how does an ugly, socially inept, untalented guy get ladies

[Dmitri]

Hey guys for any of you who read my recent posts I've had this crush on a girl in my French class for a while. Yeah so I really have no talents if you don't harmonica but even then chicks don't dig harmonica players. anyways I was wondering how I could possibly get a girl to feel any attraction towards me. Is there a special trick into the female mind? Because Im Not smart attractive buff athletic or anything. what can I possibly do to work around this? What do chicks dig? Should I learn more than basic riff on gguitar? Anything? Is it even possible

[Fresh Azmiz]

Be yourself!

[Electra2]

Be honest and kind.
Show interest (care).
Don't ever cheat,or do anything like that.
Be your self,and be proud of it.
Oh,and don't call your self ugly...!
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

[Spacemaster]

be a hipster. For some reason, chicks dig it. Start wearing scarves and listen to music nobody has ever heard of. Carry around books, and sit in coffee shops, and pretend to actually enjoy it.

Ok, so not great advice, but it's sort of true. :P

So for real,
Be nice. Give genuine compliments, and be interested in what girls have to say, or at least act like it. Smile at her.

[gatorADDe]

There's only so much you can do about changing yourself for the soul purpose of impressing women. Women are really good at noticing when guys are showing off or trying to hard to impress them. I don't admit to being a womanizer, but for the success that I've had with women it came from not trying that hard at all. For example, if you genuinely enjoy playing guitar then get good at it because YOU want to. What's going to keep a girl interested in you is that you're interested in things out of your own motivation. They'll most likely find you intriguing and you'll be more than just a pretty face, but depending on how young the girls youre going for this may not have settled in yet... In all honesty, the mentality of needing to ask women what they want won't get you far. A better question is what can you do to better yourself intellectually to make you seem more interesting and attractive. The fact that you brought up "attractive buff athletic or anything" kinda seems like you're worrying about superficial bs. Not every girl is looking for a hipster, quarterback, or whatever the **** else.

[Targaryen]

I'm not a lady but my advice is be yourself and if it's meant to be it will happen. Best advice with women (and people) close your mouth, open your ears, eyes and mind and have some empathy, show them that you care and it will all work out.....it's about respect.

Do you know anything about this girl like what her interest are?

[Bob-ADHD]

If you can't impress her with anything much, just make her laugh. Although the harmonica does sound pretty sick.

[Electra2]

Originally Posted by Bob-ADHD

If you can't impress her with anything much, just make her laugh. Although the harmonica does sound pretty sick.

Harmonica is not sick its nice!

[mctavish23]

Hmmm ...

I must say that I'm unqualified to answer this question.


u r welcome

[Electra2]

Also it's good to take initiative but then again don't come off like a absolute desperate extreemly dangerous obsessive stalker kind of guy,imo.

[doiadhd]

Go for an ugly inept untalented french chick. . .you look like my ex's new bf,but not as ugly inept and untalented as him. . .so it is possible. That little ****. Stay away from my son you little ****. Compliment them,not all the time,just once every first meetin,they love that ****,harmonicars are the new drums-sure there'll be girls with t-shirts reading,i had sex with the harmonica player,and he rocked my pants. . . .in no time. God speed,good luck on your quest. And strap it on before you slap it in-peace.

[ginniebean]

Haha doi! You're being super harsh on yourself, lucky for you most women aren't that harsh.

[sarek]

Dmitri, first you must stop thinking of yourself as ugly, socially inept and untalented. You radiate outwards what you think of yourself.

Next item, just be you. There just might be someone out there who is looking for the real Dmitri.

[SquarePeg]

Electra2 has good advice. One of the most attractive qualities in a person is confidence, not to be confused with arrogance.

Plus you are what you put out there.

If you think you´re worth dating, you are
If you think you´re good looking, you are

If you accept yourself for who you are, others will too.

Sounds simple but it´s true

[Phoenix Ash]

Like others have said, it's about who you are, not how many guitar riffs you know. There is no 'special trick into the female mind'. And even if there were, we really do not like guys who are just looking for a shortcut. Trying shortcuts, in fact, is a great way to p**s a girl off.

Now then.

STOP CALLING YOURSELF UGLY INEPT UNTALENTED WHATEVER.

Seriously. If you don't like yourself, then the people you will attract are the kinds of people who are looking for people who don't like themselves.

Think about that for a minute.

Now think about the way you've been talking to yourself in your own head. And stop with the negativity. It sounds overly simplistic, but the fact is what you say to yourself does matter. Deep inside our brains (male and female) we all have this really primitive side that really does believe whatever it's told, and it helps us become whatever it is we think we are. Garbage in, garbage out. So stop being nasty to yourself and start telling that primal brain how great it is, even if you don't really believe it for awhile. Just keep doing it. The message will eventually sink in, and the cycle of negativity will break.

While you're at it, focus on exploring life, finding more things you enjoy, and getting better at the things you love. For you. Learn to love yourself, because women love THAT. We love positivity, self-respect, integrity and people who are genuine. And the older you get, the more important those things become. So work on them now, while you can get a head start, and you'll have more than your fair share of pickings in the future.

Oh, and we really, really love guys who are courageous enough to just be themselves and let the chips fall where they may, even when that's really difficult to do. Especially when that's really difficult to do.

The rewards are worth it, man. They really, really are.