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Old 01-02-10, 08:44 PM
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Hi folks,

I never thought some of my most typical traits simply bear a name. My story is too much like so many other stories here, it is almost embarrassing. So far about uniqueness!

As soon as i could read, i became obsessed with acquiring knowledge. I would read several books in a single day. Often phasing out my attention to other things than the book and taking chapters before i even realized that i don't know what i am reading. But i sufficiently understood what i was reading as to learn almost nothing new in the classroom. I was bored to death and was lucky enough to have had several teachers allowing me to read other books during their class. I was almost always late and quite often absent at school because of severe sleeping problems. Still i always had excellent grades in all subjects. I never could bring myself to do homework and assigned tasks. Later at high school, i became minimalist and managed to produce merely good results on subjects of interest, and barely sufficient grades for the subjects that i had no interest in. I even took pride in that.

I went to university to study engineering. I managed with great effort to pass the first two year succesfully, but in the third year i could no longer bring myself to it. The problem were the 'easy' courses, like economics and marketing. I simply couldn't bring myself to study them, no matter how hard i tried. It took me longer to study a 120 pages introductory course on economics (8 days), than it took me to study an 800 pages theoretical course on electromagnetism (4 days). I failed the economics exam and passed the physics course. After a year of soul searching i decided to quit engineering and switch to theoretical physics. I became intensly interested in quantum physics and graduated magna cum laude as the first of my year. I went on to pursue a PhD at another university. That's 15 years ago now, and there is still no PhD. I produced numerous articles along the way, a few of which i am proud of.

The only way for me to get the job done, is getting into an intense focus but i never managed to get control over what next thing of interest will be. If it happens, i will think about nothing else. I'll fall asleep thinking about it, dream about it and wake up with it. No point in talking to me unless you want to wait a minute for me to process your words and before you might get an answer. Such a phase usually last from weeks to months. After that i can be tired, but the boredom that comes after it is ultimately harder to swallow.

It was curious for me to read also in some other threads that blind interest is not the only thing that can get the engine up and running: questions of other people also seem to lift from me the burden of not knowing how, where and when to start. In fact, some of my fellow students never knew how much they helped me pass exams simply because they asked me to help them with a few chapters. But.. the question has to be genuine, not something that "i have to do" .

I recognize the incredibly lousy short term memory: don't ask me what happened yesterday, or even what is on schedule for today. Walking into a room to do something and getting absorbed into something else and completely forgetting what i am supposed to do there. I can read to my kids from a book with all the characters having disctinct voices i imitate and at the same time think about something completely different. Sometimes i don't register what i read to them. Next day i'll be clueless where we left, unless i memorize the page.

Although i hardly watch television, i always go to bed too late, greatly enjoying the time of no interaction with the world. I love people, don't get me wrong! I feel things have improved somewhat over the years, although i haven't managed to undo it and neither do i have a desire for that.

Although i am just beginning to read about ADD (good literature tips?), I don't like to regard it as a disease. Hence i don't think i will try medication for it. Simply because we discovered that having these symptoms correlates well with the concentration levels of some chemicals in our brain? What does that really mean? What does it it prove? It has a name..

Thanks for bearing with me and for contributing to this forum.
I am glad to have found this place.
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Yes, Tqm40, it is odd to suddenly find out that you share seemingly idiosyncratic qualities with 3-5% of the population!

Your story sounds like mine and -- as I'm sure you are now finding out -- many or most others here in this Forum.

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Re: So it has a name..Tqm40 from the Netherlands

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Although i hardly watch television, i always go to bed too late, greatly enjoying the time of no interaction with the world. I love people, don't get me wrong!
I actually try to schedule this kind of time into my day, it's that important to me. You're definitely not alone!
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Thanks to you all for your kind replies (i don't know how the thanks and the green squares work, but hey, you all get them). I read many people find it a relief when they first discover this. I find myself strangely desoriented and somewhat sad too. I really don't know why. I think i am gonna need some time too accomodate this new finding. See, i always thought that ADHD/ADD had mainly to do an attention deficit, which clearly wasn't about me: i can have *lots* of attention! I suggest we change the name. How about: Attention Disequilibrium Disorder
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Meridian, where can i read your story?
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