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Old 01-19-13, 01:05 AM
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Male needing help with a female topic

I'm charting into unknown teritory here, but need some help. I was recently diagnoses with add inattentive subtype. On concerta doing really well at work.

My parents and none of my family know this though and have always suspected that mum also had add too. Mum went through menopause about 10 years ago. She was a wreck, she didnt deal with it well. I think she got some what better. But now seems to be worse than ever. She worries alot and what I suspect are her add symptoms are worse, it really annoys my sisters. But i some what understand what shes going through.


So heres my question does menopause effect add symptoms eg make them worse. does menopause last that long? What else could it be? Could it be just her getting old as she is 60 but i thought symptoms improved as you got older?
Any help will be great thanks.

I think after writing this I will tell them when the time is right.

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Old 01-19-13, 01:52 AM
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Re: Male needing help with a female topic

It's really sweet of you to be so understanding to this, when your sisters just get annoyed by your moms' actions during her menopause.
I believe a 60 yr old can still be in menopause, since it starts somewhere between 55 and 60, depending on the individual (some women start way earlier and some start even later).
If you can take a look at this website you will understand better what she's going through. It certainly doesn't look fun:
http://www.34-menopause-symptoms.com/

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After reading these in detail, I can only imagine the horrific ordeal your mom is going through. She needs all the support and understanding she can get right now from her family:

34 Symptoms of Menopause:
-Hot Flashes, Flushes and/or Cold Flashes
-Night Sweats
-Irregular Periods, Menstrual Irregularities
-Loss of Libido
-Mood Swings, Sudden Tears
-Fatigue
-Hair Loss or Thinning, Head, Pubic, or Whole Body;
-Increase in Facial Hair
-Menopause Sleep Disorders (With or Without Night 
Sweats)
-Difficulty Concentrating, Disorientation, Mental Confusion
-Disturbing Memory Lapses
-Dizziness, Light Headedness, Episodes of Loss of Balance
-Weight Gain during Menopause
-Incontinence, especially upon Sneezing, Laughing, Urge
-Incontinence
-Sudden Bouts of Bloat
-Changes in Fingernails-Softer, Crack or Break Easier
-Changes in Body Odor
-Bouts of Rapid Heart Beat
-Depression
-Anxiety, Feeling Ill at Ease
-Irritability
-Panic Disorder, Feelings of Dread, Apprehension, Doom
-Breast Pain
-Headaches during Menopause
-Aching, Sore Joints, Muscles and Tendons
-Burning Tongue, Burning Roof of Mouth, Bad Taste in
-Mouth, Change in Breath Odor
-Electric Shock Sensation Under the Skin And In The Head
-Digestive Problems, Gastrointestinal Distress,
-Indigestion, Flatulence, Gas Pain, Nausea
-Gum Problems, Increased Bleeding
-Increased Tension in Muscles
-Itchy, Crawly Skin
-Tingling Extremities
-Osteoporosis (After Several Years)
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Re: Male needing help with a female topic

Considering that there are many posts in which us ladies think that ADHD makes us total rage monkeys during PMS, I can only assume that menopause will be just as bad, if not worse, for someone with it. But menopause is really crappy just on its own. /-:
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Re: Male needing help with a female topic

Menopause was not nearly as bad for me as the PMS was.

Snowboarder, when you say your mom went through menopause 10 years ago,

does that mean she stopped menustrating at that time, or that she began

having perimenopause symptoms back then?


It was about 8 years from my first perimenopause symptoms to my last period,

full menopause. That's when I started having serious brain fog and hot flashes.

I welcomed menopause because it meant the end of the crazy PMS times.

I didn't welcome the brain fog. I began using a natural progesterone

cream and taking Omega 3 (fish oil). Both were very helpful for me.


The Omega 3 cleared up the menopause brain fog and improved my ADHD clarity.

But I still had hot flashes for another 10 years. I understand that the

heavier a woman is, the longer she experiences hot flashes.

I don't know if the worsened brain fog would have also have lasted 10 years,

because the Omega 3 was so helpful for me.


As far as the worrying, I've always been a worrier. Turns out that Anxiety

Disorder is very common alongside ADHD. I began taking an antidepressant

a little over a year ago to treat my anxiety and that's been really helpful.

I suggest you encourage your mom to see a woman's health doctor, and

mention her brain fog and anxiety.
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Re: Male needing help with a female topic

Mine's surgical, so very abrupt, and yeah, the brain fog is pretty heavy duty. Lunacie, you remind me to get off my *** and take my fish oil.
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Mine's surgical, so very abrupt, and yeah, the brain fog is pretty heavy duty. Lunacie, you remind me to get off my *** and take my fish oil.
I had trouble remembering to take my meds and supplements at first.

Having to give meds to the grandkids and the granddog helped me get

in the habit of taking my own pills.

Missing one or two days was no biggie, but when I missed more than that

I noticed myself blanking on things more often.

I hope the fish oil is helpful for you with brain fog too.
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Having to give meds to the grandkids and the granddog helped me get

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"Granddog". That made me smile xx
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Awww
Yes, our furry, four legged kids/grandkids are family too. And they are sooo lovable! xx
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Thanks for the tip, Lunacie. Yeah, I take way better care of my kitties than I do myself, that's for sure!
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Re: Male needing help with a female topic

My menopause was hell, and I've heard from other sources that with ADHD it's either hell or nothing.
Hormones in general takes a greater toll on us than normals, as far as I've heard.
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It's really sweet of you to be so understanding to this, when your sisters just get annoyed by your moms' actions during her menopause.
I believe a 60 yr old can still be in menopause, since it starts somewhere between 55 and 60, depending on the individual (some women start way earlier and some start even later).
Excuse me, I started going through menopause when I was 32, and only went out of it when I was spayed at the age of 39. But going thru menopause was terrible. Mood swings, bloating, weight gain, breast soreness, break thru bleeding, hot flashes, night sweats, terrible body odor, feeling tired all the time, migraines 20 days out of 30, even lower self-esteem than normal, etc.....
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