Hopeless Upset :(

[morbid_doodler]

My dad almost died 2 weeks ago yesterday from a infection and then 4 days later by grandmuther went into the hospital for a breathing problems. While this was happening my dad was still in icu on breathing. Then my grandmuther died yesterday and my dads kinda getting better.

So ya..I missed a bunch of work and I feel horrible because I'm close to both these people and I cant stop crying about my grandmuther... I hate this.

help..

[zannie]

I am so sorry that all of this is happening in your life right now. It is totally understandable that you can't stop crying. And I understand why you would not be able to work right now. Remember to look after yourself if possible.

[Anna B]

I know how hard it is, and you need to let yourself grieve, crying is healing.

I am dealing with the loss of my step Dad this spring, Had to stop life here and spent most of the summer going back and forth to help my Mom on the farm. Finally things settled down and we were able to move home just before Christmas.
Now my mother in law was just diagnosed with cancer and given only a couple months.
And best friend from childhood who isn't even 40 has had several surgeries to remove cancer and not bouncing back this time.

The memories I have with these people is worth more than gold.

Memories will live with you forever, times you've had will always be yours,

I am so grateful for knowing these people.

I hope you can hold some of those memories to carry you through the tears.

Things will get easier with time, Hugs

[Spacemaster]

I'm very sorry. There isn't much for me to add, except that just know that there will be a day when you don't feel this way. Grieve today, and know that in the future there will be sunshine. Like the expression goes, "this too shall pass"

[Pumbaa]

If it very hard losing a loved one and having so much happen in such a short time is so stressful.

Just be kind to yourself and grieve. It takes awhile so just be gentle with yourself.

[tudorose]

(((((hugs)))))

[Fuzzy12]

I'm so sorry. That's a lot to deal with. Give yourself time to grieve and go easy on yourself.

If you've got problems at work can you explain the situation to your manager/supervisor?

Huge hugs!!

[deeinsun]

Firstly condolences..you are being human and grieving it is good to cry and get through a box of kleenex, . sending you sunshine to brighten your day

[kristo]

Aww, you poor thing. I know it feels hopeless right now, but you'll heal with time. It gets better, I promise.

[Unmanagable]

Sending you so much love, dear heart. I truly feel your pain and wish I could take it away for you. Seventeen years ago, my paternal grandmother had a brain aneurism and was in a coma for several months.

While she was there, my paternal grandfather died of a massive heart attack in my dad's arms at home. She woke up a couple weeks after his death, but was dependent on life support.

Meanwhile, my dad was diagnosed with a brain tumor the size of a softball and ended up in the same hospital, different floor. He lived for three months (passed away the day after Easter) and she passed away 2 weeks after he did.

Try to take good care of you. Cry as much as you need to, scream into your pillow or take a walk out in the middle of nowhere and let it all out. Beat the crap out of your mattress. I was very angry at "god" and I wanted him to know it, so those two things happened quite often for a while.

Remember all the things you loved so much about them, try to smile as often as you can with the memories, and do little things to honor their memory in your heart often.

Letting others get close enough to comfort and help me, sometimes just to help get me through the day, was the hardest part for me. I did a lot of pushing and fighting against them and in looking back, I really wish I could have been more accepting of their offers to help.

Keeping you in my thoughts.