What Do Men Find Romantic - ADDer comments

[Keppig]

Saw this article and if its true this is really a great way to know what to do. Men, how much of this is on target and do you have anything to add?
Thanks

What Do Men Find Romantic?
By Sara Eckel

When it comes to romance, guys get a bad rap. The conventional wisdom is that they are an unromantic bunch, who'd rather chug a beer in front of the TV than sip champagne by candlelight. But men can be just as romantic as women, though they often express it in different ways. With the help of Matthew Milner, founder of GuyCritical.com, we've uncovered just what makes men swoon. Below, GuyCritical's panelists, who answer women's relationship questions on the site, bare their souls. Relationship experts Bruce Weinstein, Ph.D, author of What Should I Do? 4 Simple Steps to Making Better Decisions in Everyday Life (Perigee/Penguin Putnam), and Michael Webb, founder TheRomantic.com, offer additional insights.

1. Compliments.

The quickest path to a man's heart is through his ego. "The other day, my lady told me she thought I was sexy. That was so cool! I'd never heard that before and it blew me away!" says a schoolteacher from Chicago. A political consultant from Washington, D.C. agrees: "The most romantic thing in the world is for you to be in awe of your man's skills -- whether it's his ability to make people laugh, perform at sports, fix things, or retrieve and display esoteric knowledge. Let him wow you," he says.

2. Dark chocolate.

"Milk chocolate is for kids. Dark chocolate is for lovers," says Weinstein, who explains that dark chocolate has a higher percentage of cocoa, which means it has more phenylethylamine, a chemical that mimics the feeling you have when you're in love.

3. Hard-to-find gifts.

Is his college sweatshirt so faded you can't decipher the name of his alma mater? Is he mourning the loss of a rare comic book that his mother threw away when he left home? Does he collect antique hood ornaments? Webb says that a gift that requires some effort is sure to be a big hit with your guy. "Men and women tend to express love differently. Women are usually the more nurturing types and tend to think of romance in terms of 'soft touches' while men express love in more practical ways," says Webb.

4. You, in his clothes.

"Come to the dinner table wearing nothing but his button-down dress shirt. Now that's romance!" says an artist from Boston.

5. Funny movies.

"A lot of people say that shared values or goals are what make a relationship work," says Weinstein. "But to me it's a shared sense of humor. If you like the Marx Brothers and your date doesn't, then it's simply not going to work," he says. "When you can find someone to laugh with, then you know you're really connecting."

6. A great memory.

A picture really does paint a thousand words -- especially if it's of the two of you tanned and glowing at a beachside resort. "I went to my girlfriend's office and saw that she had a picture of us on vacation in Cancun," says a Seattle construction worker. "Little things like that just make you feel great."

7. An old-fashioned night on the town.

A publisher in New York says that he isn't a huge romantic, but he admits that the rotating dance floor at the Rainbow Room makes him pretty gooey. "You're surrounded by well-dressed couples of all ages who know how to dance. This gives the effect of being in a romantic movie about old New York. Plus, it's a little disorienting with all that spinning around, which puts you in a dreamlike state," he says.

8. Tall buildings.

Because in general guys just like big stuff. But also because taking in such a huge view can put life into perspective. "The tremendous view of the city with all its lights is not only awesome in its own right, but accentuates the essential smallness of the individual person," says a Chicago attorney. "Thus humbled, it is most comforting to realize, at that instant, you're not alone in the world."

9. Surprise intimacy.

Whether it's an unexpected kiss or an afternoon jaunt to the bedroom, men swoon when women say "Come hither." "We like surprises -- like when you initiate sex at odd times, or rent a room in the middle of the day. We also like beaches, bed-and-breakfasts, and when you squeeze our thigh at a snooty dinner party. Oh, and baths. We like bubble baths," says a writer from New York.

10. P.S. I love you.

They may not always admit it, but many men report that they love getting affectionate little notes. "I particularly like finding a note in my suitcase when unpacking on a business trip," says an executive from Dallas. Weinstein agrees. He loves getting a surprise note or email with an affectionate message, and says that a "p.s." increases the charm. "There's something about the p.s. that people respond to. It reminds us of when we were at camp and our mom wrote. P.S. I love you, or the note our high-school sweetheart stuffed into our locker."

[william tell]

Yes , that would work on me ,so would a single rose delivered to work ,not a dozen just 1 and a note

[Nucking_Futs]

My poor husbands self esteem is so low that when I tell him he's sexy or am in awe of something he does...he thinks I'm yanking his chain. One of these days I'll beat it into his head he's one sexy, talented man in my eyes and that's all that matters.

[Crazygirl79]

Recently I apparently flattered someone with a letter...(yes I like them but timing is wrong as his partner died a few months ago)


It said things along the line of "when I see you the sun just shines so much brighter" and when I look up in the sky at night I see lots of stars and the biggest and most brightest one reminds me of you"

Saying things like that can bring a beautiful big smile to someones dial and it's not too full on like "I love you with all my heart" or "I'm watching you" as those sort of lines can be very off putting and a little scary.

If you have a crush on someone but you aren't in a relationship with them you could slip a small note saying something like "Your father must have been a thief as he stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes"......it may work for some.

[speedo]

keppig that is so right on the button!

My ex used to sometimes wear my flannel shirts in a very risque way. I thought it was so seductive. She sometimes wore my t-shirts as a nightgown .. I thought it was so sexy...

There is a lot more but too explicit for a publuc forum..

Me

[Jaycee]

I find that an occasional note put in my hubbby's pocket is great. When he goes on business trips I always try to include at least one. His favorites are the slightly risque poems I've written for him... Those always get me an immediate phone call when he finds them.

[Gourmet]

Jaycee......cute idea! Risque poems. I know someone who just might like that.

Keppig...love the article.

[ADDMuscle]

It's awesome if the girl has done something for you which is annoying to do. Like if she does the dishes or similar. And even more awesome is when you are completly tired after a day and you can come to a nurturing woman who'll take care of you. =) Like giving a massage, taking a hot bath/shower and she cleans you gently with the soap and kisses and caresses you. You know, reducing stress. Remember this one alof because the girl was all stressed out and after a while she was purring like a cat. =) It would be cool to get the same sometime from a girl.

[CollegeADHD]

Those are true except for 7 and 8. 8 is true for some, not for others, but I'm pretty sure Sara Eckel forgot she was talking about guys and not girls on number 7.