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Old 05-26-11, 04:06 PM
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

I was married to a woman for 15yrs that basically compared porn to adultery, and since I (and as far as I know MOST men) needed porn to "knuckle shuffle", I just didn't do either. I would have to wait for her to be out of town to look at smut and even then she had found out from a friends husband in IT how to look at Internet history, so she would come home and look at where I had been, if it was empty, it was bad as having a trail of XXX sites on it too.

Since getting divorced, I have more than once found myself concerned with my interest in porn now that I don't have a "monitor" watching over what I am up to. I think it is more of an impulsive/boredom based activity now, I look at it and watch movies, get bored, and go do something else, I don't even masturbate to it very often. I still have a healthy sex drive and dated and slept with quite a few women when I started dating and now that I am in a LTR with one woman we have a healthy (frequent) sex life, usually 2-3 times a week after 2 years. Who can say what "normal" is though????
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

Im going back on Prozac thats all Im saying. Then Im signing up to be a nun... Im done trying! Life is so effing unfair!
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

eh. to a certain extent. longest i went without porno and further was about 2 weeks, only cuz it was lent and i was on field trip in france. i really gotta find something to stop wanting it. i build stuff and it solves the problem, but im not made of money...
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

Hmmmm well I wouldn't say I have an unconquerable sex drive. I masturbate often but I don't usually watch porn. My personal fantasy's are way hotter and my orgasms are more intense. I'm not sure why other then most porn is cheesy and mostly about sex. I'm more into foreplay and actual story lines. I like watching movies with really intense sex scenes and usually build around that. For example, the sex scene between Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis in the Black Swan.. So effing HOT! Or Unfaithful, another favorite.

My husband and I don't have a super active sex life though. He's in the military and often works late. I'm usually asleep and I get really REALLY grumpy if I'm woken up, haha. Life with 3 kids often gets in the way of intimacy, LOL. He watches porn a lot and I can't say it's never bothered me. It was my own insecurities though. I was a fattie after having my kids and worried that I might not be desirable anymore. I lost weight, built my confidence back up and it stopped being an issue for me.

I guess I've always viewed porn and masturbation as pretty normal to do regularly. Never really thought about it all that much.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

...cheese and rice youre my new best friend...
and as a guy i should maybe just clarify, for me, porn is more of a 'starter' before the actual stuff goes down and such. im pretty sure it's not supposed to be regular though, i mean masturbation is healthy (physically) for blood pressure regulation and junk. im supposed to have a girlfriend, if i literally had a girlfriend i cared about, i wouldnt need porn. not even a sexual relationship. i just know i wouldnt need these things.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

Whew! Glad to know I'm not the only one who sees every woman on the street and wants to play! It has always really bothered me that I get those kinds of impulsive thoughts while trying to be monogamous. Especially since my wife is the 1 time a week if I'm lucky type! Guess I can only hope for the magical 30's. But I have always had the thoughts since I was a kid, and even worse when I'm bored.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

once a week? that's alot. how dare you look at other women yet not like your own. joking. everybody looks at everybody in some fantasty in their head, it's a guy thing. i dont know if women do that, maybe only if theyre unsatisfied.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

Dealing with this has always caused me so much grief and guilt. I live with a spouse who sees porn as straight out cheating. The downside.... she's not very forthcoming herself.
I would do almost anything to make this better. It makes me very sad to think about. I wish my wife was more like some of the women that have posted in this thread.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

looking at porn isnt cheating. and neither are fantasies with some mystery or fictional woman. any woman who says that is a number one **** off to me. if they are ****ed, say "how do i fix that then", or talk to them about fantasies or whatever.
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Dealing with this has always caused me so much grief and guilt. I live with a spouse who sees porn as straight out cheating. The downside.... she's not very forthcoming herself.
I would do almost anything to make this better. It makes me very sad to think about. I wish my wife was more like some of the women that have posted in this thread.
I think it is fairly simple, really. If it does not affect your life's routine, work, intimacy with your wife, etc., there should be no guilt, and you need to talk about it with her. Women have fantasies too (usually about me, I suspect), for God's sake. If porn is taking you away from family time, work, a normal life, etc., it's like any other compulsive behavior; deal with it!
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I think it is fairly simple, really. If it does not affect your life's routine, work, intimacy with your wife, etc., there should be no guilt, and you need to talk about it with her. Women have fantasies too (usually about me, I suspect), for God's sake. If porn is taking you away from family time, work, a normal life, etc., it's like any other compulsive behavior; deal with it!
I do talk with her about it. I wouldn't put it on a forum with out doing that.

It doesn't interfere with my life, work, etc. The exception is how she feels about it. Because of that, I avoid it. I take no issue with fantasy. I think the main thing seems to be the objectification of women. Easy not to see them as people, just t and a.

There seems to be two camps on the subject, for and against. Sometimes I wonder what the majority is.
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Why are you trying to stifle yourself festinelante?Am I misunderstanding something here?
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A few years ago, like in my early 30's, I was always wanting to get laid. I would try to get it every night if I thought he would give it up. If I didn't get it, I would get mad and pout.
I really appreciate you saying this. Why do I feel as though your language has taken on the typical male way of speaking?

It's always great to hear a woman express her sexuality.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

Awe hugs festinalente.I know the damn meds have almost dried up my sex drive its given me a unconquerable appetite however and its making me a fat *****
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