The what's bothering you RIGHT NOW thread Part IV

[midnightstar]

Originally Posted by Little Missy

You can make your own. What a chore. Or, give the Laxatone a try.

I'm hesitant to give Ebony anything raw because of her vommitting issues, I know raw chicken is a bad thing to give them if it's raw (salmonella and other nasty things)

As much as they love the idea of trying raw meat when I'm putting it in the pan to cook it for dinner, I don't want to put Ebony's health or life at risk. Which feeding her the wrong thing would.

[midnightstar]

Tigger, rather than playbiting me can you bite ferretface non-playfully?

[Little Missy]

-3 "feels like" -22 something is not correct

[WhiteOwl]

Originally Posted by aeon

It seems normal in that he might want to relieve his own anxiety about a stranger being around the children, but he's not likely to express that in a way that communicates his own vulnerabilities and/or fears.

I don't have the sense you owe him anything.

And certainly, his "approval" is neither required nor relevant.

Obviously this has legal implications if there are issues of custody and rulings.

And don't meet the girlfriend. That can come a lot later, if at all.


Cheers,
Ian

Thank you. I think it would be a little different of he was more active in his kids' lives, but since he's not, I think this is more an issue of him just wanting to be controlling. He does have some mild control issues, which actually ended up being the final straw in our marriage. I gave him some info on my bf and told him I don't mind talking about things, but that I'm not comfortable asking my bf to meet him (at least not yet) and that after 14 yrs marriage and me doing most of the childraising, he should be able to trust me to keep the kids safe. That seemed to shut him up for now.

[aeon]

I shopped, unloaded and put away, but now I have to move my car, and it is -14°F outside, and I am spent.

Sometimes fibromyalgia pain is debilitating.


Ugh,
Ian

[aeon]

My heart to those stranded by the Liverpool carpark fire.


Well Wishes,
Ian

[Little Missy]

Originally Posted by aeon

My heart to those stranded by the Liverpool carpark fire.


Well Wishes,
Ian

I was okay until I read this.

[Lunacie]

Originally Posted by aeon

My heart to those stranded by the Liverpool carpark fire.


Well Wishes,
Ian

Thankfully no one was hurt, not people or horses.

[psychopathetic]

Dad had another heart attack last night. Was up with him again at the hospital all night.

They just got him in an ambulance and are transferring him to a bigger/better equipped hospital a few hours away. They wanted to fly him...but the weather is too bad...and I couldn't drive him, because they need him to stay on some sort of med that prevents his blood from clotting through an I.V..

I don't want to do this. I don't want to drive down there today and spend the next few days sitting there. I think he'll be fine...but then again, I thought my mom was going to be fine too. /cry. I sure wish my mom was here...she'd be freaking out and emotional, and yet somehow through it all she'd handle everything and be a better care taker to my dad that I'll ever be.

But I'm going to do it of course. Taking a moment to type this up, then I'll pack a few clothes (already got my dad a bunch of stuff packed from his house, an called his work to let them know what's going on).

I came home last night for a few hours so that I could get a couple of hours of sleep (while he did the same in the er room).
I had this wicked nightmare where a doctor was expaining some options to me with my dad...and then he asked me something and I don't know exactly whaat he said or how it was worded...and it took me a bit of time in my dream to figure out what he meant.
He was explaining to me that there was nothing left they could do for my dad. That they could keep him connected to machines and the I.V. drip to keep him from having another heart attack...but he was at this point pretty much gone. The doctor could give him a shot thst would relax him to sleep and he'd pass away in his sleep.

I woke from the dream weeping and yelling and screaming over and over...

"DON'T ASK ME THAT! DON'T ASK ME THAT! DON'T ASK ME THAT!!! "

Oh well.
I gotta go.
I don't want to.
But I will.
Damn it . I just want some peace right now.

[Lunacie]

Oh psycho

As frustrated as you are with your dad, you don't really want to lose him.

What a crazy bundle of feelings to deal with.

Wish I could do something to help you.

Just know that you can always PM me if you need to talk or vent or cry.

I'm having a hard time this holiday missing my mom and my sister.
My grandkids are having a hard time missing their dad.
Holidays are supposed to be happy times ... but they aren't always.

[Little Missy]

Originally Posted by Lunacie

Oh psycho

As frustrated as you are with your dad, you don't really want to lose him.

What a crazy bundle of feelings to deal with.

Wish I could do something to help you.

Just know that you can always PM me if you need to talk or vent or cry.

I'm having a hard time this holiday missing my mom and my sister.
My grandkids are having a hard time missing their dad.
Holidays are supposed to be happy times ... but they aren't always.

I experienced THE WILDEST lot of vignettes that overlapped and twisted and none of them are even related to me. A mess. Buncha NUTS. GOD!

[Unmanagable]

Hugs, psych. Take kind care of you while caring for dad.

[finallyfound10]

Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

[Fuzzy12]

Originally Posted by psychopathetic

Dad had another heart attack last night. Was up with him again at the hospital all night.

They just got him in an ambulance and are transferring him to a bigger/better equipped hospital a few hours away. They wanted to fly him...but the weather is too bad...and I couldn't drive him, because they need him to stay on some sort of med that prevents his blood from clotting through an I.V..

I don't want to do this. I don't want to drive down there today and spend the next few days sitting there. I think he'll be fine...but then again, I thought my mom was going to be fine too. /cry. I sure wish my mom was here...she'd be freaking out and emotional, and yet somehow through it all she'd handle everything and be a better care taker to my dad that I'll ever be.

But I'm going to do it of course. Taking a moment to type this up, then I'll pack a few clothes (already got my dad a bunch of stuff packed from his house, an called his work to let them know what's going on).

I came home last night for a few hours so that I could get a couple of hours of sleep (while he did the same in the er room).
I had this wicked nightmare where a doctor was expaining some options to me with my dad...and then he asked me something and I don't know exactly whaat he said or how it was worded...and it took me a bit of time in my dream to figure out what he meant.
He was explaining to me that there was nothing left they could do for my dad. That they could keep him connected to machines and the I.V. drip to keep him from having another heart attack...but he was at this point pretty much gone. The doctor could give him a shot thst would relax him to sleep and he'd pass away in his sleep.

I woke from the dream weeping and yelling and screaming over and over...

"DON'T ASK ME THAT! DON'T ASK ME THAT! DON'T ASK ME THAT!!! "

Oh well.
I gotta go.
I don't want to.
But I will.
Damn it . I just want some peace right now.

Omg psycho I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this and I hope your dad will make a speedy recovery. Here's a million wishes that 2018 will be better for you again. You've just had too much to deal with and you deserve a break.


Lots of hugs. Drive carefully!!

[WhiteOwl]

Originally Posted by psychopathetic

Dad had another heart attack last night. Was up with him again at the hospital all night.

They just got him in an ambulance and are transferring him to a bigger/better equipped hospital a few hours away. They wanted to fly him...but the weather is too bad...and I couldn't drive him, because they need him to stay on some sort of med that prevents his blood from clotting through an I.V..

I don't want to do this. I don't want to drive down there today and spend the next few days sitting there. I think he'll be fine...but then again, I thought my mom was going to be fine too. /cry. I sure wish my mom was here...she'd be freaking out and emotional, and yet somehow through it all she'd handle everything and be a better care taker to my dad that I'll ever be.

But I'm going to do it of course. Taking a moment to type this up, then I'll pack a few clothes (already got my dad a bunch of stuff packed from his house, an called his work to let them know what's going on).

I came home last night for a few hours so that I could get a couple of hours of sleep (while he did the same in the er room).
I had this wicked nightmare where a doctor was expaining some options to me with my dad...and then he asked me something and I don't know exactly whaat he said or how it was worded...and it took me a bit of time in my dream to figure out what he meant.
He was explaining to me that there was nothing left they could do for my dad. That they could keep him connected to machines and the I.V. drip to keep him from having another heart attack...but he was at this point pretty much gone. The doctor could give him a shot thst would relax him to sleep and he'd pass away in his sleep.

I woke from the dream weeping and yelling and screaming over and over...

"DON'T ASK ME THAT! DON'T ASK ME THAT! DON'T ASK ME THAT!!! "

Oh well.
I gotta go.
I don't want to.
But I will.
Damn it . I just want some peace right now.

I'm so sorry about your dad. Hoping for a speedy recovery.