Why do I want to drink.

[Draga]

Mom and her infanete wisdom says the only reason I want to hit the sauce is to look and feel like a grown up and do grown up thinkgs...HELLO I am 28 years old!!!!!! I swear if she had her way I would still be attached at the uterus! Some times it's lossen up...sometimes it is to not feel anything at all...or just sometimes I just want too..but is she right partly?

[Garry]

Theres nothing wrong with either of those reasons for drinking as long as you are aware of why you are drinking.

[t-bird]

I can't say why *you* drink, but as for me I like to for different reasons. Sometimes just for fun, sometimes to be social, or when I am sad, to be numb.

I doesn't make me feel "grown up" at all! If anything it makes me feel immature (does that even make sense?).

[Tara]

Out of all the many reasons I used to drink trying to feel grown up was never one of them. I still drink occaisonally but nothing like I used to.

[sam]

Hmm, here drinking isn't really a sign of maturity. Since the drinking age is so low where I live (15) and no-one really ever enforces it.. kids start pretty young. Infact, it's expected for a 14/15 y/o to get completely smashed after his Protestant confirmation party lol. So I guess I've never really thought of drinking as a way of looking/acting older and more-so the oppossite.

If anything else, the "older" people (no offence to anyone :-)) I know drink to feel -younger-, or at least that's what they've told me hehe.

[Jellybean]

In my opinion most people drink to numb the mind, or temporarily overcome inhibitions.
Personally for me, it is an escape from my ever introspective nature. And to overcome social inhibitions.
I feel like drinking these past couple days, as I am wanting to climb out of my confusion of a relationship.

[waywardclam]

What difference does it make to your mother why you drink?

What business of it is hers?

[Draga]

Originally Posted by Jellybean

In my opinion most people drink to numb the mind, or temporarily overcome inhibitions.
Personally for me, it is an escape from my ever introspective nature. And to overcome social inhibitions.
I feel like drinking these past couple days, as I am wanting to climb out of my confusion of a relationship.

Exactumundo Jp ty,...I do become mor socialbe and les uptight when I get hammered

[Draga]

Clam..it is the buisness of a concerned mother who does not want me to drink cause I take medication...I told her I am old enoug to make that decision for myself...I think it just a mother that refuses in someway that I am an adult.

Thanks guys,..I feel the same way all ya's feel...I do not rdrink as much as I used to either...being broke has cured me of that .hehe

[Energizer_Bunny]

As far as her mother, I am 42, and my dad still tells me to watch how much I drink! I believe parents will be parents no matter how old you are. So I let them be my parent and it lets them feel better and I say yes dad I will be careful.

However, age does not represent maturity or being grown up!!!!! Age is just a number. Your actions represent maturity. That is why a lot of the commericals about drinking tell you to "Act responsible"!

[Draga]

Still a pain in the butt that I am still being treated like a child as if I am soo Incompatant *sigh*

[waywardclam]

So tell her to **** off...

Sorry... but some relatives are like that... they need to be RUDELY awakened to the fact that you have your own life, whether they like it or not...

[Ian]

Confrontational styles of conflict resolution never really work out for me. I sometimes get a thrill from the excitement of it all but I never get the results I'm looking for. I do know how it's done! ehh

If you know someone that has a problem with someone else's drinking and they have an interest in getting over it, there are wonderful people at Alanon http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ that have learnt how to get beyond someone Else's habits with drinking.

My wife got help in Alanon two years before I even knew I had a problem. It probably saved my sorry ****. It was amazing to watch her go from wailing about me having even one drink to her seeing me drunk "again" and asking me sincerely if she could get me another drink when she was headed that way. It was disturbing to say the least. She just got over it. Plain and simple. She got a life of her own.

What her 12 step skills did was remove anything I might want to blame her for and stopped the fighting surrounding my drinking. By the end of her first two years in Alanon, I was left to make my own decisions about my behaviour in all aspects of my life. It was a good thing. I wasn't happy. She was getting increasingly happy. I snapped and wanted what she had. I was lucky.

I hope your Mum gets the help she needs. There are meetings almost everywhere. Maybe you could leave a pamphlet lying around. What do you think?

ian

[irish guy]

Ian,
I think you may have misread...Mels mom thinks Mel has a problem...great advice none the less.

[Ian]

If Mel's Mum has a problem with Mel's drinking her Mum might benefit from what Alanon has to offer. Maybe I was unclear.
ian