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Old 04-06-17, 07:55 PM
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Spanked as a child?

I grew up in a time and place where spanking kids was a regularly used method of discipline e. Adults including neighbors and others like authorities etc. could and would spank you if they thought you needed it.

Then they would call your mom and more trouble again when you got home. Let me see, I was spanked by mother and father, grandparents, neighbors, teachers, principals, bus driver and soccer coach.

Spanked with open hand, wooden spoons, paddles of various sizes, belts and even a broken t.v. antenna (for those who remember them).

I got in trouble a lot. I know my spanking experiences have shaped me greatly in both positive and very negative ways. I am just not totally sure how.

Please share any personal spanking stories or first hand experience with this. I definitely want to avoid discussing or debating whether spanking is an acceptable method of discipline or abuse. Please avoid.

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Re: Spanked as a child?

I grew up mischievous and in a similar culture where spanking was the approved method of punishment. I've never been spanked by a neighbor, a teacher, or anyone else other than my parents although I did see a wailing kid get whacked pretty good several times by a teacher with a yardstick. I have only one memory of being spanked that I would say traumatized me, but I really did deserve it. Let's just say that as an 11 year-old you don't throw lit matches into a pile of kindling wood and sawdust -- that's in a garage with cars. Not a good thing to do and my butt felt it for several days. Oh, the things I wish I could do over again in life.
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Re: Spanked as a child?

Believe me, my parents wanted to spank me - my mum always spoke of it - but my parents agreed I was way too loud and the entire neighbourhood would know. I've already mentioned this here. Sorry, I was The Unspankable.

No neighbours, they all thought I was so polite they wanted me to play with their children. No teachers, never my grandmas, etc.

BUT my parents had a method with me. They would give me a LOOK that burned with the fire of A Thousand Suns. Scared the hell out of me. They would pull me aside, give me the look and explain their disappointment. It worked.
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Re: Spanked as a child?

I was spanked, rarely, only by my parents. It was scary for me, much more than I now know was justified. But I think that's the point - I was really scared.
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Re: Spanked as a child?

Soap in mouth wasn't much fun. But, by far the worst punishment I ever got, which was extraordinarily cruel, but only applied for my most severe misconduct, involved getting a book, sitting in one place, and reading it. I don't know how I survived.
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Re: Spanked as a child?

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Believe me, my parents wanted to spank me - my mum always spoke of it - but my parents agreed I was way too loud and the entire neighbourhood would know. I've already mentioned this here. Sorry, I was The Unspankable.

No neighbours, they all thought I was so polite they wanted me to play with their children. No teachers, never my grandmas, etc.

BUT my parents had a method with me. They would give me a LOOK that burned with the fire of A Thousand Suns. Scared the hell out of me. They would pull me aside, give me the look and explain their disappointment. It worked.

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Re: Spanked as a child?

No never. Not by anyone. As far as I know my friends weren't either. It was considered very bad parenting but I doubt it ever crossed my parent's mind tgat they could spank me. I don't even remember them yelling at me.

in school the teachers weren't allowed out to. I think there was even a rumour that if a teacher slapped you you could slap them hack within 30s. Anyway I doubt that ever jappened.

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Re: Spanked as a child?

Yes, I was spanked. Only with an open hand, never anything else.

I don't think it would have been considered "gold standard" parenting, and certainly my parents didn't enjoy doing it, but it was within the realm of what was considered "normal" when and where I grew up; no one would have called Child and Family Services to report it, unless there was evidence of other abuse involved.

Also had my mouth washed out with soap a few times.

It made an impression (not physically), but I'm not sure it always made the impression intended.
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Re: Spanked as a child?

namazu: Exactly. Children always learn from what their parents do - but parents forget that what the child learns is completely up to the child.

One simplistic example that many people can relate to with a bit less emotional baggage: if you call a dog to come to you and then tell him he's a bad dog for something he did, he learns "Next time, don't come when they call".
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Re: Spanked as a child?

I was never spanked as a child.

My mum never demonstrated that sort of restraint, you see.

No, she explored that sentiment to the fullest potential.

A spanking would have been a reprieve of sorts.


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Re: Spanked as a child?

I was spanked as a kid, then as I got older I was yelled at a lot.

Getting smacked scared the hell out of me, it was never explained to me exactly what I'd done to deserve it.
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Re: Spanked as a child?

Hmmm. I always knew exactly why. I believe it psychologically hurt me a lot less, because of that knowledge.
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Re: Spanked as a child?

I was spanked by my parents but definietly not teachers or grandparents. I don't think spanking is ideal done by parents but a teacher doing it is a lot worse in my opinion. While my parents did spank me till around the age of 10 it was never out of the blue. They always talked to me about it first and explained to me why I was going to get spanked. Also they never used a belt or anything, just a wooden spoon. Personally if I have kids I will never spank them. I believe there are better ways of descipline. However, I wouldn't say it damaged me or anything. Not as far as I know anyways. I think it can be a slippery slope though. Even though my parents never lost control, I think a lot of people, depending on the personality, could lose control and that would be really bad.
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Re: Spanked as a child?

I earned frequent flyer miles in the spanking arena and was often labeled a hellion and a rebellious troubled child who just needed to learn how to "straighten up and fly right". Belts, belt buckles, fly swatters, switches, wooden spoons, spatulas, paddles, hands, etc.

Given by parents, grandparents, aunt, older cousins, neighbors, babysitters, adult church members/leaders, and several school teachers. Basically, any adult who cared for or was responsible for me at any given time in my youth. One teacher even made us sign the paddle after he finished beating us with it.

I don't recall any discussions or feedback other than, "Because we said so.", "Do as we say, not as we do.", or, an occasional insincere sounding/feeling, "This is going to hurt us more than it hurts you." kind of comment.

I have no doubt it greatly effects(ed) how I interact with self and others, along with other experiences/individuals/circumstances that unfortunately came my way as the years have passed.
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i was beatn chained up like an dog....or lucked in shed in the dark cos the adhd and dyelixa. I was hurt a lot my things were destroyer often by them...these just some ofve the smilpy things they did to me....and still do now.... words fail me...iam letting the courts speak for me now
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