I almost had a nervous breakdown today at work

[lychweake]

I almost had a nervous breakdown today at work, usually Im pretty stable besides just being plain old eccentric/hyper.


But today was really bad and I empowered my fellow coworker/"wannabe supervisor" by getting so worked up internally by him "indirectly" pushing me around to the point he said that I dont look so good and maybe I should go home for the rest of the day (which I think he just wanted to see how I would react and wasnt actually going to try to send me home)


All I said in defense was "im ok, just stop F***ing with me and i'll be ok) but then Im sure my coworkers dint find anything out of the ordinary with how I was acting.


Heck, my boss even likes to joke around about how Im "nuts" and even has a nickname for me...so if this fella decides to make a bigger fuss about it Im not worried for I'll end up using my "ulcerative colitis" as an excuse like I have before which has only been seldom.


All in all im sure tomorrow will be just like it was the day before and the day before that as I always stress to you folks as a perfect example that we all have "ups" and "downs" at work and your self proclaimed "psychosis" is probably more normal then you find yourself to believe it is.

[lychweake]

Comments? Suggestions? Anybody???

[SuzzanneX]

welp, it's a matter of a verbal spar, you are his peer correct?

....tell him you don't have time to point out all of his imperfections, and it would be painful,
so instead, you'd prefer that you, work on you, and then he could work on him.

.............and the world will be a better place.

tell him if he wants to change something, "the area within his skin" is what he can control.
.....so, try to control his impulses.

whatever bothers him about you, is also true about him.
....he's really llashing out at himself

LOL

[RoboticPaper]

^yeah like this guy is saying. Don't wait until a boiling point because all that pent up rage is just so bad for you.

I follow that golden rule. Don't mess with me and I won't mess with you. If I'm doing something wrong, then fine, but otherwise best keep moving.

If you feel pushed around. Push back asap, so that its off your chest. I'm not saying lash out or be passive aggressive. But you have to find your own individual way coping with them "****ing with you" if you want to call it that.

My boss used to ***** with me sometimes. Tried a few headgames and what not. I would almost always feed it right back to her and whoever else was in on it immediately via email or whatever.

Never had as much of a problem with my peers. I relied on them to help me so I did my best to stay on their good side and it turns out they were pretty cool anyways for the most part.

[NickL30]

That has happened to me. But if you stick up for yourself, you get labeled as having a 'bad attitude'. There was this one job that was particularly bad. How did I get even?? I quit with no notice -- cleaned out my desk over the weekend and called HR that wednesday and told her what I thought about the company and about their tactics. I was put on a 60 day PIP but not terminated likely because so many people were quitting voluntarily.

But dealing with frustration, nervousness at work.. I hate to say it, but sometimes I need to pop a few Xanax tablets or Gabapentin (generic Neurontin).

[DotwithADD]

I've had past co-workers that acted like they hated me for no reason... or acted like they were jealous of me... for what I don't know. One girl asked me if I really needed to work. That was because of the clothes I already had before I started to work there. Well, that job only lasted for 10 months. I didn't quit, but wasn't sad because of that girl that worked there. I was really happy. Then got another job shortly after that. Unfortunately, that next job didn't last... it wasn't my type of job and I was miserable only after the "4th" supervisor in my department/office was hired... she didn't like me either. That's when I was misdiagnosed (kind of my fault, too I think, as I was afraid to go see a psychiatrist at the suggestion of my 'former' dr at that time) and was taking meds for anxiety, OCD (which I do have though), etc... but not ADD. And that new supervisor thought it'd be better if I didn't have that job because I'd end up taking more meds... (But I didn't have to take any meds before she became the "director" - hmmmm).

[NickL30]

Originally Posted by DotwithADD

I've had past co-workers that acted like they hated me for no reason... or acted like they were jealous of me... for what I don't know. One girl asked me if I really needed to work. That was because of the clothes I already had before I started to work there. Well, that job only lasted for 10 months. I didn't quit, but wasn't sad because of that girl that worked there. I was really happy. Then got another job shortly after that. Unfortunately, that next job didn't last... it wasn't my type of job and I was miserable only after the "4th" supervisor in my department/office was hired... she didn't like me either. That's when I was misdiagnosed (kind of my fault, too I think, as I was afraid to go see a psychiatrist at the suggestion of my 'former' dr at that time) and was taking meds for anxiety, OCD (which I do have though), etc... but not ADD. And that new supervisor thought it'd be better if I didn't have that job because I'd end up taking more meds... (But I didn't have to take any meds before she became the "director" - hmmmm).

I thought everyone in TX is very friendly and laid back. I am actually thinking about moving to the Austin or San Antonio area and I know some people from the NYC area who moved down there and love it.

I had the same problem when I took this job last year in northern CT (Hartford Cty). The people were very cliquish and would literally walk past me and ignore me even if I just said Good Morning or How are you doing..

I think they were jealous of me because and mgmt realized that they offered me 'too much' money plus relocation and every weekend I would go back to NYC (2 hour drive) to hang out or spend time with family since it was pretty boring in the boondox of north central CT.

[DotwithADD]

Originally Posted by NickL30

I thought everyone in TX is very friendly and laid back. I am actually thinking about moving to the Austin or San Antonio area and I know some people from the NYC area who moved down there and love it.

I had the same problem when I took this job last year in northern CT (Hartford Cty). The people were very cliquish and would literally walk past me and ignore me even if I just said Good Morning or How are you doing..

I think they were jealous of me because and mgmt realized that they offered me 'too much' money plus relocation and every weekend I would go back to NYC (2 hour drive) to hang out or spend time with family since it was pretty boring in the boondox of north central CT.

Most of us are... Well, I know I am... as others are (from TX) on this forum... But remember... there are all kinds of people in every town, city, state, country, continent... etc. It all depends on your outlook. But, I believe most people are friendly here in TX... and nice. You always get one or two "rude" people in every place, whether it's employment, school, etc.. either they want to be or friend or exclude you. There are even "cliques" in churches... believe it or not. But, my attitude is... that I don't go to work or school to make friends, but if I do make a friend or two while at work, then that's just the icing on the cake. I do my best not to get involved in workplace gossip, either. I hope you do come to Texas... just want to remind you... there are some rude ones in Texas, but I believe there are more friendly, kind, helpful, and nice people in Texas that make me forget about the rude ones.

And thanks. Oh, and I wasn't originally born in TX, but got here as quick as I could (With a few detours along the way). I even stayed in TX after my parents moved to NE (I was engaged to a good 'ole Texas dude, at that time, whom I married and am still married to). I hope you find Texas to be all you hoped it would be for you.

[MrBean]

Hello, I have gone through a situation that was very similar to yours. I know exactly what it is like to be bullied. I do not know how I made it to where I am today. My advice to you is to try and talk to a counselor who could give you necessary tools for handling this difficult situaiton. Or talk to somebody who you trust who could be of use to you. If you feel like you need to talk you can send me a private message.