hi all....im new and just got diagnosed yesterday

[ehser1]

ok...so im 39 yrs old and the mother of 3...im realy ticked off that i never noticed myself that i have add/adhd...my boyfriend has it an he is the first person AFTER he finally got situated on his meds that i might have it also...what the frick...i was married for 20 years an no one ever noticed?...a couple weeks back i mentioned it to my son and he said we duuuh mom...i get all my good stuff from you....i wanted to cold cock him one...he had the nerv to tell me....mom i thought u knew...i didnt wanna say nothing cause u might take offens...seriousely??? have i been living on the darn moon???...im sorry yall im more mad at myself then anything...i had my son ..the same smart alec... tested when he first started middle school...i knew something wasnt rite...now hes 22...but ME??...lookin in hindsight i guess the signs where always there...i just never wanted to see them...anyways...thanks for letting me vent...im realy glad i found this site...thanks

[BR549]

Welcome to the forum

[kuhan1923]

haha welcome!

[jiffyPOP]

welcome, you will learn a lot here!

[Raye]

Hi, I'm also newly diagnosed last month, and my boyfriend has ADHD.


welcome

[matt4848]

I think one of the best things you can do (I was diagnosed thrusday may 24th 2012 w/ moderate/severe ADHD) - is try to keep calm. ADHD to me means I loose control when I cant keep calm. I get distracted very eaisly which can lead to misunderstanding which can lead to anger.

When you get angry, try to simply stop, breathe, count to 5 or so, let the anger do its job, then let your patience regain control of yourself. You get angry for a reason, and to try to just push it away or down will only make it worse - I think your post probably helped you relieve that pressure valve that has been building for nearly 40 years.

Getting diagnosed was both a sad and blessed event. Sad I have it, but so happy I know whats wrong and how I can correct it.

[EYEFORGOT]

Welcome ehser1. Glad you're here.

[ehser1]

thanks all....yes this post helped relieve a lil of the pressure....its still frustrating...i have a lot of patience...but it doesnt make it any easier...my sort of boyfriend frustrates me so badly...im an emotional wreck...the meds im on realy isnt effecting me as of yet since im on such a low dosage...so i tried out a double dose and it helped me focus...OMG what a difference...i was so excited...but it also made things worse....im noticing little things now i would have never paid attention to and that i apparently always dismissed....my boyfriend has no patience an that makes it harder on me...gawd why do i feel like i wanna punch someone on a regular basis...im angry and i wanna ready to cryall the time...i was like that before the meds...lol...i get to wait till next week for another doc appointment and im so not lookin forward to it...thanks to the diagnosis im required to have a menta evaluation done...yay me...im realy lookin forward to a shrink telling me in his official words how crazy i am....duuuhh..thats common knowledge for anyone that actually knows me...lmao....oh well...another hurtle another day...