never reacted outwardly, but I tended to become more withdrawn due (at least in part) to the teasing.

I will say, if someone says something now about something that I was teased about as a child (these are people that do not know my history at all), it will affect me the rest of the day. Even if I know it wasn't meant to bother me in any way, shape or form. I think I will always hang onto those feelings, unfortunately.

[DistractedDude]

I was teased and got in lots of fights growing up, even into high school. There were kids in elementary and middle school that I was afraid to walk passed at school or on the street if I was in their neighborhood they lived in. Many of the fights I got into were 3 against one with me being the loner getting hit or tackled. In high school I still got teased alot but didn't get in fights like when I was younger.

My family (siblings and mother) communicates by teasing. If we're being mean to each other, it means we're getting along well. Unless we are REALLY being mean, but you can tell then.

I don't know if I was teased because of the ADHD though, I never really had people call me a "spaz" or directly make fun of the visible signs of the ADHD but I got called big nose and things like that from a lot of people. Now that you mention it, it would be interesting to know what really made people want to pick on me so much.

Even as an adult, I don't get picked on persay but I don't feel comfortable with most people. I always feel like an outsider looking in.

[Trooper Keith]

Bullying and abuse, yeah p much.

Dealt my fair share of it too, though.

[Blueranne]

Physical abuse as a kid.

Spiritual and emotional self abuse as a teen.

Dealing with way too much BS and ignorant A-holes as an adult.

[jennsation]

Originally Posted by Blueranne

...Dealing with way too much BS and ignorant A-holes as an adult.

Amen!

[metzfanaz]

Bullied to the point I had to switch schools in Grade 3 to a different school clear across town. Dealt with it there also, just didn't have to worry about the school bus anymore. Thankfully.

Still deal with it from time to time, as the longer I go in life the more and more it feels like high school never ended. I just started getting paid a little bit better for working.

[sarek]

Some bullying, but on the whole not serious. The usual jerks waiting for me in the hallway and playing nasty pranks on me kind of stuff, although it was not frequent.

[peripatetic]

not by peers, by definitely by teachers and administrators and other kids' parents. hmmm...well, as the "naughty kid" in a very small town...i was overall thought a menace.

[Impetus]

I can be SUPER reactive. I was really bad off when I was a kid. There was a boy that used to really love to push my buttons. He drove me batty, he humilated me and physically hurt me a few times. I think he was diagnosed ADHD, and I was expected to somehow not let him press my buttons. Anyway, things got so bad that I was feeling very badly one day, felt sick to my stomach. My mother had been in one of her manic moods, and had made me a waffle that morning. Big ol' bisquick waffle. I ate the whole thing, and went to school. (there was a period of complaining about my upset stomach) So I was sitting in class feeling terrible. My nemesis to my right. (our teacher thought she could teach us to get along by sitting us next to each other.) Then I felt the waffle coming back up. Then I thought how much I hated that little monster to my right. Then I thought I should puke on him. Then I DID puke on him. I had deliberately turned myself 90 degrees and puked right into his lap.

Turns out I was very sick. I was out of school for the next two weeks. When I returned, the teacher had separated us. We were on opposite sides of the room. He was also able to stop himself from touching me, ever again. When asked about why I puked on him, I remember clearly stating, "I told you I didn't want to sit next to him." (that teacher probably thought I was the most defiant little witch!)

I also have a story about a kid in HS that wouldn't stop touching me. I told him to stop, he didn't, somehow I ended up on his back kidney punching him.... and I'm the bad guy. Same scenario, I said stop several different times. He kept on. He got punched in the kidney and I'm the bad guy.

So yeah, I've been there and I totally get where you are coming from. Meds and theraoy are making it a lot easier to ignore jackwaggonry.

[Blueranne]

^^^ That was an awesome story!

[dsvlil1]

I was a super emotionally reactive child when I was bullied as a kid, in fact it's probably why it was so rewarding for them to bully me. I just couldn't control it, it hurt and there was no calming down from that.

My family came to use it to hurt me and unfortunately never grew out of their anagnositic behavior, they somehow justified it because I was being irrational.

But it's incredible the difference a little medication makes to this hair trigger reaction.

[masud786]

I was bullied and teased A LOT when I was young. Everyday I would go to school (middle-high school) and know that someone would call me specific names such as Osama, saddam, ect. Or just make fun of me of how I dressed or looked. Girls definitely didn't talk to me and if I ever talked with one, some guy would come and cock block me by talking **** about me.

This went on until I graduated from high school. Took a little bit of a break, met a great girl, and she changed my life. She turned me from the loser to an amazing guy. She became my best friend. She showed me that anyone can be cool, if they're taught how to be it. Unfortunately, this story doesn't end that well, since my best friend got in a car accident and died. She was by far the nicest and most beautiful girl I've ever met in my life, pretty is an understatement (and i'm not saying that cause she's my best friend).

From that day on, I've learned how to dress and speak properly and better. Learned to have my own style and to deal with my self image. People say to be yourself, but what they don't realize is that whether we like it or not, people will judge us by how we look. It's not right, but that's how life is.

I would love to see all the old people that used to bully me(met a couple actually), since I'll most likely laugh at them now. Not going to lie, but it does feel good to go inside a room and have every girl compare you to their **** boyfriend, but hey, I DID work hard to look like this...

A little info: 15-18 yrs old, i was around 180 with 20% body fat.
currently I'm 20 yrs old with 9% body fat. I bet they don't want to call me fat anymore

[AbsentMindProf]

I was bullied mercilessly in school. Like a lot of ADHD-PI types, I tend to be too quiet to make friends. Bullies routinely target people that are less socially successful -- so there you go.

[Impetus]

Originally Posted by dsvlil1

I was a super emotionally reactive child when I was bullied as a kid, in fact it's probably why it was so rewarding for them to bully me. I just couldn't control it, it hurt and there was no calming down from that.

My family came to use it to hurt me and unfortunately never grew out of their anagnositic behavior, they somehow justified it because I was being irrational.

But it's incredible the difference a little medication makes to this hair trigger reaction.

I remember different people trying to explain the whole thing about kids teasing me because they got a reaction out of me. And I just couldn't see it. It just didn't make any sense to me. It still doesn't make a whole lot of sense, but I can definately see it now.