Do you guys have an explaining problem?

[Darkpk55]

All my life it has been a struggle to ask a teacher a question, explain something to someone, ask a question at a front desk, & call for something. I don't know what it is but it sucks. I always have to rehearse what I am going to say or explain. For example, My ged certificate had an incorrect birthday, so I had to call to get it fixed. When I called, I didn't make sense, I ended up also forgetting what I wanted to say, & when I remembered, I couldn't explain it.

At the Dmv, they said "What can I help u with?"
I just stand there looking at them like I'm an idiot.
I speak unclear & I just don't make sense...

I want to use my teacher as a reference... I call & I go blank...

What can I do??? This is a serious problem I have. Always have to memorize what I want to say....is anyone familiar with this type of problem?

[electrogen]

I over analize things before doing things. So if i need to phone the doctors i think it through like a story in my head and think about possible scenarios and outcomes. I then phone the doctors and cant explain what i thought, its all there in my head it just doesnt want to come out. So im the same as you in this sense but im better on the phone if i had gon the docs instead of phoning i would sound like a broken record stuttering and squeking.

[tudorose]

Sometimes I have to write things down before I say them otherwise everything gets referred to as a 'thingy'.

[meadd823]

Originally Posted by Darkpk55

All my life it has been a struggle to ask a teacher a question, explain something to someone, ask a question at a front desk, & call for something. I don't know what it is but it sucks. I always have to rehearse what I am going to say or explain. For example, My ged certificate had an incorrect birthday, so I had to call to get it fixed. When I called, I didn't make sense, I ended up also forgetting what I wanted to say, & when I remembered, I couldn't explain it.

At the Dmv, they said "What can I help u with?"
I just stand there looking at them like I'm an idiot.
I speak unclear & I just don't make sense...

I want to use my teacher as a reference... I call & I go blank...

What can I do??? This is a serious problem I have. Always have to memorize what I want to say..is anyone familiar with this type of problem?..

~ Underlinng in quote added by me~

I have this problem as well - it drive me nuts

It's like my thought are one place in my brain and on the other side of my brain is a box full of jumbled up words thrown randomly in a box , a verbal sock box of sorts that I have to sort though to try and find which one goes with the thought I am having.


My mother wanted to know how to set a trap and called me to ask - I couldn't even begin to find the right words -

I had to drive home, drag an identical trap out that I have and demonstrate how to set it while my husband watched me and explained it to her over the phone.

Some times it is so frustrating looking for words don;t even bother trying.

[Sir5r1]

Your freezing up under stress, make notes for yourself and it will be a lot easier to recall.
I have the same issues.

[Spacemaster]

I actually get very irritated and angry if someone asks me to explain the book I am reading, or the movie I just watched. I get very pissy, and say things like "read it yourself!" I get so stressed out when asked to give a synopsis of anything. It's actually irrational just how mad I get.

[plank80]

I can explain an idea thats in my head ok but if someone asks what a film was about or what I did yesterday it really frustrates me trying to put it together and it doesnt make sense if I manage to.

Its not freezing up under stress its poor working memory and trouble with sequencing. Common problems with ADHD.

[IronFlem]

I to do the same thing and people don't understand me. I once went to a hardware store asking how to fix something and when I left my wife said that I asked the same question but in 6 different ways.

[Sir5r1]

Originally Posted by plank80

I can explain an idea thats in my head ok but if someone asks what a film was about or what I did yesterday it really frustrates me trying to put it together and it doesnt make sense if I manage to.

Its not freezing up under stress its poor working memory and trouble with sequencing. Common problems with ADHD.

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I have no trouble explaining things, I'm a compulsive explainer.
One of the "ask me the time and I tell you how to build a watch" types.
It's how I found the career I was made for education.
But catch me off guard and ask me to verbally explain the sequence I taught today and I'm overloaded.

[munecagirl22]

ohh.. yess... its horrible when try to explain anything.. interviews are horrid no wonder i never get hired.. once when i was expelling something my interviewer thought i said i was a dancer like in coyote ugly.. she thought it was funny.. ggeze i thought this was just a "me thing"... dame u ADD!!!!!!!!!!!!

[MX2012]

Darkpk55, do you have other behaviors that you have trouble with? I am asking to see if the behavior you described is part of a larger issue.

[ADDinHDefgHi?!]

Oh yes, I had that problem, part of it was shyness and lack of confidence/poor self image. The other part of the problem was motivational and poor prioritizing on my part.

Ultimately, and I hate to say this, but Meds were the only thing and are the only thing so far that allow me to consistently do those little things in a confident way without thinking about it too much.

Of course if you're depressed (hypothetically/not saying you are) that will get in the way too.

I used to have to get up, shower, get dressed, rev myself up into a confident mood somehow... just to make a simple phone call about some trivial little thing. Now I can do it without much effort. I know the feeling you describe though, it could be part of some larger problem but whatever it is you'll feel better when you tackle it.

[Flip_Horrorshow]

Have you ever been so far even as decided to use go want to look more like?



Did I pop your brain? Good.

I usually leave out small details
Or my mind goes blank and I don't know what to say next
Either way I make hardly any sense. I've found that before I say anything, I need to go over it in my mind a few times so that I include all of the details and I know what exactly what to say. My other solution is to quit talking so much. But then people start asking 'Whats the matter', which is counter intuitive when you don't know how to explain what the matter is.

[Rebelyell]

I usually screw things all up and it gets all turned back on me which then it just leads to an attitude problem on my part w some one getting royally cussed out and told to go bleep emselves.

[salleh]

Looking back, I think ....oh yah...that's me ....but I just never put it into words.....explaining things is really difficult for me ....and the less well acqauinted I am with the subject the harder it is ....


If I know sosmething really well, I can usually get it out in some semblence of order, most of the time ....


but even though I have read so much about ADHD and have been here participating for more than 2 years now, I still have trouble explaining what it's all about .....


but ask me how to re-finsih a piece of funiture? ....I can do that ....