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Old 10-30-17, 09:43 AM
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parenting/news headlines triggering intrusive thoughts

this is more of a vent than a question, but i do wonder if i'm alone in being so sensitive to these things.

specifically, headlines that have to do with children. i don't want this post to turn political and most of the ones i see are from parenting websites. like scary mommy, where just today there was one about losing a child. but i was listening to NPR the other day and they spoke about the millions of children in yemen who are malnourished.

hearing, seeing titles (i don't read the articles EVER)...triggers my intrusive thoughts. and it's brutal.

i'm on a lot of medication for this and it largely works. it enables me to use my CBT and other therapy to avoid going too far down that path.

but then i think, how ****ty that i'm this overly sensitive person who can't deal with the realities of the world.

the fact of the matter is, though, i can't. i can't do it. i feel like an ostrich sticking my head in the sand and that offends my sense of social justice and responsibility. but if i don't, i'll just be gutted for a day or more and too low functioning to care for my small girl, who, of course, has priority.

i've done exposure and response therapy and i've done ...i've done a lot of therapy for this particular issue. and, as i said, i take...of the five meds i take, three are for my OCD. well...kinda 2.5 because the ativan could be said to be for both that and my primary diagnosis.

before i had a small girl this particular thing didn't get to me so much. animals in pain...oh my ****, i will defriend anyone on facebook who puts up a video (which is supposed to be showing people the harm we do to animals...but i already know and i canNOT have those images in my mind...they'll do me in).

so i avoid. it's this very careful balance of not avoiding certain things (like, i've also had agoraphobia and not left my house for weeks...even months...during daylight hours) but having to shut out others.

i hate mental illness. and on the one hand i wish i weren't so susceptible, but on the other, i don't want to become desensitized to seeing suffering. i just wish seeing it...or even the mention of it in certain contexts, didn't level me.

since i've had a small girl...anything to do with babies/children being abused, neglected, suffering, dying...i can barely type that and keep my **** together. i imagine a lot of non OCD mums have some degree of reaction to such things after having children, but it's shutting my world down in ways...isolating me.

that's the worst thing long term about OCD for me. it's so isolating.

anyway...vent over. or share over. whatever this is. i'm hitting submit.

much love to all,
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Re: parenting/news headlines triggering intrusive thoughts

I isolate any thing I find to be detrimental to my happiness or distasteful. Period. I do not want to know. You are not alone.

I believe it is a good thing to protect yourself and your child from those things.

If I were to come upon something like the aforementioned in person, woe to whom committed such an atrocity. I have no off switch for that.
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Re: parenting/news headlines triggering intrusive thoughts

Péri, OCD and other isues aside,
I think that once you've had a child, reactions to such things are particularly amplified (and I am certainly not implying that anyone without children, is heartless or indifferent)

I don't read these news items myself. I love British literature and even crossing some passage in Dickens, can be strangely upsetting.
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Re: parenting/news headlines triggering intrusive thoughts

Humans aren't rational people, we never will be, and don't be unnecessarily harsh on yourself for having mental health issues. As you've said, there are a lot of horrible things going on in the world, but remember that you're not responsible for any of it, and you're a good person!

All you need to focus on is raising your kid to be happy and healthy!
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I don't have this problem to your severity, but things get to me, too, and I avoid a lot. We recently had the flooding from Hurricane Harvey here in TX and I heard a story involving children that was so horrific, I cried for days. Some things are just too much for me, too.

It doesn't help that the media seems to be getting more graphic. Some things just don't need to be said or shown, imo.
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