No libido at 23 whats wrong??

[cinfid12]

So I literally have no libido and I am 23 years old. I also am experiencing fatigue but that is another topic. Both have been going on for a couple years. I've had all my blood drawn and all the related hormones were checked, thyroid, testosterone, etc. Every doctor says I am completely healthy.

I think its psychological but what is it?? I am not depressed or anything but when I think about it's really depressing. This may sound stupid but I am at the point now that I sometimes get lonely and would like to have a girlfriend. But there is no urge what so ever to do anything. And yes I am attracted to woman lol and was completely normal in high school.
I would appreciate it if any of you could offer some advice. Thanks

[TheChemicals]

Ah i can relate. Just drink redbull and dont jerk off. Proximity is key. The longer time you spend around women the more you will naturally gravitate and increase your sexual libido towards them. Just talk talk talk and spend all your time with the ladies. Itll be easy because you have no initial libido so it wont be about getting in there pants....yet.

The anxiety of being sexual with a woman can create low energy and disinterest. In high school all i did was chase women till i flunked out but when i hit 19, i had no libido at all, until 21. I got it back by spending a lot of time with women and one lady in particular who i felt very comfortable with and eventually we hit it off. I realized then that it was just anxiety creating the disinterest.

[Geno]

1. Buy viagra. It won't increase your libido but it'll enable you to satisfy a girl thus getting a girlfriend.

2. Are you depressed? When my depression gets bad my libido drops to zero for weeks or sometimes over a month.

[Bungison]

dont jerk off, talk to women, if that doesnt work, watch porn.

[Drewbacca]

Originally Posted by TheChemicals

Just drink redbull and dont jerk off.

Can I get this on a tee-shirt?!?!

@the OP, my libido really only took off once I was in my mid 20's and then I couldn't help but look back and wonder wtf was wrong with me from 15 through 25.
It could just be that you have different priorities.

[TheChemicals]

if you hang around women all the time, the smell of vag will trigger your sexuality.

[Geno]

Originally Posted by Bungison

dont jerk off, talk to women, if that doesnt work, watch porn.

Porn doesn't cure no libido, when you have no libido watching porn just bores you.

[Kasi]

Porn bores the ever living **** out of me and I do have a sex drive. I have absolutely no interest in it. Decent pictures or erotica, hell yes, bring it on.
If you're on any medication, it might be that, or if you're on more than one, it may be the interaction that's giving you no interest. Also, you just may be asexual, nothing wrong with it, but as other people said, it might be a mental block because you're anxious about interacting with someone in 'that way'.

[MentalNomad]

Apparently handling a gun raises testosterone levels. Maybe try that, just NOT around any current prospects!

[NateDEEzy]

What was your actual testosterone level from your blood test?

[MX2012]

Pardon me if I just butt in, but what is libido anyway? Geesh, our society practically dictates how often we have sex and what kind, then those who don't meet the criteria feel like they are losers, I say "sarahsweets" to that.

Libido to me means go get pregnant so our genes will survive. Well. guess what sometimes that is not practical.

[JustABoy]

Originally Posted by Geno

Porn doesn't cure no libido, when you have no libido watching porn just bores you.

Actually, watching porn can just have the opposite outcome.
When you watch hard-porn often, you get used to very strong sexual impulses.
And when you are with your partner, you will need such strong impulses to get turned on...

[talljonathan]

I highly recommend not watching porn. Things bore me quite easily, and when I become bored I masturbate and watch porn. After a few years of doing that, my libido is shot. I still can masturbate, but performing can be incredibly difficult...even with Viagra.

[Fuzzy12]

you said in your initial post that you were always tired. Why do you think that's not related? Sex requires quite a bit of energy. When I'm tired, stressed or have got a lot going on sex is the last thing on my mind. And you could be depressed. Anyway there is no need to believe that it's a permanent stage. People have got different priorities at different stages in time. You are still young. Get your health tested thoroughly but don't worry too much about it.

[sarahsweets]

F**K society's standards. If you have a low libidio so be it. You could always check with a uriologist (SP) to see if there is something more medical. You could also try and find a sex therapist,good psychiatrist or mens health doctor to discuss it with. Dont you DARE feel like less of a man because of this, youre worth more than that.