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Old 12-28-12, 04:10 PM
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how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

do you feel scared about aging?
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Old 12-29-12, 02:35 PM
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

Mid-40s and just found out "what was wrong with me" after all this time.

I'm scared about everything. When I remember to be scared about anything other than the next minute, that is.
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Old 12-29-12, 08:07 PM
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

you don't. I make plan for suicide and pray everyday that today's my last day

ppl put too much hope ans wish in their live.

life is never fair and it never ends well
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

Just Got Through Listening to Johnny Winter's Version of ...

"Life Is Hard and Then You Die."

Alpha, I hope it gets better for you, 'cause I've been there; more than once.

I Turned 62 in Sept. Most People Who Know Me Say I Act 12 A Lot.

I'd Say That's Not Entirely True; Only 60% (Maybe).

I Use Laughter And A Self-deprecating Sense of Humor For Stress Relief,

Even Though It Comes Off As Incongruent. All I Can Say Is That After LOTS

Of Paying Dues and Pain, I Like Myself Better Than I Ever Have. At The Same

Time Though That Doesn't Mean I Won't "Shut Down" Emotionally In Here And

"Fade Away" For A While.

Hope That Helps.

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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

Mainly, I have been told by my wife that I should be scared of aging.
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

I am kind of scared of aging and realize my life is probably half over but there is nothing I can do about it,thats what faith is for.As for coping w adhd im 38 and Ive spent the last 11 years trying to get help which was a complete waste of time n money so by the time Im 40 Im probably not gonna cre anymore and just say **** it and let it ride.Whatever is gonna happen is gonna happen,say la vie
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

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there is nothing I can do about it,thats what faith is for.
Faith doesn't make any money. I suspect I'm going to need some of both. (both faith and money, that is...)
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

I am still working, have a few things I really enjoy. Faith is actually very important, family, and then taking care of myself. I fight depression, and overusing alcohol, and sometimes just disappear for a day. Family is OK and supports, because I am much more pleasant to be around after a reset.
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

Im kind of embracing it because its just part of life.Everyday almost since my mom died 12 years ago has been a party.Life is short and despite gray hairs,high cholestrol and other medical problems,bigger waist live everyday like its your last and enjoy it because wether 20-30 40 60 it could be your last day.yesterdays gone and tomorrow isnt promised to you.You dont have to be rich an famous to enjoy life it could be helping someone or the simplest things like watching a sunset
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

I can't find right words to say.

So I just want to write and thank you very much, Robert.

(Don't think that lit thumb up things would do justice)

Happy 2013

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Just Got Through Listening to Johnny Winter's Version of ...

"Life Is Hard and Then You Die."

Alpha, I hope it gets better for you, 'cause I've been there; more than once.

I Turned 62 in Sept. Most People Who Know Me Say I Act 12 A Lot.

I'd Say That's Not Entirely True; Only 60% (Maybe).

I Use Laughter And A Self-deprecating Sense of Humor For Stress Relief,

Even Though It Comes Off As Incongruent. All I Can Say Is That After LOTS

Of Paying Dues and Pain, I Like Myself Better Than I Ever Have. At The Same

Time Though That Doesn't Mean I Won't "Shut Down" Emotionally In Here And

"Fade Away" For A While.

Hope That Helps.

Robert
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

I worry about aging a lot. I feel like my personality won't fit an older person, that people won't accept from old me what they would from young me. And not just that: I feel like an apprentice at life, and I think I always will; I can't imagine my personality translated all the way out of youth.

And I'm afraid of women not noticing me. Some days, I'll feel like ****, and some girl I don't know will look at me or smile at me, and it just makes my day; it's ridiculous how good it makes me feel; I'm afraid of the days where that's gone. I fantasise that I'll pull off some great feat that will let me remain visible to women for an extra 20 years, but that's not going to happen.
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Im new to forumn and am glad i saw this post cause this is where im at.. i had alcohol issues as soon as i hit my teens as things got harder i found drugs in my 20's... ive never stopped fighting and in the past that has felt like a curse... in my fight to fiure out what the hell was wrong with me i saw a specialist at 30 and was diagnosed with adhd tried meds for a while but the info and support wasnt there.. have lived a roller coaster trying to be normal and to get ahead...Im trained in a good feild and have lost many a good jobs.. now im 41 now.. last year i was done hopless,shutdown was done i went to a dual diagnosis free place here in vancouver.. i lucked out i was telling my counsellour i wanted to try and deal with the add because i had no other answers ... i lucked out he also had add and was educated on it. i started on ritalin a drug that i had learnt over the years was horrible and was actually against myself .. but like i said i was done and willing to try anything... i started on a low dose for a week and felt odd and not much improvement my DR increase the dose and bamn it was like someone turned the lights on. everything was better.. i could focus i could see what i was doing and was able to work on changing it.. sadly after 4 months if gotten used to them and they dont apear to have any affect. so for the last 2 months ive stepped back to where i was and it scares me everything is falling apart again. Im starting my new meds tomorrow and im hoping the lights will come on... Adhd is fun. im reminded every day of the things i never had and the things ive lost the anxiety depression and having the world poop on me.. The fact i got counselling while on meds has left a positive affect im not done and as usual i wont quit fighting. I know what im fighting and i have answers i can make changes and it isnt easy.. even if the meds dont take there are skills i can learn to have a good life... Ive dumped my job im tryen to dump all the crap people and society dump on me .. i dont care.. i only care about me and what makes me happy and i have to work on those things find what some of those things are im starting over because ive done this add thing for 41 years and it was hell..and i may be sitting in it again but i have hope and im not going to stay here... im sorry for the rant but it felt good


point is get help.. see a real professional dr who specializes in add reach out'..

apparently my new joy is "the secondary condition of ADD" which is common in adult adhd because weve gone so long untreated not knowing and have a load of baggage. from thinking and being told were stupid from continuous failure.. in my next life i dont want money i want a wife and kids and i just wanna be happy

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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

I applied for and got SSDI. I wish it were different, but at least now I have some peace. I don't have to deal with *** hole people, I keep to myself and enjoy my solitude as best I can. I wish I could fit into society, but I'm a square peg, in a round hole world. I had a good job, with a bright future, but my ADHD mind just got in the way of my chances of success...It's very tragic actually.
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Re: how do guys cope with ADHD in their 40s?

Geez you guys are depressing.. I'm just happy to be able to enjoy my kids without falling asleep or zoning out every 2 seconds. After spending the beginning of my life in the 'fog' and drinking tons of cokes just to stay awake, I'm happy to feel 'normal' finally. Thanks little pink pill.
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does anyone have tips on coping with ADHD in their 40s?
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