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Be kind; you just can't know what people might be going through in their lives outside of work.
Also (if you work in a larger place) don't get sucked into negativity and office politics that might be spread around by some "clique" of employees.
Great advice, Stef.

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As hard as it is try not to use emotions when dealing with people or work circumstances always take a step back and evaluate you next step. use logic and facts not emotions.
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Work is a gift,

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Be mindful of who you can trust.
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Learn what motivates, bothers and worries the boss.
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Remember that a "yes" answer is not a guarantee of delivery. People use the term loosely these days. Always look for "how" something will be done. That's what makes the "yes" matter.
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The most realistically way to get ahead is to work hard first and unfortunately also have to suck up and socialize with the bosses. Usually, with ample amounts of alcohol and laughter. You have to build a relationship spending time as a friend almost, whether you like them or not. That's the hard part for me.

Just my opinions from my own experience in the corporate world. I performed well at the hard work part. Just couldn't handle all the sucking-up, political socializing and BS. It's truly a game and the one's who play it the best get ahead. The hardest working and best performing are usually over looked if they don't play the game.

I've seen too many people promoted that weren't qualified or even particularly good at their current position. The one thing they had in common was they were very good at playing the game.
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Never tell anyone at work including your boss about your adhd.
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Never tell anyone at work including your boss about your adhd.
Why did I not think of this?!
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Do not become friends with anyone you work with on Facebook and do not date anyone you work with.
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Try to be a collaborator, someone who works well with others.
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The most realistically way to get ahead is to work hard first and unfortunately also have to suck up and socialize with the bosses. Usually, with ample amounts of alcohol and laughter. You have to build a relationship spending time as a friend almost, whether you like them or not. That's the hard part for me.

Just my opinions from my own experience in the corporate world. I performed well at the hard work part. Just couldn't handle all the sucking-up, political socializing and BS. It's truly a game and the one's who play it the best get ahead. The hardest working and best performing are usually over looked if they don't play the game.

I've seen too many people promoted that weren't qualified or even particularly good at their current position. The one thing they had in common was they were very good at playing the game.
I read this earlier and never had time to answer
That just really is so sad;
I've never worked in a kind of structure where this is possible (because as an assistant working for specific people, there is no "promotion" in the first place, except working for the higher up partners as you go along.)
I don't think that forced socializing with the bosses could ever end well.
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Don't tell anyone at work that you have AD(H)D.
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Remember that "yes" is nothing without how. Upper management can make promises all day long and never be able to fulfill them.
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I read this earlier and never had time to answer
That just really is so sad;
I've never worked in a kind of structure where this is possible (because as an assistant working for specific people, there is no "promotion" in the first place, except working for the higher up partners as you go along.)
I don't think that forced socializing with the bosses could ever end well.
Yes, that is really sad and unfortunately very true. Socializing is about fitting in and being one of the good Ole boys. That rarely ends well for many of us because our minds are literally different from them so can be so hard to fit in and be like everyone else.
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