ADD Forums - Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Support and Information Resources Community  

Go Back   ADD Forums - Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Support and Information Resources Community > ADULTS AND ADD/ADHD > Relationships & Social Issues
Register Blogs FAQ Chat Members List Calendar Donate Gallery Arcade Mark Forums Read

Relationships & Social Issues This forum is for adults with AD/HD to discuss how AD/HD affects personal relationships.

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 11-29-17, 04:34 PM
midnightstar's Avatar
midnightstar midnightstar is offline
Purriendly feline moderator
 

Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: UK
Posts: 19,146
Blog Entries: 10
Thanks: 18,491
Thanked 22,816 Times in 13,482 Posts
midnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond repute
How do you know your preference in relationships?

How do you know whether you prefer men or women (relationships wise)?
__________________
Beauty (12th August 2007 - 3rd November 2008 )
Dylan (4th November 2008 - 23rd March 2012)
Tom (29th August 2014 - 17th October 2014)
Ebony (1st January 2014 - 2nd March 2018)
Tigger (31st October 2014 - current)
Willow (3rd November 2018 - current)
"No human should ever hurt an animal" Jessie, Animal Farm

Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to midnightstar For This Useful Post:
aeon (11-29-17)
  #2  
Old 11-29-17, 04:42 PM
WhiteOwl's Avatar
WhiteOwl WhiteOwl is offline
ADDvanced Contributor
 

Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: Texas, USA
Posts: 653
Thanks: 1,065
Thanked 1,231 Times in 520 Posts
WhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud of
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Isn't it just about who you're attracted to? I've never been attracted to women in that way, never desired them, never saw them as more than just friends. So I never really thought about it, always just been attracted to men.

Edit to add: I know there are people attracted to both, but it seems like they are usually more attracted to one gender than the other. Some say it's based solely on personality.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to WhiteOwl For This Useful Post:
midnightstar (11-29-17)
  #3  
Old 11-29-17, 05:04 PM
aeon's Avatar
aeon aeon is offline
ADDvanced Forum ADDvocate
 

Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: The North
Posts: 8,604
Thanks: 25,498
Thanked 14,556 Times in 6,500 Posts
aeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond reputeaeon has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by midnightstar View Post
How do you know whether you prefer men or women (relationships wise)?
I’m not sure how I know, I just know.

And I know that wasn’t helpful, but I don’t know at all how I could even begin to explain it.

It’s how I am oriented...and for sure, it isn’t a preference...I had no say in the matter whatsoever.


Well Wishes,
Ian
__________________
@>~,~~'~ Voici mon secret. Il est très simple: on ne voit bien qu'avec le cœur. L'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux.
“Well, look who I ran into,” crowed Coincidence. “Please,” flirted Fate, “this was meant to be.”
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to aeon For This Useful Post:
Fraser_0762 (12-03-17), midnightstar (11-29-17)
Sponsored Links
  #4  
Old 12-03-17, 09:09 AM
acdc01 acdc01 is online now
ADDvanced Forum ADDvocate
 

Join Date: May 2013
Location: Oregon
Posts: 3,123
Thanks: 2,921
Thanked 4,005 Times in 2,061 Posts
acdc01 has disabled reputation
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Maybe you're just bi. I'm the same as both WhiteOwl and aeon. I just know cause of who I'm attracted to.

That said, i do dream about guys on rare occasions too. But even the dreams aren't the same as with women. I want the women in my dreams. The guys might as well be a banana or something - no attraction no matter what we are doing in the dream.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to acdc01 For This Useful Post:
midnightstar (12-03-17)
  #5  
Old 12-03-17, 09:24 AM
midnightstar's Avatar
midnightstar midnightstar is offline
Purriendly feline moderator
 

Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: UK
Posts: 19,146
Blog Entries: 10
Thanks: 18,491
Thanked 22,816 Times in 13,482 Posts
midnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

I admit, sometimes I dream of men and other times I dream of women, idk if this is a bad thing
__________________
Beauty (12th August 2007 - 3rd November 2008 )
Dylan (4th November 2008 - 23rd March 2012)
Tom (29th August 2014 - 17th October 2014)
Ebony (1st January 2014 - 2nd March 2018)
Tigger (31st October 2014 - current)
Willow (3rd November 2018 - current)
"No human should ever hurt an animal" Jessie, Animal Farm

Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 12-03-17, 09:58 AM
Fraser_0762's Avatar
Fraser_0762 Fraser_0762 is offline
ADDvanced Forum ADDvocate
 

Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Somewhere in the clouds?
Posts: 5,190
Thanks: 4,093
Thanked 6,478 Times in 3,092 Posts
Fraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Physically i'm attracted to the opposite sex. In terms of personality though, I find it hard to be attracted to anyone. Perhaps i'm just too different from the "norm". But I often feel let down by people i'm physically attracted to. I tend to get attracted to drama queens because I find them more interesting, albeit, more stressful to deal with as well. Eventually the stress becomes too much and I just can't deal with it anymore.
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Fraser_0762 For This Useful Post:
aeon (12-03-17), midnightstar (12-03-17), WhiteOwl (12-03-17)
  #7  
Old 12-03-17, 10:18 AM
Fraser_0762's Avatar
Fraser_0762 Fraser_0762 is offline
ADDvanced Forum ADDvocate
 

Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Somewhere in the clouds?
Posts: 5,190
Thanks: 4,093
Thanked 6,478 Times in 3,092 Posts
Fraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Honestly, sometimes I really wish I was "a-sexual". What a lovely, simple life that must be.
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Fraser_0762 For This Useful Post:
aeon (12-03-17), midnightstar (12-03-17), WhiteOwl (12-03-17)
  #8  
Old 12-03-17, 10:39 AM
midnightstar's Avatar
midnightstar midnightstar is offline
Purriendly feline moderator
 

Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: UK
Posts: 19,146
Blog Entries: 10
Thanks: 18,491
Thanked 22,816 Times in 13,482 Posts
midnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Fraser_0762 View Post
Honestly, sometimes I really wish I was "a-sexual". What a lovely, simple life that must be.
What's a-sexual? sorry I'm a dumb fart
__________________
Beauty (12th August 2007 - 3rd November 2008 )
Dylan (4th November 2008 - 23rd March 2012)
Tom (29th August 2014 - 17th October 2014)
Ebony (1st January 2014 - 2nd March 2018)
Tigger (31st October 2014 - current)
Willow (3rd November 2018 - current)
"No human should ever hurt an animal" Jessie, Animal Farm

Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to midnightstar For This Useful Post:
Fraser_0762 (12-03-17)
  #9  
Old 12-03-17, 10:41 AM
Fraser_0762's Avatar
Fraser_0762 Fraser_0762 is offline
ADDvanced Forum ADDvocate
 

Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Somewhere in the clouds?
Posts: 5,190
Thanks: 4,093
Thanked 6,478 Times in 3,092 Posts
Fraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by midnightstar View Post
What's a-sexual? sorry I'm a dumb fart
It means you can tell everybody to GTF.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Fraser_0762 For This Useful Post:
midnightstar (12-03-17)
  #10  
Old 12-03-17, 11:05 AM
acdc01 acdc01 is online now
ADDvanced Forum ADDvocate
 

Join Date: May 2013
Location: Oregon
Posts: 3,123
Thanks: 2,921
Thanked 4,005 Times in 2,061 Posts
acdc01 has disabled reputation
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Fraser_0762 View Post
Honestly, sometimes I really wish I was "a-sexual". What a lovely, simple life that must be.
I know you're joking but I'm pretty sure most asexuals suffer a lot with accepting themselves. Always sucks being different.

Midnight, asexual is when you don't want to have sex with either sex I think.

Also, I think most people experience dreams with both sexes though dont quote me. Even if I'm wrong about that, it's still nothing to feel bad about.

Do you feel more attracted to one sex or the other? Both in your dreams and in life? And both emotionally and physically?

I sometimes wonder if we over think things. Maybe we should just go after whoever we are interested in at the moment.
Reply With Quote
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to acdc01 For This Useful Post:
aeon (12-03-17), Fraser_0762 (12-03-17), Fuzzy12 (12-03-17), midnightstar (12-03-17)
  #11  
Old 12-03-17, 11:08 AM
midnightstar's Avatar
midnightstar midnightstar is offline
Purriendly feline moderator
 

Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: UK
Posts: 19,146
Blog Entries: 10
Thanks: 18,491
Thanked 22,816 Times in 13,482 Posts
midnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by acdc01 View Post
I know you're joking but I'm pretty sure most asexuals suffer a lot with accepting themselves. Always sucks being different.

Midnight, asexual is when you don't want to have sex with either sex I think.

Also, I think most people experience dreams with both sexes though dont quote me. Even if I'm wrong about that, it's still nothing to feel bad about.

Do you feel more attracted to one sex or the other? Both in your dreams and in life? And both emotionally and physically?

I sometimes wonder if we over think things. Maybe we should just go after whoever we are interested in at the moment.
It's difficult for me to be sure which I'm more attracted to, I feel pulled in both directions (and I can't tell my family cause they want me to get married and give them grandkids - ain't gonna happen )

I admit I feel squeamish about producing kids
__________________
Beauty (12th August 2007 - 3rd November 2008 )
Dylan (4th November 2008 - 23rd March 2012)
Tom (29th August 2014 - 17th October 2014)
Ebony (1st January 2014 - 2nd March 2018)
Tigger (31st October 2014 - current)
Willow (3rd November 2018 - current)
"No human should ever hurt an animal" Jessie, Animal Farm

Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to midnightstar For This Useful Post:
Fraser_0762 (12-03-17)
  #12  
Old 12-03-17, 11:14 AM
Fraser_0762's Avatar
Fraser_0762 Fraser_0762 is offline
ADDvanced Forum ADDvocate
 

Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Somewhere in the clouds?
Posts: 5,190
Thanks: 4,093
Thanked 6,478 Times in 3,092 Posts
Fraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond reputeFraser_0762 has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by midnightstar View Post
It's difficult for me to be sure which I'm more attracted to, I feel pulled in both directions (and I can't tell my family cause they want me to get married and give them grandkids - ain't gonna happen )

I admit I feel squeamish about producing kids
Hey, never feel the need to hide from who you are. The only way you'll ever meet the right person, regardless of their gender is by simply being the best you that you can be.

It's harder and it may take longer, but eventually you'll find yourself in the place you want to be as long as you just keep being honest with yourself and those around you.
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Fraser_0762 For This Useful Post:
aeon (12-03-17), midnightstar (12-03-17)
  #13  
Old 12-03-17, 11:23 AM
midnightstar's Avatar
midnightstar midnightstar is offline
Purriendly feline moderator
 

Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: UK
Posts: 19,146
Blog Entries: 10
Thanks: 18,491
Thanked 22,816 Times in 13,482 Posts
midnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond reputemidnightstar has a reputation beyond repute
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Fraser_0762 View Post
Hey, never feel the need to hide from who you are. The only way you'll ever meet the right person, regardless of their gender is by simply being the best you that you can be.

It's harder and it may take longer, but eventually you'll find yourself in the place you want to be as long as you just keep being honest with yourself and those around you.
But *broke record time* I got Ebony to consider as well, nervy girl <3
__________________
Beauty (12th August 2007 - 3rd November 2008 )
Dylan (4th November 2008 - 23rd March 2012)
Tom (29th August 2014 - 17th October 2014)
Ebony (1st January 2014 - 2nd March 2018)
Tigger (31st October 2014 - current)
Willow (3rd November 2018 - current)
"No human should ever hurt an animal" Jessie, Animal Farm

Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to midnightstar For This Useful Post:
Fraser_0762 (12-03-17)
  #14  
Old 12-03-17, 11:42 AM
WhiteOwl's Avatar
WhiteOwl WhiteOwl is offline
ADDvanced Contributor
 

Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: Texas, USA
Posts: 653
Thanks: 1,065
Thanked 1,231 Times in 520 Posts
WhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud of
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by midnightstar View Post
I admit, sometimes I dream of men and other times I dream of women, idk if this is a bad thing
Are you talking about real dreams? I wish I dreamed of men or even women. Instead I dream I'm being chased by zombies or something like that.
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to WhiteOwl For This Useful Post:
aeon (12-03-17), Fraser_0762 (12-03-17), midnightstar (12-03-17)
  #15  
Old 12-03-17, 11:47 AM
WhiteOwl's Avatar
WhiteOwl WhiteOwl is offline
ADDvanced Contributor
 

Join Date: Sep 2017
Location: Texas, USA
Posts: 653
Thanks: 1,065
Thanked 1,231 Times in 520 Posts
WhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud ofWhiteOwl has much to be proud of
Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Quote:
Originally Posted by midnightstar View Post
I admit I feel squeamish about producing kids
Oh, it ain't so bad. Besides, who else is gonna support you in your old age?

But seriously, don't feel pressured by your family. It's your life, do what you feel is right for you.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Forum Jump

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
First post: How does ADD affect your dating relationships? fluffyshoes Relationships & Social Issues 0 05-04-14 09:34 PM
Relationships with physical differences versus relationships with AD/HD'ers RhapsodyInBlue Relationships & Social Issues 12 11-24-10 08:58 PM
How has it effected your relationships? wulonger Adderall 9 02-16-10 03:45 PM
ADD / ADHD teen looking for help with friends and relationships ed4455 Teen Relationships 17 08-29-04 01:22 PM
What relationships? Oh ya, those. :P Crisgo79 Relationships & Social Issues 5 04-27-03 11:59 AM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 01:42 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.7.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2018, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
(c) 2003 - 2015 ADD Forums