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Old 12-07-09, 01:05 PM
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For Newbies

I thought I might post this again. It seems like something worth doing.

A SUGGESTION FOR NEWCOMERS: THE "THANKS" BUTTON.

At the bottom right of each post there is a "Thanks" button. Pressing this button is a very good thing. It leaves a message: "The Following User(s) Says Thank You to (poster's name) For This Useful Post:" and lists those who have left thank you's. You will see this on the bottom of many posts.

This simple act helps motivate posters to post more and rewards their effort to write a thoughtful post. For those who have had to built up the nerve to finally post here, this reinforcement is, in my opinion, really important. To finally post and get no response of any sort can be very discouraging. Often, I suspect the thanks is even more important than a posted response. It is a sign that the effort was appreciated and recognized. Don't do this indiscriminately, but when you see something worth while.....hit thanks.

Also be aware of the reputation icon. It is the "justice scale" symbol on the bar just above the top of the post itself. Leave comments. This has a lot to do with the number of green squares you see attached to someone's name so it can be an effective motivator. I see this as a way of acknowledging really good posts so do it well and often.

To recap: I encourage all to hit the "Thanks" icon for good posts and for those people who you want to continue posting. You cannot thank people too many times and considering that so many here are ADHD, lots of positive reinforcement is even more important.


Hit "Thanks" a lot. It is simple, easy and really does make a difference.


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Old 02-12-10, 12:36 AM
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Re: For Newbies

Im learning how to use this...... Thanx!
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Re: For Newbies

Thank you! As a nubee I appreciate your tip regarding people at least giving some sort of feedback. In addition I would appreciate any other "tips" you or anyone may have about their experiences with A.D.H.D. and moving to Tennessee from the North and I don't want to offend anyone since I am new to this state!
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Re: For Newbies

*lol* I just found it, been using it.!
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Re: For Newbies

I am very captivated in the important point of your post. I m positive to your post will completely be of help out to a lot of people.
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Re: For Newbies

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I thought I might post this again. It seems like something worth doing.

A SUGGESTION FOR NEWCOMERS: THE "THANKS" BUTTON.

At the bottom right of each post there is a "Thanks" button. Pressing this button is a very good thing. It leaves a message: "The Following User(s) Says Thank You to (poster's name) For This Useful Post:" and lists those who have left thank you's. You will see this on the bottom of many posts.

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Also be aware of the reputation icon. It is the "justice scale" symbol on the bar just above the top of the post itself. Leave comments. This has a lot to do with the number of green squares you see attached to someone's name so it can be an effective motivator. I see this as a way of acknowledging really good posts so do it well and often.

To recap: I encourage all to hit the "Thanks" icon for good posts and for those people who you want to continue posting. You cannot thank people too many times and considering that so many here are ADHD, lots of positive reinforcement is even more important.


Hit "Thanks" a lot. It is simple, easy and really does make a difference.


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@Dizfriz--I have never thought about what you said but I think it's so true. You do finally get the nerve to post & then nothing, black hole. I'm going to start using my "thanks" button far more frequently.
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Personally I don't think I will ever use the thanks button. I would rather thank someone by quoting their post and saying it in writing plus I like to be a rebel so I will just not use it *grin*
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Personally I don't think I will ever use the thanks button. I would rather thank someone by quoting their post and saying it in writing plus I like to be a rebel so I will just not use it *grin*
I would rather use the thanks button than quote someone just to add "I agree with this."
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Typical me.... Saying half of what I meant and leaving the other half in my brain What I meant was I would prefer to thank someone by engaging their ideas with thoughts of my own to stimulate an interesting exchange of concepts. Not just a post to thank them as that i agree would be a waste of a post.
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Typical me.... Saying half of what I meant and leaving the other half in my brain What I meant was I would prefer to thank someone by engaging their ideas with thoughts of my own to stimulate an interesting exchange of concepts. Not just a post to thank them as that i agree would be a waste of a post.
I don't always have something to add to the discussion but still want to let someone know that I agree, or they've given me something to think about.
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Typical me.... Saying half of what I meant and leaving the other half in my brain What I meant was I would prefer to thank someone by engaging their ideas with thoughts of my own to stimulate an interesting exchange of concepts. Not just a post to thank them as that i agree would be a waste of a post.
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I don't always have something to add to the discussion but still want to let someone know that I agree, or they've given me something to think about.

Like Lunacie said, it's a way to agree or let someone know they've given a person something to think about without clogging up a thread with comments saying basically "I agree with you/the OP".

When scrolling through extremely long threads, it's difficult to read all of the posts sometimes. If I see posts where people have been thanked, especially several times- those are the posts that I read first. Sometimes, the only ones that I bother to read.

I realize that everyone has their own way of doing things and that there is no right or wrong. But something to keep in mind is members tend to take the thanks button very seriously. Next to the positive rep button, it's one of the highest "compliments" (for lack of a better word) you can give a member.

Being a support forum for ADD and other disorders, many of us have lived with a lack of thanks and appreciation when we've done our best or tried our hardest. We've been told we didn't try hard enough, were lazy, etc. So, some members REALLY take the thanks button and rep button as a sincere compliment. Also, a lot of members definitely look to see how many times a person has given thanks. Members can be quick to comment on the fact that a member hasn't ever thanked anyone, especially in a heated discussion/thread.

So, if your way of saying thanks is quoting someone and agreeing with them, there's nothing wrong with that at all. There are some members who are very particular about giving thanks. Just be aware that it's taken very seriously by a lot of members
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Good points. If you want to be generous with thanks, you can be serious about rep points. That's how I do it. I spread thanks fairly liberally, but am more serious about rep points. That way, I can use thanks to let people know I appreciate posts and show appreciation frequently, while holding rep points more in reserve to let the poster know that their post was greatly beneficial to me in some way, or a very high-quality post, along with a quick personal note.
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Re: For Newbies

What about "like" as used in other social media interfaces?
I sometimes like a post -usefull or nor- and feel like saying "well done!" to the author. Because "Thanks" is linked to "usefulness", I somehow hesitate to click on it for the post I simply like to read...
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Bumping this For all our newbies and old members.
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I sometimes feel like I over thank. Possible?
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