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Old 02-02-18, 06:29 PM
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“People who have ADHD are just lazy”

What is your opinion of the statement, “People who have ADHD are just lazy”.







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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

  • That's like saying a patient who has undergone open heart surgery and is slow moving for a while ... is lazy.

  • Like saying a person with chronic heart failure which means they are continually short on enough oxygen ... is lazy.

  • Like saying a depressed person who gets exhausted walking across the room ... is lazy.

  • Like saying a person with thyroid disorder that throws the hormones out of balance ... is lazy ...

  • Like saying my dad in his late 80s with Parkinsons who got tired and disoriented by a shortage of Potassium in his system ... is lazy

    Like saying a person with a sleep disorder ... is lazy

It so happens that plenty of people with ADHD have tons of energy and activity, perhaps too much energy ... it's just that it's not focused energy ....

So what do I say to this overall claim?

I say the people making such an uninformed claim don't want to do research and reading and serious thinking that would inform them. Maybe because they are too ___y!

I assume someone else is telling you this ... ignore them.

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Old 02-02-18, 08:27 PM
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

I don't think people who have ADHD are just lazy but I do very often wonder if I am just lazy. What differentiates me from a lazy person? Intention? Guilt and shame? ADHD? I genuinely don't know.
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

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My opinion is they are totally ignorant about ADHD.
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

Screw you DAD!

Lazy has been the primary word my dad has used on me ever since I was a kid. My room was a mess cause I was lazy...I was behind in my classes because I was lazy...all through my teens...into high school...I'd try to make myself sick or break my finger so I wouldn't have to goto school that day...because I was lazy...I couldn't hold down a job, because I was lazy...had a hard time getting up and moving, because I was lazy...would spend all day playing video games...because I was lazy.

There was nothing wrong with me. I was just lazy. And that meant I was just a piece of sh**.

And I internalized it. And now I'm an adult and I can't shake the feeling that I'm just a lazy piece of scum.
But then websites like this exist...and I see thousands of others who do/have struggled in the exact same ways that I do/have and it proves to me that it's not just me...that it MUST be deeper than just being lazy.

So yeah...screw you dad.
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

It is ironic that people say that because those with ADHD actually work harder than NT's with below average to average results too much of the time.
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

"People without adhd are just A-holes"
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

I live alone and I am overwhelmed with all the stuff that needs to be done. I have a big yard that is overgrown in places. I clean sections of the house but can never pull it all together at once.
I think I am a little lazy after the fact that the decision making of what to do first usually overwhelms me. I jump from task to task. It's a never ending cycle. I know I have to feed cats and clean boxes and get to work on time. But there are no time rules when I am home alone.
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

Well, sometimes I am; and who isn't?
and then part of that is also much needed down time; probably more than someone without adhd;
But the statement that people with adhd are lazy, is entirely false.
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Works both ways! A-holes exist in all forms
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

We're not lazy. It is just that a large portion of us have a comorbid condition.
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I don't think people who have ADHD are just lazy but I do very often wonder if I am just lazy. What differentiates me from a lazy person? Intention? Guilt and shame? ADHD? I genuinely don't know.
Yeah, I wonder this too.

But I've always known it's deeper than laziness...and I think you feel the same way. You know that term doesn't fully describe you most of the time...that there's a big struggle underneath the laziness that you can't find words or understanding for.

It sure feels like laziness. Can easily be confused with laziness. People will look down on you and call it pure laziness.
But it's not. It's deeper. It's more than just being lazy. The being 'lazy' (if it really even is that) is just the tip of the ice berg. It's the visual part of it...the part we can see and describe with words...but it's only but a tip of a giant mountain underneath.

I wish it were just lazy . It's not. It's far more complex.

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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

Its just a judgement based on a misunderstanding. Its an easier choice to judge than it is to understand, and from my experiences most people take the short easy path, myself included... Not saying its an excuse though.

The misunderstanding i get, I went through the mental health care system years ago but i was diagnosed with adhd at 37 (still 37 now) and now have a completely different understanding about what it is, and more importantly what it isnt. You cant expect everyone to get you or to go out of their way to read something complex like adhd, especially when they think they already know as they heard a news report about giving speed/meth/coke like substances to kids when its just a behavioral issue. It'd make things a lot easier if they did though, but if they arent willing to put in the time then I guess that problems solved as they're the wrong people to be around.

With the lazy thing I think its the intention that differentiate them, but happily would be corrected on this. Have been there before, and met lots of people that like bumming around doing nothing as a couch potato, and are happy doing so.

If its a disorder or part of adhd, from my perspective it seems more like... Well Im not actually lazy, ive always done sports and have been involved in competitive sports from 4-22yrs old, and i do want to do things now, its just that I dont and its a problem. In a way it feels quite similar to substance addiction in that you want to stop but cant.
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Re: “People who have ADHD are just lazy”

Dont you find that they people who call other people things that are disparaging are really trying to make themselves feel better or just lying to themselves?
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