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Old 04-11-18, 12:19 PM
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Writing out a list of my symptoms and realising how much this affected my life

Going in for my diagnosis next week and decided to write out a list of my symptoms since I would undoubtedly forget half of them. Figured I managed to go so long without anyone noticing was due to a mixture of moving so much (Usually moved every 1-2 yrs within the countries specified below) and natural genetic intelligence. Anyone else this severe? I'm in awe of the people who made it through Uni and had a happy marriage undiagnosed.

England (Ages 2 - 8)

* Late learning to read (age 7/8)
* Told I was smart/gifted but unfocused or 'smart but lazy'
* Extremely shy/quiet (my parents said my sister done the talking for me)

Belgium (Ages 8 - 12)

* Poor hygiene
* Bed-wetting (extremely deep sleeper - tried various alarms to wake me up when it detected moisture through doctors - none worked)
* Feeling ‘different/weird’ and being bullied for being weird
* Again, continuously told I was smart but needed to focus
* Resat a year (although this may be more down due to the language switch)
* Usually managed to scrape by doing homework on the morning it was due.

America (Ages 12 - 16)

* Inability to do any work I wasn’t interested in
* Barely scraping by despite performing at the top of the class for certain tasks
* Summer school to resit Maths
* In-school suspension multiple times per year for losing my ID (3 losses = 1 day in-school suspension)
* Lots of being stupid/impulsive. Which resulted in broken bones and charred lawn furniture.
* ‘It’s fine not caring about middle school - you’re in High School now you need to get your act together’
* Scraped by with as little effort as possible.
* Started smoking cannabis (14)
* Completely stopped trying in school when I found out I was moving again.

Scotland (Ages 16-28)

* Still quiet / shy - not due to anxiety but due to not really having anything to contribute
* friends started calling me 'spaceman'
* No long-term motivation/ambition
* Didn’t go into any of my exams except Computing (got a C)
* Unemployed for 2 years after high school
* Hanging around with a bad group, getting into fights just for the sake of it.
* Started experimenting with drugs. Mostly research-chemicals and psychedelics. Daily cannabis use for the majority of my adulthood.
* Failed driving test 10 times due to making careless mistakes
* Lack of care to my appearance. (dirty clothes/holes in them)
* Got a part-time data-entry job with my dad. Automated role and got offered full time position. Easy job, usually small tasks and working to tight deadlines. On longer projects I would struggle and make loads of attention to detail mistakes so my dad essentially shaped small jobs around my capabilities and would usually proof-read/check any work I done before sending to clients which is why I lasted so long. Timekeeping was still abysmal to the point where he would pick me up every morning to make sure I came in on time. Worked here for 5 years before being made redundant.
* Girlfriend #1 (6yr relationship) split up with me because I had no motivation/wasn’t doing anything with my life. Got in £8k worth of debt during the last year or two
* Got a job designing websites for a family friend who was signing up dozens of small businesses. Lack of attention to detail and forgetting about clients/forgetting to respond to emails/etc eventually led to all my clients abandoning me.
* Started a business with my Dad. Complete lack of any ambition, only done what I was told and would take me weeks to complete a task I could’ve done in an hour. Lots of fighting and getting told to get my act together. Business wasn’t making enough money. I signed up to college try and get some focus in my life.
* Got a weekend job as a technician. Fired after sleeping in.
* Aunt gave me a job in her store. Stopped offering me shifts because she felt ‘my focus was elsewhere’
* Inability to complete simple task like paying bills or household chores
* Constantly losing things and forgetting appointments
* ‘Became’ an anarchist (rejection of social norms?)
* Went vegan (social norms/increased empathy with animals)
* Managed to get into Uni despite doing very little in college. Failed maths semester 1, scraped by in computing.
* Realisation I had ADHD after traumatic breakup with my girlfriend #2 (7 month relationship - I impulsively moved in pretty much on day 1, old colleague who said she was attracted to me due to intelligence) As I tried to eliminate all distractions and study and came to the realisation that no matter how hard I tried - I couldn’t (brain fog would kick in or I would start daydreaming) - which resulted in me threatening to take my life and being hospitalised. ‘A-ha!’ moment was 2-3 days after - anxiety/depression has mostly lifted since self-diagnosis and seeing a light at the end of the tunnel.
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Old 04-11-18, 12:50 PM
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Re: Writing out a list of my symptoms and realising how much this affected my life

Have you ever been accused of dancing in front of the mirror when sent to pick something up?
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Have you ever been accused of dancing in front of the mirror when sent to pick something up?
err - not sure what this comment means? lol I have none of the hyperactive symptoms (except for restlessness/fidgety) and am generally quiet and reserved. No dancing
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err - not sure what this comment means? lol I have none of the hyperactive symptoms (except for restlessness/fidgety) and am generally quiet and reserved. No dancing
No, if my mum asked me to get something for her she was certain I was dancing in front of the mirror instead of getting whatever she wanted fast enough.
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No, if my mum asked me to get something for her she was certain I was dancing in front of the mirror instead of getting whatever she wanted fast enough.
Ah I'm with you

Nah I just come back with only 1 out of the 3 items asked for

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Hi Uno, I didn't have as many issues as you, but early on heavy smoking and a little later pairing the smokes with excessive coffee drinking helped. Cigarettes/caffeine was/is not a good way to address because of the obvious associated problems.

As to your list you may wish to add specific real life examples, where appropriate, for each of the items on your list. I made a similar list for the reasons you mentioned. I would include as many examples including dates as you can recall. IMO this will make it easier for you to communicate your issues and the appropriate perspective on their magnitude. Regards, -LN
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Hi Uno, I didn't have as many issues as you, but early on heavy smoking and a little later pairing the smokes with excessive coffee drinking helped. Cigarettes/caffeine was/is not a good way to address because of the obvious associated problems.

As to your list you may wish to add specific real life examples, where appropriate, for each of the items on your list. I made a similar list for the reasons you mentioned. I would include as many examples including dates as you can recall. IMO this will make it easier for you to communicate your issues and the appropriate perspective on their magnitude. Regards, -LN
Thanks but I've already submitted it. Weirdly. Smoking and caffeine does nothing for me. I drink coffee because I like the taste of it but I don't notice any effects. I smoke when I'm bored but go through periods of not smoking for months. Never been addicited.
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GL Uno. If you do end up trying meds, the pertinent portions of the list will likely help to evaluate effectiveness. -LN
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Re: Writing out a list of my symptoms and realising how much this affected my life

So...were you diagnosed while in hospital...or just decided it yourself?
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So...were you diagnosed while in hospital...or just decided it yourself?
Decided myself, researching and coming to conclusions has always been my strong point. Whether I had it or not was never a thought, it was how I managed to not realise for so long.

Unfortunately, my self-diagnosis doesn't hold up with the GP so I seen a specialist today and got diagnosed with combined type.
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Re: Writing out a list of my symptoms and realising how much this affected my life

I suspect ADD has about as much impact on your success as a college degree. Lack of focus makes you appear unfocused, lazy, disorganized an untimely. These symptoms will keep you from any good job. Medication can reduce these symptoms.
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