Old ADD adult warrior warns newcomers

[jimmmaaa]

I guess, maybe it would be good if we could channel our interests into some money making veture. But then we would have to keep records.......after a while we would change interests so we would have to revamp our product lines.....plus then we would have to keep records, etc. I will quit while I am behind. NEED....MORE.....COFFEE...Starbucks here I come!

[joanrdtobe]

James: Could you please get me an iced decaf while you're there??? With milk and sweet and low??? Thanks...have a great day....

[Garry]

Next Time you have a ICE CAPACHINO

ask them to make it with 3/4 chocolate milk

mmmmm mmmmmm good

i have to admit gary that does sound pretty good, a frapachino made with chocolate milk

[Garry]

good is an understatment my friend

deliousious and fattening but worth it

[joanrdtobe]

Actually Garry since Dan and I became friends, we've shared one or two of these coffee delights and fattening is right. I swear we might as well just eat a hot fudge sundae or something. Problaby same calories But yup, those calories are worth it...you're right

[Peter]

Great posting!

I'm going to create a link to it and post it on our CHADD Chapter blog. Excellent advice for any man or woman.

I was diagnosed last fall (officially) at the age of 43. At the insistence of a friend I attended the CHADD conference in Florida... found myself crying at the end of it during Tom Brown's closing remarks. Lots of grief and wasted opportunities to let go of.

As for the future, I am hopeful. If there's anyone out there who has similarly struggled and overcome (compensated, adjusted, etc.) for their ADD to live a more successful HAPPIER life- I'd love to hear from you. In particular, what is that you did that made (makes!) the difference?

Peter

[Garry]

Yes peter it was a great posting

I also put a link on my web page so I wouldnt't loose track of it and that I could share it with others

[waywardclam]

Nnamelet...

You're hitting hard and home here.

I have tears in my eyes.

dammit

[Wheel1975]

I have a son.

He walks steps i took in school. The difference? He is getting A's because that is how smart he is and we have supported in structure some of the things i did not have but needed from the outside when i was a kid.

But i lament that he does not heed my warnings. I can tell him that he needs to own his responsibility to discover what he neeeds to succeed, and he shrugs it off.

I know many things i need, and i cannot seem to arrange for them in my own life.

i don't need a wake up call, I'm awake. I need external structure, and companionship and team work, and variety, and flexibility and latitude, and reminders, not nags, etc., and i have not figured out how to get my own pit crew of support, when others have pit crews, or my staff of support when senators have staffs, or... and quite simply without what is needed there is no success.

[smooch]

innocentat50's initial post (and subsequent responses) has been moved to the Introductions and Stories section...

[Wheel1975]

http://www.addforums.com/forums/show...&threadid=2319

[Andrew]

Thanks Smooch & Wheel

[joanrdtobe]

Originally posted by Wheel1975


I know many things i need, and i cannot seem to arrange for them in my own life.

i don't need a wake up call, I'm awake. I need external structure, and companionship and team work, and variety, and flexibility and latitude, and reminders, not nags, etc., and i have not figured out how to get my own pit crew of support, when others have pit crews, or my staff of support when senators have staffs, or... and quite simply without what is needed there is no success.

Isn't THIS the truth? And I agree. I probably don't need a wake-up call either. I guess as I read your post, I realize I got plenty of them in various and sundry forms.....over and over...

It's the things you mention that come AFTER the wake up call that matter..and how to get them...and arrange for them....or get them arranged....as you say....

[innocentat50]

Hi,
I do not know how these types of forums/threads work and I do not know if I am still in the thread that I first introduced myself. However, I just noticed that smooch, whoever this is, moved the thread. I do not know where to or what this means, but the reason I am writing now is that smooch has several quotes at the end of his/her paragraphs and I have an issue with one of them. It is the quote by Eleanor Roosevelt that says "nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission". This quote is wrong. totally wrong. Eleanor Roosevelt did not know what she was talking about when and if she said that. Have you ever considered what happens when little children are made to feel inferior? Do little children even have the capacity to say no, that's not true, when someone tells them or treats them like inferior? I as a child believed my mother 100% in everything she said, and she told me many times every day that my peers were better than I was and that I was killing her. I believed all of that and it did make me feel inferior to this day. It was only 2 days ago that I realized that when she said all of these things that I had straight A's in school, played better piano than ALL of my classmates, and could not possibly have been inferior. Yet, it did not take my permission to feel inferior because I was dependent and unable to make up my own mind. I believe that this is most of my problem: for 50 years I felt inferior and never stood up for myself. Therefore whatever came along bowled me right over and I often just stepped back when someone else wanted something that belonged to me. Anyway, my experience may apply to many other people who for whatever reason cannot stand up to whoever makes them feel inferior. Just my own 2cents worth.