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Old 02-08-11, 11:48 AM
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This website has very simple and helpful advice on dealing with online stalkers: http://www.baddteddy.com/stalkers/stalkers.htm

(Please note that "baddteddy" has lots of other subjects it deals with, some advertising, some not, some tutorial, but the information about stalking is worthwhile. I don't know about the rest.)

More at online dating tips: http://www.onlinedatingsafetytips.co...erstalking.cfm



There's great information out there about staying safe and still enjoying meeting friends. We've had many people on our forum become offline friends and (sometimes) significant others. It's very special to meet someone you wouldn't bump into in your area, and be able to have a relationship.

Caution is needed, not paranoia, and a whole heap of common sense. Stay safe and have fun.
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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

I think this is a great thread and I agree, caution and not paranoia is needed.

There has been just as many false stalking accusations as there has been proper genuine cases of stalking.

Folks should really look up what the current stalking laws in there area are in order to keep themselves safe from a genuine stalker and other folks should get advice on how to protect themselves from false stalking accusations.

I have shared the links on my Facebook page.

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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

It’s always a good idea to post information like that from time to time just to keep everyone informed.
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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

There's a 17 year old that spams emails with insults and threats like threatening me with the law for no reason! Then he cyberstalked me and found out my YouTube account and went to all that effort to annoy me. Also today someone at my school typed my name in Google to find out my accounts on sites to annoy me. Least I haven't had any creepy pedophiles or anything like that.
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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

Stalking is very wrong indeed.

Now if you're worried about people finding out your email, phone number and bank details, send them to me for safe keeping.
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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

I've been stalked a couple of times.

I know you guys are just making jokes, but stalking is actually seriously not funny when it happens to you.
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I've been stalked a couple of times.

I know you guys are just making jokes, but stalking is actually seriously not funny when it happens to you.
It's not funny being stalked and its not funny being accused of it either. But I think its a fact that people are fully aware of.
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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

I wonder what a stalker would think if you just one day said "okay come on out of the bushes, you win, lets be together". Then you counter stalk them.
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Great forum, I like to solve many problems
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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

I've been stalked a couple of times.

I know you guys are just making jokes, but stalking is actually seriously not funny when it happens to you.
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I wonder what a stalker would think if you just one day said "okay come on out of the bushes, you win, lets be together". Then you counter stalk them.
I`ve done that (!)
I wasnt thinking about the possible consequences.
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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

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I think this is a great thread and I agree, caution and not paranoia is needed.

This is very true, however, after being stalked for a long while, or maybe more than once, it's difficult not to become suspicious or even paranoid. For eg my ex bf is very fond of creating fake facebook accounts and email adresses and contacting me via these routes. So it is sometimes hard for me to trust new people, for fear that it may be him. It is paranoid, but very difficult to get past until I know for certain!
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Re: Stopping Online Stalkers

With no intended disrespect for those who have been stalked, does anyone else remember the time when ADHD kids were just brats who liked to day dream, and stalkers were called "secret admirers?"

My heart truly goes out to those who have been victimized on both sides of this issue -- those who live in fear because of someone with bad intentions, and those who have been accused wrongfully because of a lack of social graces. My own daughter is coming to an age where these discussions will be had, how to recognize one from the other.
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