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Old 02-01-08, 12:53 AM
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Re: Why the opposite sex is frustrating - vent thread

"Oh, here we go again!" "You said you would stop interrupting me and talking so much." Baby, I'm sorry I am trying but sometimes I just can't help it. "That's what you say every time, but here we go again."
Me= FRUSTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!
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nice addition, Ms. Meadd....I have many frustrations with the opposite sex. Right now I don't feel like posting them though. I will at some point
Well when you do have the urge let it rip you know where this thread is - no real topic to stick to no one has to agree or even like it - this is a vent thread a place let it out without having to be supportive of any one because the topic is to vent. . . I felt like this type of thread was way over due . . . . it is better to give the river of emotions a place to travel than it is to try and damn them up behind a wall of support. {shrug well I figured it would be worth a try any way}





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Sometimes I wish I was straight. Guys seem to be a lot less complicated.
Yet many women find them confusing - I have been told by both genders that I think more like a man than most women - perhaps that is why I am not straight heterosexual - just a thought though -


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Interestingly enough though .. the things in women groups (lesbians) that I have the most problems with .. exclusion, playing favourites, group politics ..
Wish these problems were stickily groups of female lesbians I think this pretty well pertains to groups of women period. I have often thought it should be against some kind of law to have too many women together for a long period of time especially if they are in a confined area - they get vicious - politics and stupid he said /she said BS oh geez I hate that stuff but naturally I am one of those ADHD females who doesn't do the group gal thing. I can if I have to but would prefer not to not really interested. I work with mostly men now - thankfully so I no longer have to deal with the mind games and cliskish stuff like I did when I was in nursing and the field was mostly females.
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Re: Why the opposite sex is frustrating - vent thread

Male selective hearing - drives me nuts I think Gary would listen better if I spoke Chinese - what part of "do not let the cat out of it's carrier" is difficult to understand - now you get to catch him - he can't have any thing to eat or drink after ten minutes ago - Ahhhhhhhh


OKay both genders are frustrating!!! Maybe people are simply annoying period.
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Re: Why the opposite sex is frustrating - vent thread

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OKay both genders are frustrating!!! Maybe people are simply annoying period.
I couldn't agree with that statement any more, with women though I have to admit that you know when something is up and with men (as I am currently discovering) the one I am with seems to alternate between unemotional to being a big baby.

"Selective Hearing"-----> Tell me about it, I am understanding why women get so frustrated.
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Re: The Relationship - vent thread

I wish my husband could ignore me with out interrupting what I am doing . . . why interrupt what I am doing to ask me a question or show me something to get an opinion only to totally blow off any suggestions I have - I would prefer to be ignored without the disruption.



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Why I refuse to date anymore

Answer: I'm exhausted at 36! I'm tired of conforming to other womens' image of being the perfect guy, the understanding guy, the caring guy, well-dressed guy, well- organized guy, etc. When I meet women at the beginning they say they like a guy who is quirky and different (like me), they really don't to be honest. Most women I meet really want the guy next door who is a 'regular' guy (whatever that means). I'm intelligent, funny, handsome, independent, adventurous, loyal, creative and none of these qualities seem to matter much in the long run.
What she wants: the bad boy/sensitive and kind, always tells the truth/but please not when I don't want to hear it, good money manager/you don't spend enough on me, you never leave me alone/we never spend much time together, why are you so assertive or agressive/why can't you stand up for yourself, you don't want me anymore/not now honey I'm tired, do I look fat in this dress/why can't you give me a straight answer, why don't we go out to eat/we can't afford this, are you cheating on me/don't stand over my shoulder while I'm chatting on the pc, don't buy any more guitars/honey don't you love these new outfits I bought, why don't you come with me and do what I like every week/I can't be bothered with your activities, etc.

Whew. OK now that was cumulative, fortunately I don't have to hear all of those nowadays.
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Re: The Relationship - vent thread

I don't even do the relationship thing anymore. Too much of a pain in the *****. After the first infatuation it wears off. Done with that cr@p.
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Old 02-04-08, 10:46 AM
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Re: The Relationship - vent thread

After reading all these posts on this and other threads about relationships, I'm just exasperated!! I don't know to what degree ADD causes my feelings about dating relationships, but it is just too frustrating to keep going down this road. Maybe I should just accept the fact that it is OK to be a single adult and that marriage/relationships is not in the cards for everyone. I wish I had the courage to tell well-meaning friends and family to buzz off and quit worrying about the fact that I'm not settling down. Thanks for letting me vent on here.
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Re: The Relationship - vent thread

Brakna, I'm on the same page as you. I used to let relationships really mess me up, not anymore. I'm okay now just being single and not even having a girlfriend. I still want to meet and go out with woman though. I'm male and horny! just not a long time. I will be upfront with the woman as well.

Aurelian said....."I don't even do the relationship thing anymore. Too much of a pain in the *****. After the first infatuation it wears off. Done with that cr@p."

EXACTLY! perfectly said.
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Thanks for letting me vent on here.
No problem that is why this thread is here . . . .so when men can't make up their minds we can vent here thus avoid the jail time I'd get for strangling the crap out of him - no dear I can't read your mind **it you can't even do that - geez don't you have some where else to be? any where - any where I am not. . .would be perferable.
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Re: The Relationship - vent thread

great thread idea, thank you. I just may add some of my own venting here after abit.
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Re: The Relationship - vent thread

Meadd823

You all womens got the "can't make up the mind" thing goin' on too. Made me want to go on an @ss kicking expedition before I gave up dating. Above all for both sexes post here.
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When do you know it is time to give up?
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When do you know it is time to give up?
I would like to know the same thing. When do you know you aren't meant to ever be married?
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i don't think you do really know. Life is like a rollercoaster. ONe day YOU MIGHT meet the "perfect" person...I guess you really never know. Keep your ears and eyes open. And talk to people.
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