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Old 07-13-10, 05:14 AM
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Unhappy ADHD-what is it like?

well, I know what it is like, all too well, I was diagnosed in 1983! I am searching for something to share with my family so they can understand what it is iike for me. There have been so many situations lately both within my control and outside of my control that have piled up and left me overwhelmed and at my wits end. I am not looking for the humorous stuff, I am looking for something serious that will make them understand what it is like for "us"
I went from being so motivated and having hyperfocus to not being able to even think about what needs to be done. In order for one thing to be done so many other things need to be first --
my depression has deepened / worsened but the medicine I'm on can't be raised (heart issues) I'm on Adderall and Celexa - it's a day by day feeling if the meds work / don't work.
I've had a string of bad luck lately
right now I've given up, yes, I've thought about giving up all together but I'm afraid I'd fail at that too and have to face all of the issues that I'm running from anyway. I say that in jest, knowing that what I really want is help to get things back on track, which selfishly means having my family lift some of these responsibilities off of me for a bit, help me get my house organized again, help me follow up on the things I need to do.

Anyone have any leads for something useful I can give to my family to understand. This family is my parents, I live alone which is part of the problem, I can hide from the real issues of my life, when I go outside it's all hidden what I'm truly fighting.

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Old 07-13-10, 05:22 AM
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

I found this helpful. The same author wrote this on tumblr if your family won't react well to a feminist blog.

The Feministe site is itself fairly political, but that post is written by an ADHDer describing the what it's like for her to live with ADHD, and I don't think it's so much political as, well, what it is.
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

I should show that to my aunt even though I'm not as severe as the person that wrote that, I've developed lots of coping mechanisms, though I was more like that as a kid.
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

ok, I wannna know how that girl got into my head !????
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

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I found this helpful. The same author wrote this on tumblr if your family won't react well to a feminist blog.

The Feministe site is itself fairly political, but that post is written by an ADHDer describing the what it's like for her to live with ADHD, and I don't think it's so much political as, well, what it is.

I like the author of the first blog already and I've only read the first couple of paragraphs. Maybe we should send the link to Peter Gray's article?
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

Dinger, Dinger, Dinger...

tsk, tsk.

We try to discourage cross forum stuff.

(((hugs))) because I understand exactly where that came from.
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

My bad! Don't hit me!
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

Hey, if you just happen to post the link because you're commenting on her blog post, it doesn't really count, does it? Just in case, use a different handle and don't mention ADDF.
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

hi agirl!

I think PBS Misunderstood Minds is a great place for people to experience what it's like to be ADHD.

Click on the link I gave you, then do the activities in "Experience Firsthand" (visual, auditory and attention). People will experience something similar to what it's like in our heads, it's pretty neat.
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

I was just thinking about this the other night, I think it's a bit like never getting more than half the sleep you need. So tired your just spinning in circles trying to get things done but going in too many directions at once.
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

For me it is like drowning in a sea of information and you don't know how to swim. Medication is the life preserver.
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

I suggest checking this out: http://addmoms.com/2010/07/06/understanding-adhd/ I don't know if it will help but she does make some good points...
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

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Me too, all the time!

I won't put my own comments on the topic, though, because I think everyone else has covered it pretty well. It's different for each person, of course, but I think they covered the overall feeling very well. Also, the links that were posted give a lot of good insight as well, in my opinion.
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Re: ADHD-what is it like?

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I found this helpful. The same author wrote this on tumblr if your family won't react well to a feminist blog.

The Feministe site is itself fairly political, but that post is written by an ADHDer describing the what it's like for her to live with ADHD, and I don't think it's so much political as, well, what it is.
Great post.

That's what it's like.

Would maybe add something about no ability to remember when in the past things happened - perhaps more generally a weak memory of past events which might be because I wasn't really 'there' at the time
-- zoning out is preferable to being 'there' -
I wonder whether our tendency to daydream wipes out our memory of events because there's nothing firmly there, to recollect.

Greater problems learning information which we're not interested in - or maybe just learning information.
-- relative to NonADD

More attracted to working things out, intuitive methods - learning by doing, doing for ourselves.
--ADD advantages.

From previously - we take longer to learn better.
(as long as we're interested in the subject matter)
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