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Old 03-30-11, 02:26 AM
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Re: Bullies

WangoMango: you just can't blame a victim for abusive behavior. That doesn't make any sense to me, and I hope you can see why, to me at least, you're coming off as somebody who sympathizes with the bully rather than the victim, and that's not okay. Nobody should ever feel unsafe when they go to school, or even outside of school. It doesn't make any sense to say "It's your fault you're getting bullied." It's not the behavior of the victim (and YES, they ARE victims) that should change, it's that of the bully. You seem to think the opposite, and that victims should start acting more like bullies. Do we really want more bullies? I don't think so.
You say: 'Weird and stupid things do warrant "bullying".'
That's a completely upside-down way to think about it. What is *considered* to be a 'weird and stupid thing' often attracts bullies, but nothing "warrants" that kind of harrassment. Warrant is authorization, sanction, or justification (yes, I actually went to the dictionary for that). There is nothing that can possibly justify bullying because bullying is simply wrong. There's no other way to put it.
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Old 03-30-11, 02:40 AM
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Thanks, that's what I was saying, except I used myself as an example.
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Re: Bullies

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Ok, tell me this, I was bullied for about 3 years. I has just been forced to change schools causing me to go away from all my friends. I had been falsely accused of "sexual touching" of another student at my earlier school, my mom was suspended with pay for about 3 months for slaping a woman to escape being trapped in a room.

I whent to my new school knowing few people, angry at life, and having a short temper. My first friend I made was abusive, he became an enemy, others started taking advantage of my short temper and small geeky body knowing I couldn't really fight back. I found out later that I have borderline Aspbergers. because of this abuse I isolated myself having no friends at all until early mid grade 10. I'm only now (this summer it will be 4 years since I last whet to school with my friends) making friends again.

If you read what you said, this was ALL my fault.

Tell me, how was this my fault? How could I stop "sucking"?
You're missing the point.. *facepalm*

Accused of unwanted sexual touching? BAHAHAHA

That's hilarious. The sooner you realize this. The sooner you will fix it. Bullying is bullying it doesn't matter where you move to. It will happen again.

So don't let it.

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The same goes for you. You seem to have read only what you wanted to hear. Stop blaming everyone else. Fact is. People will always feel unsafe. It will never change.

Do something about it. The bully will never change.

It's okay though. Blame every one else. That will make it better.

I'm not placing blame on the victim. Look. You're bullied because accoording to them you're weird as S***? F*** em. You are weird as S***. Who cares. The longer you care. The longer the bully cares. The longer you get made fun of.

I've been saying that the whole time you just weren't listening. I'll even give you an example. Charlie Sheen. He was doing blow and having sex with porn stars (in this case it's you being weird as S***). So they tried to take his career away (you getting bullied). He said F*** no. I am doing blow and having sex with porn stars and I want my S*** back. He didn't lay there and take it. He didn't lie about what he was doing. He came right out and said yes.. I like to party.. So F*** off. Now a large portion of the country is behind him and no one wants to deal with him. He'll probably even get his job back.

You need to come out and say yeah.. I am weird as S***.. Guess what? I don't F***ing care. Kiss my A**.

The whole anti bully movement has been around forever and not a single thing has been accomplished. So what's you're policy? Throw S*** at a wall and hope it sticks? And if it doesn't.. B**** about it?
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Old 04-01-11, 06:33 PM
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I'm starting to think YOU were, and still are, a bully.

If I was there with you, you may want a doctor present. Nothing makes me more angry than what has just been said!

You have to realize that I was being bullied after that because I AM small, weak and and vulnerable. No one from my new school knows about that. It's people like you that ENCOURAGE bullying. Your saying that because I'm can't fight back that it is all right to bully me until I CAN fight back. This is the last time I want to see you around here ever again.
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Re: Bullies

Werl, I completely agree with you. WangoMango, you are really p***ing me off. I hardly think that Charlie Sheen is an appropriate role model for teens who are being bullied, and instead of being supportive you're laughing at things that people have been through, which is not appropriate behavior for this forum that was, I'm sure, designed to create a helpful, sympathetic, and supportive environment for ADD teens who are facing trouble with bullies, so I think it's safe to say that you're the one missing the point.
"The bully will never change"?
"People will always feel unsafe"?
"Bullying is bullying it doesn't matter where you move to. It will happen again"?
That's an awfully s****y attitude, and it doesn't have to be that way. None of these things are facts. Change is possible and this forum is about giving teens the tools to help them bring about that change, not tell them that there's no hope and that it's their own fault. That's just wrong.
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(wiping away tear) that was beautiful.
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Re: Bullies

Okay, I'm gonna go un-PC on everyone and say:

Go to a boxing gym and ask to compete.If mom and pop won't give you money, FIND SOME WORK and join a boxing or MMA gym!!!

Don't be a suckup. If they are your friends, you don't need to force yourself for them to stick with you.

80% of people stop coming when they come to sparring (exchanging blows). If you can box, you can stand up to bullies.
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Hey really thanks for this information....
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I agree with pooka.

Thats all I will say.
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Re: Bullies

i get bullied because I dont take note of whats been said.
I am person who lets it roll from off his back.Avoid conflict.
She strong willed,loud and thinks every suggestion I make is reason to be argumentative. So I half mention an observation and then stop speaking.
She bullies by saying that I am harping on subject. Its like walking on eggshells with her when anything that happens whether my fault,her fault anybody's fault.
I have to ask myself " Do I feel lucky ?"
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Re: Bullies

Teachers are bullies. They feel like they are superior to everyone in the class and take advantage of their higher class role. Often saying their right when theyre wrong and getting the student in trouble who actually had the correct answer/ method. They also don't understand that everyone is different and think that everyone will think the same way. They also ALWAYS complain about repeating themselves and how the kids are SO BAD, yet they sign up for a job where that is quite frankly a requirement. If you want to complain about it then quit and go get a better paying less stressful job. I can't understand how anyone would want to be a teacher.

Anyways thats that.
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Re: Bullies

i used to get bashed every day at school, thrown in hedges, thrown into walls, tripped, tackled, kicked in the leg while taking a ****.

i'm 5'11 and about 123lb... go figure (been same weight from 17-19 (current))

now i'm in college and i don't get physically beaten anymore but i do cop a lot of **** for not listening or following instructions.

why is life so difficult sometimes. >_>

i tried everything to get a bit of a tougher image so i would stop getting beating up, i ended up dealing ilegal substances for about a year, a lot of people grew to respect me but one day i got up and thought wtf am i doing.. my IQ is huge why am i wasting my life doing this ****. so i stopped... and shortly after lost the "image" and shortly after started to get punched a lot again

sometimes i fantasize about killing people, all the people who have ever kicked me or punched me.. usually it's when i get depressed, it leads to thinking about death, then thinking about the things i'd do before i ended it, because if you were gonna end it.. well you wouldn't care right? so i'd play out all these people i was going to kill, how i was going to kill them, when, where etc i got pretty obssessed with death and causing death.. but yea like all of my obssessions one day i woke up and became obssesed with something else.

if i was to follow through with those actions, i'd only be a bigger bully i guess, but then again what goes around comes around, some people just deserve to have their ins... actually let's not go into detail. but you get the point.

does anyone else think similar to me? am i alone? am i crazy?
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never had a bully. in junior high i still hadnt grown taller yet, went through all other stages however, so from time to time there were short jokes and i had (and still do, but some control now) a short temper. but no real bully. wasnt any of those in grade school or highschool. why people are bullies? i dont really know. some have been messed up from life, others are naturally sadistic. i dont care, i think its an instinct gone beyond the point of no return, the instinct to show dominance
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Re: Bullies

I'll share my stories with bullies.
I only had some problems when I was 6-7 years old but I quickly forgot about those as I got friends later, I now have VERY close friends and alot of them.
So i've never had any social problems which is a bit odd because many of you guys seem to do.
People are different though, I am happy that I have found this forum.
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Re: Bullies

I was the little kid to pick on in school... never over 160lbs in my life.

Bullies gave one shot at me. And ended up passing out, or getting a joint hurt.

jiu jitsu should be mandatory...
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