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Re: The what's bothering you RIGHT NOW thread Part IV

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Re: The what's bothering you RIGHT NOW thread Part IV

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What is it that I need to do in order to implement what I want to implement? How can I place my opinion, in matters of caring for myself, above everyone else's opinion?
It's not about what you need to do...it's about what you need to stop doing.


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What do I need to stop doing?
Relinquishing your agency and autonomy.

Viewing a part of yourself as other, and not part of your person, under your control.

Thinking the locus of your power is outside yourself.


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Re: The what's bothering you RIGHT NOW thread Part IV

My dad's going to die. I mean...maybe not. But maybe.
Don't we all though?

Been up in the ER room with him for the past few hours. He does this every month or so...where he works himself into worrying that he's having another heart attack, so goes up to see the doctors to make sure.
Of course he never follows through for long with what they tell him.

Yet again they did a ton of tests and scans on him tonight. Everything is in the clear. They'd love to keep him for a day or 2 to keep a good eye on him and run some other tests...but as always he refused.

He's been tough to be around too...cause he's been going on and on lately about how no one loves him, and how he's got no one, and how hard life is for him, and how difficult work is...and on and on...and that kind of pi** poor attitude always bugs the heck out of me. Drains me of ANY positive vibes I may have going immediately. Leaves me on edge and angry.

And I don't know what to do. I feel like he expects me to walk into his life and somehow become his hero. Be a super friend to him, make him happy, help him get his sh*t together...etc. etc.
But I can't guys "(. I can't even get the basics in life done for myself right now...i can't even care for my own self, let alone try to care for such a broken person as my dad.

The only thing the doctor told my dad is that his heart is becoming very large. And it's not like with athletes...where big muscles mean good things like extra strength and stamina. It means my dad's heart it going to continue to weaken, and eventually fail to pump well enough.

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I'm just talking.
Bleh.
I wish talking helped. I wish talking about my mom helped. It really doesn't do a lot.
Who knows...my dad could well be around for awhile yet.
But he might not be.
...I was more prepared to lose my dad in life then I was my mother...but I don't know how long I can go without either of them.
I rely too much on them dam it.

I'm gonna stop talking now. I'm just bored I guess?
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Re: The what's bothering you RIGHT NOW thread Part IV

Psycho- I know how much you love your Dad, and how much you loved your mom. I wish you were in the position to get some help with things. Its a lot for one person to handle at least emotionally and I fear than when its just you after awhile you will feel you lost out on things, only because you were being a good son.
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*sends psycho the much desired by everyone "Best Son Award" which I just made up*
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*sends psycho the much desired by everyone "Best Son Award" which I just made up*
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*sends psycho the much desired by everyone "Should Be Better Son Award" which I just made up*
Now that's the kind of award I deserve! That's what should be written on my tombstone lol...

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It implies judgement and criticism from others and has nothing to do with what
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self esteem. I vote we eradicate that word from our memories right now!

What word?

I dunno, just one of those things that's on the tip of your tongue and then it's gone ...
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If there was ever a word that doesn't belong in our dictionary, it's "should."

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we need to do to take care of ourselves. It's probably the leading cause of low
self esteem. I vote we eradicate that word from our memories right now!

What word?

I dunno, just one of those things that's on the tip of your tongue and then it's gone ...
Insightful. That should work well.
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Relinquishing your agency and autonomy.

Viewing a part of yourself as other, and not part of your person, under your control.

Thinking the locus of your power is outside yourself.


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Can anyone add to what Aeon said? I think I understand, but need more information.
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Re: The what's bothering you RIGHT NOW thread Part IV

So on a facebook group I sometimes visit, I asked a question about switching cat food brands and made it clear I don't want the response "feed raw food it's the best thing for them" etc because of Ebony's vommitting issues and also I can't get raw pet food here.

Someone starts pushing raw food even though I made it clear I didn't want that response and explained why.
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So on a facebook group I sometimes visit, I asked a question about switching cat food brands and made it clear I don't want the response "feed raw food it's the best thing for them" etc because of Ebony's vommitting issues and also I can't get raw pet food here.

Someone starts pushing raw food even though I made it clear I didn't want that response and explained why.
You can make your own. What a chore. Or, give the Laxatone a try.
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Re: The what's bothering you RIGHT NOW thread Part IV

And even more things to worry about, ferretface ex is bothering me yet again.

Tigger, can you go bite ferretface for me? Hard?
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