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Old 10-16-10, 04:33 AM
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ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

I am the poster child for ADD (Inattentive type)..was diagnosed a year back.
My life COMPLETLY changed after that..and all that..

I also suffer from an OCD. It involves trying NOT to look the breasts of women, especially those women I am not supposed to look.

Phobia : Staring at breasts.
Affect : Trying not to look, there by looking at them..embarrassment...anxiety...I better stay at home.


I would like to know if anyone of you have this kind of OCD?
is ADD somehow responsible for this OCD?
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Old 10-16-10, 05:09 AM
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

tbh dont think its anything to do with adhd would say all men are like that lol
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

I think it's pretty normal...

are you getting embarassed b/c you are being called out on it, or you just assume it is noticed??
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

Wheres the poster?

Looking at breats your not supposed to look at? is that your mothers?

Are you a girl? as that would describe the problem you have, solution, choose different freinds.

Most women would be offended if you didn't, posibly not in indea tho.

I think this is the best first post i've ever read!
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

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Looking at breats your not supposed to look at? is that your mothers?

Are you a girl? as that would describe the problem you have, solution, choose different freinds.

Most women would be offended if you didn't, posibly not in indea tho.

I think this is the best first post i've ever read!
Oh he/she is in India. Much more strict social rules, I think... that would be very hard and upsetting!

Eye contact is difficult for us ADD'ers.... I know a couple other people look at someone's nose when talking to them, to avoid the struggle with looking elsewhere. Maybe that could help in your situation??

Please try not to feel too embarassed. There is something quite mezmerizing about boobs for just about everyone, except gay men... and some of them will abmit to liking them just a little as well.
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

I must admit this used to stress me too.
So how is one supposed to respond?
Averting ones eyes from beauty somehow seemed inappropriate too.
I hate double binds.
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

The problem is when 'trying not to' you do more of, as the focus is on it.

Nearest i can think, gymnasts, cars motorbikes, you go where you look, if you see a tree you'll hit it, so look away, for the gap/space, consentrate on something else.

That is easier said than done of course, I don't know but good luck, maybe apreciate the curves, jewelry, clothes and coment on them, tho not the curves bit!, not many guys do that, me included.

I find indian girls normaly more beutiful anyway.
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

I am a 30 yr old Male, and yes, right now I am in India.But I live in US.

This is a serious problem and thousands of people suffer from it. It has nothing to do with culture or nationality...lot of Americans suffer from it too..just too embarrassed to ask help..

check out this thread : http://www.uncommonforum.com/viewtop...er=asc&start=0

http://www.ocdhelpdoc.com/2009/06/jo...g-at-privates/

I strongly suspect that my ADD is responsible for this OCD.
I love my ADD, btw.
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

This thread reminds of this scene in a movie: LOL!
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

I've been diagnosed with ADD/Depression and I might have OCD as well. I don't have this problem.

I think you just have to practice/improve your self control by not staring. Keep self discipline. Over time you will improve to maintain eye contact and not stare.

I remember in uni during lab/prac there were 2 males (including me) and 2 females on the table/desk. This 1 female was really hot and she wore clothes every week, as if her breasts were gonna overflow (really low cleavage and her breasts were big)! It's as if her breast needs to breathe or something! The guy gets caught every week blatantly staring at that girl's breast. Even the other girl gets distracted by her breasts. While I'm just concentrating at the board/front.

Also remember this quote, "What's the deal with boobs/breasts/tits anyway?! They're just sacks of fat that don't do anything!" (Apart from feeding babies.)
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

I may be in the minority, but if someone looks at my chest that Im talking with I find it very offensive unless they are complimenting me on my top/shirt.

so if you find yourself looking, try to shoot out a compliment on the color or print. then if you do it again, reenforce how much you like the print.

ex: I have a spagetti strap pink top with an AR-15 on it (I love it) and wear in the summer. so if someone looks at my chest and some type of firearm topic, approval or dissaproval comes up that is fine, and dont take offense if they look again... it is a cool top.

but looking to just look... no, that bugs me

maybe if you could try to focus on some other part of her.

if I see someone that their chest is falling out and they do not look 'normal' ... meaning DD and 110 lbs or are bad implants I have trouble not looking. so I look at their face and determine if her makeup is applied correctly and if the colors are correct and where something should be done differently, and how her hair affects her face and what should be done with it.

maybe a dr can help you work on ways to help you.
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

Badidi, Sorry to say this..but I refuse to believe that even adders in adder's forum are still talking about self control,discipline and practice...the three scrooges with their leader ..the 'Will'. What are we...Nietzscheans now?

I am not saying that we cannot cure certain anxiety disorders with philosophy alone..but that philosophy should have basis in understanding..not control.

I just want to understand, and your experiences may help.
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Re: ADD and OCD (trying to avoid looking at breasts)

I think a bigger problem is daydreaming while a woman is talking and then unconsiously looking at her boobs and then snapping out of the daydream.....uh oh
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The problem is when 'trying not to' you do more of, as the focus is on it.

Nearest i can think, gymnasts, cars motorbikes, you go where you look, if you see a tree you'll hit it, so look away, for the gap/space, consentrate on something else.

That is easier said than done of course, I don't know but good luck, maybe apreciate the curves, jewelry, clothes and coment on them, tho not the curves bit!, not many guys do that, me included.

I find indian girls normaly more beutiful anyway.
So true!
As a beginner skier my skis always seemed to have rock or precipice magnets attached to them.

Bottom line is you cant control your thoughts by forcing them, and you cant force yourself not to think about something difficult unless you are thinking about the thing you don't want to think about.
It is an old Eastern Medicine trick:
"Take this medication and do not think of a monkey for a week, then you will recover."
Bottom line is- if you master this trick - you really will be well- because you will have learned to meditate.

I don't know about more beautiful ( I'm all for variety), but Indian girls can be very easy on the eye.

It is kind of ungenerous not to acknowledge the "whole person" (personality, brains and sexuality) though, is it not?
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Badidi, Sorry to say this..but I refuse to believe that even adders in adder's forum are still talking about self control,discipline and practice...the three scrooges with their leader ..the 'Will'. What are we...Nietzscheans now?

I am not saying that we cannot cure certain anxiety disorders with philosophy alone..but that philosophy should have basis in understanding..not control.


I just want to understand, and your experiences may help.
Nicely put.
Self knowledge trumps self control.
The control and discipline brigade are the ones who are largely responsible for causing our ADD in the first place. ( aka Neurotypicals)
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