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Bullies need to get over themselves.
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bullies need a burlap sack bag thrown over there heads and then beat like a redheaded step child w a bar of soap in a sock by 4 or 5 people.That'll teach em
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Re: Bullies

"I'll just walk around being real happy until some jerk says something stupid to me." - Jack Handey

Read that a while ago and thought it was funny!

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Re: Bullies

Bullies aren't a whole lot more developed than dogs. No joke. I have a couple I deal with at work. So far, the best strategy has been to treat them like a dog. Be firm. Speak sternly. Whatever you do, don't waiver.

Reason and discussing things rationally is for adult humans, not dogs. Manners are for adult humans, not dogs. Consideration is for adult humans, not dogs.

And bullies never grow up. They are static followers. I doubt they even have free will.
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i remeber being the one who beat up the bullies....i was always bigger than most kids so i stood up for the ones (including my sisters) who got bullied. The only time i couldn't beat them up was when i was being bullied by a group of 5 8th graders when i was in 5th grade. I couldn't take them all on but one day i got fed up and punched the 'leader' and gave him a bloody nose. They stopped after that.
Thank you for your input by way of reminiscence. My website is devoted to this subject, so I am most attuned to it. My philosophy towards bullying is: whatever works! Gratuitous aggression must not be tolerated.

John Halligan is one of the foremost anti-school bullying advocates in the nation. In the wake of the tragic suicide of his thirteen-year-old son, he gave up a lucrative position with IBM in order to become a full time anti-school bullying educator.

A main point of his program is the role of student bystanders, those who neither bully nor stand up for bullying victims. He encourages them to get involved. I don’t know if he would commend your approach, but I sure do! You’re an inspiration; a person of courage who combated cowards who never attack unless they feel as though they have a physical advantage.

Here’s the link to “Ryan’s Story,” if any are interested:

http://www.ryanpatrickhalligan.org/

Mr. Halligan spends the school year traveling North America giving lectures at schools regarding bullying and recounting his family’s tragedy. He has also appeared on numerous network television programs doing likewise. Some can be viewed online via You Tube or other video resources. If any reading this are parents and active in PTA or other such school organizations, I’d encourage you to urge your school administrators to look into bringing Mr. Halligan to your school to speak to the kids. He’s most effective.

Like myself, he also places a great deal of emphasis on encouraging victims to speak out. All too often they keep quiet (and actually try to hide it from their families and neighborhood friends!) out of the unwarranted sense of shame bullying often engenders. According to a now defunct website of the state of Nevada, 52% of kids even severely bullied in school keep quiet about it. If you are a parent, don’t just assume that all is well with at school with your child simply because he or she voices no complaints. Don’t simply accept his or her pat answer of “fine” when asked about their day at school. Learn to recognize signs that things might be amiss and how to ask the right questions in a tactful manner.

Many parents might well be astonished to learn what accomplished child actors their kids have learned to become! When tragedies such as those that befell the Halligan family occur, all too often the response of the parents is one of being absolutely stunned. They never saw it coming.

At my website, I review an excellent book by a clinical psychologist named Joel Haber. He has put his many years of school experience to good use by writing this most helpful book on the subject. If any are interested, you can read my review at my website. Among a great many other topics regarding school bullying, he counsels parents as to how to speak to their children regarding potential bullying in school.

Thank you again, Teedrum, for your inspirational account of a onetime kid who had not been afraid to have gotten involved! Of such youthful material does come the Oskar Schindlers of this world!

"They stopped after that." Indeed!
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Re: Bullies

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Bullies aren't a whole lot more developed than dogs. No joke. I have a couple I deal with at work. So far, the best strategy has been to treat them like a dog. Be firm. Speak sternly. Whatever you do, don't waiver.

Reason and discussing things rationally is for adult humans, not dogs. Manners are for adult humans, not dogs. Consideration is for adult humans, not dogs.

And bullies never grow up. They are static followers. I doubt they even have free will.
I couldn't agree more!
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The people that see it and do nothin are a big part of the problem too.
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The people that see it and do nothin are a big part of the problem too.
I hear ya Reb. Did you see some of those statistics? More than half of people are bullied. They probably do see what's going on, and are just grateful for a break from the bully.

my experience is that teachers and principles overlook the problem because they don't want to deal with it.... they only deal with who is the bigger hassle.

sometimes you just have to set a flaming bag of poo on their front door step to get their attention. Kinda like when I intentionally vomited on my bully in the third grade. It was gross, but HIGHLY effective.
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Re: Bullies

I was 1 of them kids that were constantly bullied from a young age thru highschool.Its a wonder I didnt snap and just kill some 1 out of anger.Half the time the bs line was I didnt see it,NO the idiot teachers only saw me retalitating and I got in trouble.I dont blame video games or meds I blame ignorant and stupid teachers and students for not doing anything about it and when a kid does flip out it serves them right for the idiocracy.
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Re: Bullies

I also was bullied from grade 8 to grade 11. In grade eleven I started working out specifically from the bullying and by grade 12 was 6'2 200 pounds so needless to say the bullying stopped when I was the biggest kid in school. Now 20 years later at 6'2 260 pounds and an amatuer bodybuilder I am now never bullied In my very active imagination I killed these bullies thousands of times in my head.
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Re: Bullies

I was definitely bullied as far back as I can remember. I've always had the choice not to, but I became one myself, though not to a degree that I would pick on anyone, it was more like anyone who had the hint of the bully in them. There were times I would just latch onto someone and not let up until they "submitted", be it by verbal assault or getting in their space. Being 6' tall in high school had it's advantages, and even more so being in JROTC with the clear conviction of going career in the military.

Really though, it was about feeling some sense of "control" after feeling trapped or helpless for so long, whether from bullies at school or at home with emotionally distant/unavailable parents, who focused on me when I didn't do what they wanted, rather than positive reinforcement when I did something they approved of.

Regardless of what's going on, I think it's all just about control issues for the aggressor, it adds up every time I speak to someone who has done it, and it definitely does for me. I really loathe the behavior now and very much dislike that part of me that indulged in it - it's no longer an activity I partake in anymore
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In my very active imagination I killed these bullies thousands of times in my head.
Hundreds, I planned at least a hundred ways to kill my bullies; varying from running them over with a car to dropping a small thermal nuclear warhead on their house. These are two of the more humane ways i thought of killing my bullies.
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Re: Bullies

I was bullied in early elementary school. I was the "tall kid" nobody ever confronted me, it was always behind my back I somehow am managing to still grow up right though Only thing about it that hangs with me is I get super-disappointed whenever someone indirectly says something bad about me or I perceive that they do. I'm a happy camper most of the time nowadays though
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Re: Bullies

I'm 45 by the way. Hope its ok.

1. I hate bullies.
2. I hate that I, didn't stand up to one by telling the teachers because that was . What happened was, this girl was being "felt up" every day and I knew. She didn't deserve that. I hate that I did nothing.
3. i was bullied too. They thought I was 'gay'. At that time, the schoolyard was a witch hunt for homosexuals. Oddly, later i met actual homosexuals and many of them were not bullied

if you are bullied, all I can say is, don't be afraid to speak up if you have to. If you witness bullying, don't be complascent.
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Bullying is the most awful thing in this planet. Just because one person is a little different, is it okay to hurt them in anyway? No! Everyone is different, no one is the same. I despise bullying. I was always bullied as a child. Just because of my ADD, it was that made me bullied. I was a sweet child, I never was mean, I was always kind. I always tried to make friends, because my parents taught me better. Not only that but I always went with that motto they had at school, "Respect the way you want to be respected." I always take that with heart. The worse kind of bullying? When the teacher does it to you, so the kids do it to you too.

I was transffered to another school, I was a bit better but in middle school... It was much worse. Because all the kids knew I was in special ed, they would laugh at me. But you know something? I learn the most imporant thing in my life in middle school, do better than them. Show them that they can't hurt you. So I got better grades and thoes kids would ask me for help all the time...

I had to defend myself at a early age... I know in the tv and all that crap say to speak up and tell someone, but what if no one listens? You gotta do it yourself. No fighting in violence or anything, but do better than them. Be better than them. Don't let them know you were effected by them.

I have 3 little nieces, I love them like they were my children and like my sisters. The oldest is being bullied because she's chubby. I told her the same thing, show them your better than them. Don't let them know you are being effected by them. And if doesn't work, defend yourselves with words not violence.

That's the one only advice I can tell you if no one listens, because sometimes you are the only person you can count on at times.

But you know something? I think of it as ironic, I should listen to my own advice sometimes... sometimes us adults are really... complicated in some way or another.
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