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Old 07-19-13, 12:54 PM
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

Thank you for that.

My son is 5 years old and was recently diagnosed with adhd and ODD. We've had him assessed, and on Tuesday, we went to the paed who prescribed Ritalin 10mg LA for 2 weeks initially, to see how things go.

Tomorrow morning he will have his very first pill - we have to sprinkle it though as he can't swallow a pill yet.

I'm almost in tears as I type this.

My eldest son is almost 10 and he was diagnosed around the same age. He is thriving at school on his Concerta 27mg and I remember crying when I gave him his first pill too.... that was 4 years.

I have so much anxiety and fear inside of me and I know I shouldn't feel this way because I've seen the effects of the meds on my eldest and I cldn't have asked for better.

No mother WANTS to give their child medication. Trust me, if you told me 5 years ago that my son was going to be on Ritalin/Concerta, I would've told you to go to hell.

I'm so afraid that he's going to lose his personality.... he's a naughty bugger and so loving at the same time. Such a little character. (yes, naughty is not a good word because it's not really naughtiness.... you know what I mean)
He's got bright orange hair too, which makes him even more special.

Ok, now i'm in tears.

Please think of me.... I will let you know how it went/goes...

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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

The hardest thing was for me as a mother to request my son get medication. I didn't mind his behavior with me because I can handle it, but it was getting tough on the daycare providers. I cried when the psychiatrist said he was adhd. I cried. I knew something was wrong because I homeschool him part time because i work full time and i couldnt hold his attention for more than 15min. Educational apps on his tablet engage him. He was on Methylphenidate 5mg twice a day, and tenex 5mg evenings. He was getting worse and I requested longer lasting meds. He is now on methyphenidate 10mg twice a day and intuniv 2mg for the evenings. Started this week monday and tueesday he was just hitting, spitting...the same old thing...but wed thursday he was great!!!! I must add I added a watch that vibrate to remind him every half hour to behave. It's too early to tell, but I'll know when he goes to preschool next week
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. It is so helpful for me to read stories like yours as I'm making decisions about my son's treatment.
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

I just made a thread about it, but I think this article also belongs here
http://www.salon.com/2013/11/17/lay_...aughters_adhd/
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

I say you should still start a blog!
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

I was anti med because of fear, I was afraid to permanently change the child I love. Fearful of side effects, fearful of having to change medications or add new symptoms. We tried everything, and we had to make this decision and we chose not to medicate at one time out of love and fear and now we choose to medicate for love and fear, fear for what will happen if we don't medicate or at least give it at try. thank you for this post as it touches on how I am feeling right now, we are only in day 3 and praying that my child does ok.
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

Thank you for this post. I first read it back in August when my four year old was waiting for evaluation. He was diagnosed as severe combined ADHD and we started medication. The difference was immediate and huge. Two months later he is back in daycare and doing really well. I have hope for school going well now. Your post helped tremendously.
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

Thank you for posting this. I am new to this forum and I just read your post and all of the responses.

First, I have to say that I do not medicate my child. However, I bristled when I heard the term "anti-med brigade". That is not me. I respect the choices that all parents make as these choices are not easy ones - they are very personal, individual and, oftentimes fraught with intense emotions.

What is bothersome to me is that the issue of who loves his child more or less would even be raised. The very fact that there is division among a community such as this - not just on the forum, but the greater community of parents who share a common issue - is senseless, in my opinion. I have had amazing support and advice from parents who medicate and those who don't. Why should it matter?

Like so many other things in life, we put others down to pull ourselves up. For years, I was fearful of what others would think or say; that they would judge me or my child or my parenting skills. I've learned that what others think does not matter and I should not have to defend my choices to others.

I applaud you for your post because I saw myself and my child in your story. It wasn't the to medicate or not to medicate premise that drew me in or made me connect to you. It was simply the human story of being a parent to a child with ADHD and what you and your child go through. And, I was so happy to hear a happy ending and the pride in your words.

Yes, everyone has an opinion, but let's not jump so quickly to deem them ignorant or as*holes or parents who don't love their children. That's not helpful to the conversation and it's certainly not supportive.
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

If I may, I don't think that Sarah is saying that those who don't medicate their children are ignorant or don't love them. (I don't medicate mine and I definitely love her; my ignorance is entirely beside the point ).

I think when Sarah refers to people being ignorant, from her story I think she specifically means those who opine on her personal decision to medicate her children; that definitely doesn't refer to all people who don't medicate their children. It sounds like you've put a lot of thought into this and I'm sure she wouldn't call you ignorant. Also, regarding Sarah's point specifically, I humbly agree with her; I think 'ignorant' is a fair assessment for those who would criticize a parent simply for medicating their child considering there is no legitimate and medically substantiated point of view that no child should ever be medicated. And again, that's not you; I think what you said is very reasonable and makes a lot of sense.

I can see how one could miss it, but I've been here a while and have read a lot of her posts, so it was clear to me that she was explicitly referring to people who criticize her parenting decisions without offering anything constructive. So really, I am certain she is not referring to you and I definitely don't think she would take issue with your position here. (sorry for constantly repeating myself - I have comorbid OCD )
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I'm RETURNING to this FANTASTIC POST to say.......

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU
for giving ME the courage to finally, after TWO YEARS MAKE the medication appointment.... for my (severely) ADHD Five year old, son..

a little background info..... I am ADHD (diagnosed @12) my two brothers (both diagnosed as teens) and my bio-father, ALL adhd, ALL use either adderall and/or strattera together, for the best results.

my son's first "notes" he may have impulse/hyper active issues was at 30 months old, yes just over 2.5 years old..... we were sent to this early intervention program for different evaluations, because he was "delayed" in speech, fine motor skills, and I forget what else.

Along came head start (preschool) and speech therapy at three and half years old.... the ENTIRE school year, I had nothing BUT PRESSURE from the school, to "look into other treatments" (they meant medications) because they were already using EVERY behavioral intervention they had... and it was still pretty difficult for him, at school...

WELL this last year, at four and half,,, he went thru about half the school year and MAJOR changes/disruptions began at home, as well.
before that,
it seemed his "disruptions" were ONLY at school, and I didn't notice much issue, at home... But, yes about six months ago, all of a sudden, he had "caught up" as far as speech, motor skills, academics, ETC.... but gone steps backwards in confidence, social skills, ETC.

I can honestly say,,,, the difference is freaking amazing.. No he's NO zombie, no people can't even really "tell" he's on anything... he's not MELLOW by ANY MEANS OF THE IMAGINATION..

but..... he doesn't DART INTO ONCOMING TRAFFIC....
he is able to HEAR ME CALL HIS NAME, and actually is able to STOP and look at me... something that was just IMPOSSIBLE, before the meds...

he's on just 10mg of adderall ER... we tried the XR first, but it wore off by 1pm, and his preschool didn't even start until 115pm...

anyway,
this kid went from being sent HOME, DAILY.... I mean sometimes he made it 30 minutes...and I had at LEAST one meeting per week, with ALL THE TEACHERS... (oh yes, those are fun !!!)

While it did take SIX MONTHS to get him into a specialist for his age group... wow it was totaly worth it...
he's riding without his training wheels, (which he calls himself a "big kid" for) he's going to KINDERGARTEN (full day) in September,
and does NOT qualify for ESD (special ed) next year, because he surpassed all his intellectual goals...

I actually saw two different specialists, and BOTH said he had one of the MOST SEVERE CASES, they'd seen..... I have seen MOST of his anxiety completely disappear.... and although we still have the occasional "meltdown" over things like untied shoes, or the ketchup packet opening wrong,,, we have MORE GOOD DAYS than bad, now....

I'm one proud parent,
and I can honestly say it's this OP's story, HERE and others like it, that allowed me to (excuse my french)
GROW THE BALLS NECESSARY TO DO THIS....

because SO MANY people have nothing but NEGATIVE **** TO SAY about it... I always say to them,,,,

well I'm OPEN TO NEW IDEAS!!! are you OFFERING TO BABYSIT???
only thing, is it's got to be a MIN of SIX HOURS, so you can see his "true colors" and THEN YOU TELL ME WHAT THE HELL YOU"D DO, K???

LOL

sorry for the LONG post to SAY THANK YOU,,, but I really, really mean it.





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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

oh Sarah....... i LOVE your post. especially the last 2 paragraphs which I will past to work, copy 10 times, cut out onto little bits of paper and give to any *****ers who look at me disgustedly when I talk about medicating my son.

thank you!!!!!
very inspiring!!!!

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DEAR PEOPLE who think they can parent my son, better than me...

he's available for the weekend,
what time are you coming to pick him up???
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

I really like your post! I have been struggling with my 12 year old son. He was diagnosed at 7 years old but I knew when he was about 3. I just got the run around from the doctors. He is only 3, he is a boy blah blah blah lol. He is the youngest of my 3 kids and I could see a big difference and knew something wasn't right. Mine has been on the same medication for years (Concerta 54) but has now outgrown it and we are trying to find something that works. He has horrible meltdowns with many of these meds and we are just trying to find the right one. I am firm believer in medication. Everyone has their opinion about it. Maybe some do well with other alternatives. I am glad to see your son is doing well. My son has his issues but is overall a good kid. Its just a daily struggle for all of us.
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Re: medicating my son and why I loved him enough to try

Hi,

Thanks for this thread. I'm also thinking about medication. My son is 12 years old and I'm exhausted. He's been diagnosed as having adhd 3 months ago. I always knew something was wrong with him. I took me ages to learn about adhd, treatments, therapy, parenting...

I feel now more confident to give a try for medication. I feel guilty when I read success stories with natural supplements, diet, devices... Sometimes I feel judged as if I was going to poison or kill my child slowly. It's not an easy decision we should take our time and think carefully. What matters is our children's wellbeing that's it. If they feel well we will feel too and our families as well.
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Hi,

Thanks for this thread. I'm also thinking about medication. My son is 12 years old and I'm exhausted. He's been diagnosed as having adhd 3 months ago. I always knew something was wrong with him. I took me ages to learn about adhd, treatments, therapy, parenting...

I feel now more confident to give a try for medication. I feel guilty when I read success stories with natural supplements, diet, devices... Sometimes I feel judged as if I was going to poison or kill my child slowly. It's not an easy decision we should take our time and think carefully. What matters is our children's wellbeing that's it. If they feel well we will feel too and our families as well.
I suspect that many, if not most, of those success stories are made up hype to advertise some product.
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